I practice as an integrative therapist. Integrative therapy draws from and incorporates different kinds of therapy such as psychodynamic, humanistic and relational therapy. I see real value in the integrative model as I feel that it allows the sessions to adapt and grow around you. It is you, after all, that is the priority of these sessions. Your gender, race, culture, sexuality, class, disability and religion/spirituality all integrate into who you are, and all has importance in the therapy room.
My approach can be boiled down to a central core issue of how we relate: how we relate to ourselves, to others, to our past experiences and to our ever-evolving sense of self. I see our therapeutic relationship as a place where you can explore, question and even make changes to what felt like a fixed way of relating.
Individual therapy is unique to you. You may be feeling stuck and lost in yourself, yet not be able to pinpoint what is wrong. You may be feeling anxious, in a low mood, or have lost your direction. Individual open-ended therapy can offer a supporting, non-judgemental, professional relationship to explore your feelings, thoughts and behaviours to gain a clearer understanding of what you are struggling with and what you need.
Therapy can help to process baggage from the past that is interfering with the present. The therapy space can be a place for you to say the unsayable, to be free to explore what has otherwise felt out of bounds.
I am queer affirmative, so my position is that your sexuality and gender identity is as unique as you are and is something to be cherished. Struggles around our identity and desires can be challenging and painful and the world can unfortunately, be an isolating and shaming environment to be a part of. As a result of growing up in these sometimes hostile surroundings, a range of difficulties can develop later in life such as; difficulties in relating and forming nourishing relationships, feeling isolated and not belonging, feeling shame around aspects of yourself, or a reliance on alcohol and drugs to just be with yourself and others.
Particularly for gay men, the sexual landscape has changed rapidly in the past decade. Advances in sexual health with effective HIV management and PrEP have grown alongside chemsex being more common. In our counselling sessions, you can expect to be listened to empathically and non-judgementally, working with the reality of modern queer life, not at odds with it.
Sex & relationships
My practice takes a sex positive and kink friendly position. Sex positivity holds strong the knowledge that your sexual desires and ways of having (or wanting to have) sex can be a joyous exploration and way of growth. Societal shame around sex has thrown many obstacles in this course, and we unfortunately absorb and internalise some of that shame into our sex and relationships. Sadly, our story of sex is often not one of joy but of struggle, confusion and pain. Difficult and traumatic sexual experiences can hold power over the present and be an obstacle in how you form sexual and loving relationships. I believe that the therapeutic relationship can be an opportunity to heal and to grow into who you really are.
The world of kink and BDSM has often been pathologised in more traditional forms of therapy. I believe that taking the default stance of viewing kinks or fetishes as a signal of something that has gone wrong is not only obsolete but damaging and shaming. The kink world is not without its complexities and risks, but your desires and journey with kink give an insight into who you are as a person, maybe even who you want to be. Our sessions can be a place where you can openly explore and be curious about your kink side.
Loss is an inevitable part of being alive and has a huge impact on all of us. When you lose someone close to you, even though you have an awareness that grief can be a battle, your own grief can be startlingly unfamiliar and scary. It can be alarming to see yourself suddenly not be able to cope with everyday activities or lose meaning in what used to give you so much joy. The loss of someone can even bring back previous losses that occurred many years ago, losses that you thought had settled and been put to rest.
As much as bereavement happens to people all the time, you may feel lonely in your grief. Others around you may not know what to say or what to do. Your work and family commitments may now be at odds with how you feel and what you need. Your bereavement may also come at a time where you were already struggling, and now this has landed on top of that heavyweight. I believe that having a space to explore how you are feeling is crucial during this time. Your grief needs care and attention, and short term therapy (12 sessions) can be very effective in giving you space to feel supported and to heal.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am qualified as an Integrative Counsellor (pgDip) and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I work with strict accordance to the ethical framework of the BACP, one of the main professional organisations that regulate the profession of counselling and psychotherapy.
Alongside my private practice, I work as a counsellor for Wandsworth Bereavement Service providing short-term bereavement counselling, as well as long-term therapy with the Minster Centre Psychotherapy and Counselling Service.
I am a cis-gender man and use the pronouns he/him. I came to be a therapist after a previous career in the art world. I am originally from Wales, and as well as living in other countries, I have called London home for 12 years.
BACP Registered Member 384180
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
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Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
My fee for each session is £60.
Our sessions are 50 minutes long.
I have a number of low cost time slots available, these are typically in off-peak hours (late morning / early afternoon).
When you contact me, we will find time for an initial assessment. This assessment is time for us to get to know each other, and to explore what is bringing you to therapy. It is also an opportunity for you to see if I am the right fit for you.
The cost of the assessment is £60.
After the assessment, we will find a regular time slot that works for you.
Concessions offered for
I am currently conducting sessions online.
My therapy room is located in Walthamstow, London.