Anna Palin-Swift (MSc BSc PGDip DSA MBACP Relationship Therapist)
Hi, thank you for taking the time to look at my profile. I am an experienced integrative Psychotherapist working in private practice, online and within Relate centres. I have extensive experience helping couples and individuals through Relationship therapy. I am also qualified and specialise in working with sex and porn addiction, both with individual clients or working with addicts and their partners, individually and in couple recovery.
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My approach is an integration of predominantly Psychodynamic and Systemic theories, I also however have training in many areas to give me as many tools as possible to help you. I offer a safe, calm and confidential environment in which we can explore your reasons for seeking therapy and navigate beginning to make positive change and reaching your goals. I am here to support you, to hear your story and use my expertise to help you find the best solution for you, as an individual or as a couple.
I have supported 100's of individuals and couples to work through difficult and often heartbreaking times, I hope I can also help you.
Below are some of the areas I work with :
- Family issues
- Separation and Divorce
- Anxiety and Stress
- Becoming parents
- Changing life stages
- Communication problems
- Compulsive Sexual Behaviour
- Porn addiction
- Sex Addiction
- Partners of individuals with a Sex Addiction
Please give me a call on 07887504753 or send me an enquiry email to firstname.lastname@example.org. I offer face to face counselling in Lowton (Warrington) and Skype and email sessions. I can offer daytime, evening and weekend appointments.
Please read below if you would like to know more about my approaches or a little more about sex addiction and how therapy can help you.
A view of the approaches and services I offer:
We are complex individuals who are build up from our experiences throughout our lives and as such we are all different and experience the same things differently. I believe therefore that one approach to Therapy doesn’t necessarily suit every person seeking support. I therefore work as an integrative therapist, there is a little about what this means below:
Integrative therapy, or integrative counselling is a combined approach to psychotherapy that brings together different elements of specific therapies. Integrative therapists take the view that there is no single approach that can treat each client in all situations. Each person needs to be considered as a whole and counselling techniques must be tailored to their individual needs and personal circumstances.
Integrative counselling posits that there are many ways to explore and understand psychology and behaviour, there is no one approach that can have all of the answers.
Here are some of the theories that I work with.
Psychotherapy/ Psychodynamic Therapy:
The aim of psychodynamic therapy is to bring the unconscious mind into consciousness, helping individuals to unravel, experience and understand their true, deep-rooted feelings in order to resolve them. The theory explains that our unconscious minds tend to hold on to painful feelings and memories, which are too difficult for the conscious mind to process. In order to ensure these memories and experiences do not surface, many people will develop defences, such as denial and projections. According to psychodynamic therapy, these defences will often do more harm than good.
In short- term Psychotherapy, therapists will be an active advocate of change. We will guide the client through the process by applying non-interpretative techniques including reinforcement to be present and to encourage clients to feel . The theory maintains that there are many layers to our psyche and therapists like myself use interventions and techniques to explore these layers.
Systems theory is a study of the complex systems present in nature, science and society, and its framework investigates and describes any group of objects that work together to produce a result.
Systems theory and systemic therapy can be applied to individuals, couples and in a variety of other settings, as it doesn't seek to address people on an individual level and instead focuses on understanding problems in a contextual framework.
Solution-focused therapy :
An approach to psychotherapy based on solution-building rather than problem-solving. Although it acknowledges present problems and past causes, it predominantly explores an individual's current resources and future hopes - helping them to look forward and use their own strengths to achieve their goals.
The techniques of this therapy are often incorporated into other long-term therapy types and effects can be long-lasting. The seven basic philosophies and assumptions are:
- Change is both constant and certain.
- Emphasis on what is changeable and possible.
- Clients must want to change.
- Clients are the experts and outline their own goals.
- Clients have resources and their own strengths to solve and overcome their problems.
- Therapy is short-term.
- Focus on the future - history is not essential.
These concepts are key building blocks in the formation of the solution-focused approach.
Whether you have the odd tiff, full-blown arguments or you have simply stopped having fun - very few relationships exist conflict-free. When this (one of our most important relationships) begins to falter, our health and happiness often suffers. While for many of us our first instinct is to try and work through problems alone, it can be incredibly useful to seek outside help.
