Feeling anxious? You are NOT alone. As we enter the new year, there is still a great deal of uncertainty. How do we ensure we don't overthink everything and leave ourselves paralysed with fear? Remember everybody potentially copes differently. If you are looking for help, I can carry out therapy sessions via Zoom / Skype or on the phone. No risk attendance at therapy IS possible. If you prefer, face to face appointments socially -distanced, are now taking place too. I can help you deal with your anxieties better.
ANYONE can feel anxious - and I believe that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness! Need some support? Here's what one of current clients has shared. It's a bit long but worth reading through, as it brought a tear to me eye. I hope I can help you too.
“I remember you asking me why I hadn’t spoken to you sooner, which looking back is obviously because I’m ( I was ) STUBBORN!! I had been struggling to cope for such a long time until I broke and I still thought I could do this alone and not have to burden anyone. Turns out, you were the best person to burden.
When I began speaking to you; only 4 people in the world knew I was poorly, only 3 people knew I didn’t want to live anymore and only 2 people knew to what extent I was having those thoughts - you and I. I had to put all my trust in you as I knew I needed to get better. You didn’t judge me, you didn’t tell me to get up and get on, you listened and questioned my thoughts.
You didn’t say any profound meaning of life statements or crappy quotes like ‘Live Laugh Love’, but you enabled/enable me to just take 5 minutes and breathe.
We speak about so much, things I didn’t realise had made such an impact on how I manage the world or those people in it. We have reset my thinking and started afresh, which is helping me find who I am and not what I am a product of. I’m an ok person really and it’s ok to ask for help and it’s ok to put boundaries in place and ITS OK to put ‘the line’ in place.
These sessions have been far more valuable than any medication. My medication has given me the first solid step on to the ladder but, with your help, I’ve managed to climb out of that dark and miserable hole. No medication in the world can say that on the packet.
The little nuggets of hope you give me make it possible for me to explore the next week feeling empowered. Roger, you have absolutely saved my life.”
Female – 30s (June 2021)
So, talk to me first if you need to. Your task is to find a counsellor that you feel you can trust, who will support you, care for you, but allow you to experience the deep-rooted feelings that may be below the issues you want to discuss initially. Let's see if we can connect in some way, so that I can use my skills to help you help yourself.
Counselling is about helping you cope with the difficulties of real life. Sometimes, no matter who we are, we can all benefit from a listening ear. You are showing strength by looking for help, so let's work together to help reduce your anxiety.
Below you will see a wide range of issues that I, like other counsellors, can help you with, but I have extensive experience of dealing with depression, anxiety, bereavement, bullying, cancer and other life-limiting illness, identity issues, issues at work, and addictions.
In the last three years, I have encountered several people who are struggling with feelings of alienation based upon their sexuality. I would like to offer you a safe space to explore this. I implore you not to suffer in silence. Come to share with me and we can help you make sense of who you are. LGBT+ , or other sexuality - I am here to listen non-judgmentally.
Problems with your relationship? Why not ask your partner about couples counselling? 2 or 3 sessions could make a huge difference to both of your lives. Why live with the anxiety or anger? Find a resolution.
And regardless of your profession, we can all benefit from talking to someone independent. I am currently helping, amongst others - a teacher, engineer, company director, vet, home maker, lorry driver, plumber, social worker, student. We ALL need help sometimes. PLEASE ASK.
I am BUPA registered, so you may be able to claim my fees on your insurance policy.
You DO deserve a better life - email, text, phone or contact through social media TODAY.
Training, qualifications & experience
Certificate in Counselling Skills - Sheffield Hallam University 2007
Advanced Diploma in Counselling - Sheffield Hallam University 2009
Certificate in Coaching and Mentoring - Hull University 2011
Introduction to (Systemic Practice) Couples and Family Therapy - Leeds University 2011
Certificate in Principles of End of Life Care - Rotherham College 2013
Systemic Therapy for Couples seminar - Leeds University 2015
Symptoms and Treatment for Dissociation seminar - Royal College of Psychiatry 2015.