One route you may choose to go down is couples counselling - a form of talk therapy designed for those in a relationship.
Are you worried that you or someone you care about may have a sex or porn addiction?
What is Sex Addiction?
Sex Addiction is generally characterised as compulsive thoughts or acts pertaining to sex. masturbation or porn. Like all addictions these behaviours or thoughts progress and escalate over time, as it takes more and more to achieve the “fix” or “high”. With this progression and escalation often comes an increase in the negative impact on the sufferer’s personal and sometimes even professional life.
During sex the human body releases a cocktail of powerful feel good chemicals, which produce a 'high' that can become addictive. Similarly to substance abuse, over time the body will become resistant to these 'highs' and the threshold for what's needed in order to achieve that same buzz increases.
Signs and Symptoms:
- Having frequent, casual sex.
- Having sexual fantasies, behaviours and urges in response to stressful life events.
- Feeling unable to control or reduce your behaviour, despite knowing there may be consequences.
- Persistent pursuit of high risk or potentially destructive behaviour.
- Repetitively engaging in sexual behaviour while disregarding the potential risk for physical or emotional harm to yourself or others.
- Neglecting recreational, occupational and social activities to engage in sexual behaviour.
- Suffering from intense 'highs' and 'lows' in mood surrounding sexual activity.
- Feeling that you need to engage in more and more sexual activity in order to produce the same results.
- Feeling shame and/or guilt after engaging in sexual activity.
Sex Addiction Counselling:
I offer face to face counselling to Addicts, Partners as a couple once through recovery.
In one to one counselling with addicts we will explore whether there is an addiction problem, the severity of the problem, motivation to change these behaviours. We will address underlying causes and help you to find different coping strategies. We will also regularly “check in” to work towards recovery and sobriety.
In one to one counselling with Partners of addicts, I will offer support through this really difficult time, recognising the trauma you are going through. Partner of addicts also often internalise a lot of difficult emotions, shame, guilt, anger and many other intense feelings about the addict, about themselves and about the relationship. At a time when there will already be a lot of strain these feelings can lead relationships into a confused and sometimes volatile place. Ideally, the best setting for a sex addict’s partner to get recovery is in the same place the addict receives it—with a supportive counsellor or psychotherapist trained in the treatment of sexual addiction.
I believe that it is important to work on individual recovery before beginning counselling together as a couple. Allowing the addict to work into recovery and sobriety and partners to have support through this trauma and time to understand some of the confusion of lingering thoughts and emotions. Some of the things that a couple may work through in therapy are:
• Denial and avoidance
• Shame, guilt and embarrassment
• Coming to terms with resentment and anger
• Coping with and working through loss
• How to work toward long-term healing and recovery
• How to integrate recovery with children and the family
• How to rebuild intimacy, trust and healthy sexuality within the partnership
As the betrayed spouse of a sex addict, it is important to remember to be gentle, patient, and forgiving with yourself. Remember, there is no easy or right way for a couple to handle something as emotionally difficult as a sex addiction problem. No one recovers from sex addiction perfectly. However, many couples do work through their troubles, and most couples can stay together and overcome self-destructive habits if both partners are committed to change, seek outside support, and honor a loving appreciation of each other that goes beyond the immediate crisis. Remember, too, that some partners decide the violation they’ve experienced is greater than their desire to remain in the relationship. For them, trust cannot be restored. You’re not a bad person if you choose to leave a sex addicted partner, just as you’re not necessarily wrong if you choose to stay in the relationship. – Robert Weiss
Training, qualifications & experience
- MSc in Psychology
- Post Graduate Diploma RelationshipTherapy
- Certificate in online counselling
- BSc(Dual hons)
- Diploma in working with sex addiction
- Child Safeguarding
- Brief Solution Focused Therapy
I have worked and still work with Relate offering relationship counselling, online counselling support and individual civil Servants support contracts.
Areas of counselling I deal with
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- Fee for Relationship Therapy, individual work £45, per 1 hour session
- Fee for Relationship Therapy, couple work £50, per 1 hour session
- Fee for Sex addiction work £60, per 1 hour session
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Mon-Fri daytime and evening appointment, Saturday morning appointments currently available
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|