Trauma and the Body (Somatisation and Dissociation) seminar - PODS - 2015
European Symposium on Addictive Disorders seminar- BACP 2016
The Neuroscience of Love, Sex and Attachment conference - College Of Sexual and Relationship Therapists 2016
The Workplace Stress Summit conference - Health and Safety Executive 2017
Families and the Law seminar - College Of Sexual and Relationship Therapists 2017
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, an overview - SDS Training 2019
Humanistic Integrative Psychotherapy College conference 2019
Royal College of Psychiatry Regional Conference - 2019
Neuroscience Spring Conference - Royal College of Psychiatry - 2020
BUPA registered, so you may be able to claim my fees on your insurance policy.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
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Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
"Who are you?" I often ask clients this question and many of them have real difficulty answering. It's strange how we can forget who we are and just "get on with it". Give yourself some time, take stock and you can get better at creating your own happiness, as you begin to recognise who you are and what you want.
Testimonials. A very small selection of what has been said by my clients.
“Made me realise what’s important in life and what’s not… gave me a whole new outlook on life.” Female -30s
“The sessions with Roger have helped me to put my life into some sort of perspective.” Female -40s
“The atmosphere created during the counselling sessions enabled me to talk openly and freely about a number of different issues that I felt unable to talk about elsewhere.” Male – 50s
“I’ve had a dark cloud over me for long enough. “I’m free to fly”.” Female -50s
“Gave me tools to help deal with my situation. Encouraged me to think more positively and take positive actions.” Male – 50s
From £55.00 to £90.00
Concessions offered for
EAP/Health Insurance Providers
I operate a sliding scale of charges, so may ask you to pay a little more dependent on your financial circumstances. If you or partner earn over £80k pa, the charge is £75 per appointment for individual counselling, and £100 for couples counselling.
£55 per session (45 minutes). Concessions for keyworkers, students and the unemployed (£45).
£80 per session for couples counselling (45 minutes).
Home visits not currently taking place but I hope to reintroduce these in the future.
I am available to carry out 1:1 counselling to keep your employees at work, whether in small, medium or large organisations. Counselling can also help facilitate an earlier return to work, following sickness absence related to mental health issues. Please message to arrange a meeting.
£90 per session (45 minutes). 6 sessions for £500 if paid up front.
Monday to Friday daytime and evenings available up to 7pm in Doncaster. Saturday mornings by special arrangement. I aim to arrange first appointment within 3 weeks.
I started seeing people as a volunteer counsellor in 1995, and have been seeing them privately since 2009. It has been challenging at times, but it’s also been a great privilege and hugely satisfying. For me, there is nothing more rewarding than initially meeting someone who is struggling to cope with their emotions, then parting from them after a number of sessions and they are in a stronger place emotionally.
I hope to have a short-term therapeutic relationship with you. Male or female, LGBT+ gender fluid or 'straight ', young or old, black or white, religious or non-religious, British or foreign, we are all having our own journey, and we are a product of our life experiences so far. We have frustrations, obstacles, joys and sorrows.
I hope that in sharing part the journey with me, you will experience more of the beauty of this thing we call life, by truly getting in touch with your feelings, and being honest with yourself.
Pressure of life is taking its strain on many relationships. I am having people call to talk to me about how their partners are behaving (or misbehaving!) Why not use me to create a safe space for both of you to re-connect and clarify what's happening?
Or, are you just anxious and unsure about why? Many, many people are anxious and feel embarrassed about talking to others. Why not start with a stranger and that may make it easier to begin the conversation with others?
And finally.... I would like to repeat that it does takes a good deal of courage to ask for help, so congratulate yourself that you have got this far. If you are still unsure and would just like to ask a couple of questions before you commit to anything, feel free to email or phone me. I will get back to you as quickly as I can.
So take another step - contact me today. Let your new emotional future begin now.
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