About me
Sex can sometimes feel like a taboo topic, making it feel pretty uncomfortable to talk about. In particular, it might feel overwhelming or scary to be vulnerable and share our difficulties surrounding sex. However, the sexual self is unique to each person and evolves through the lifespan. This means that is normal to experience changes, challenges and difficulties connected to intimacy at some point in your life. I aim to provide a supportive environment for you to explore your relationship with sex and find ways to move through feelings of stuckness.
My practice focuses on individual, couple, and multi-partner psychosexual and relationship therapy. This means I have specialised my training, knowledge and experience to support you in these areas. My role is to support you through this process to work towards more fulfilling intimacy and relationships. Psychosexual and relationship therapy is a space to explore your sexual self, your relationships, and how things could change in a supportive and compassionate environment. I believe in a sex positive, empowering framework which recognises the diversity of human sexual expression.
Psychosexual therapy can help in a wide range of areas including:
- Wanting to explore your relationship with sex/sexuality
- Sexual communication
- Navigating what you would like your romantic and erotic encounters to look like
- Early ejaculation (premature ejaculation
- Unreliable erections (erectile dysfunction)
- Loss of desire/libido and differences in desire between partners
- Difficulty reaching orgasm
- Pain during sex (vaginismus, dyspareunia, vulvodynia)
- Compulsive sexual behaviours and your relationship with pornography
- Sexual difficulties arising with chronic health conditions (such as cancer, HIV and STIs and diabetes)
- Life changes and their impact on your sexual self (for example, having children, the peri/menopause)
- Body image and concerns about your genitals
- Achieving your sexual goals
- Feeling anxious/anxiety about sex
- Relationship diversity (such as polyamory and open relationships)
- Making sense of your sexual interests
- Sex and relationships after sexual trauma
I can also work with parents and care givers who are unsure about how to talk to their children about relationships and sex.
My practice seeks to be an inclusive space and is LGBT, kink/BDSM and sex worker friendly.
Training, qualifications & experience
My academic and professional background has focused on sexual health and wellbeing, health education and promotion, relationships and sex education, HIV support, and working with survivors of sexual trauma. I have worked for and volunteered with a range of organisations including NHS Scotland, Renaissance, The STAR Centre (Rape Crisis Scotland), Bright Light (Relationships Scotland) and Restless Development. I am registered with the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and adhere to their ethical framework.
Qualifications:
- MSc in Psychosexual Therapy (Dist) - University of Central Lancashire
- BSc (Hons) Sexual Health Studies (1st) - University of Central Lancashire
- Certificate in Counselling Skills - COSCA
Member organisations
COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.
All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£60.00 - £75.00
When I work
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Please contact me with regards to availability as there can sometimes be flexibility with my schedule.
Further information
We can arrange a free 20 minute Zoom call to meet each other and see if you would like to work together and see if it feels like a good fit for you.
At the start of therapy we will discuss your difficulty and consider what goal you would like to work towards. Depending on your presentation and the goals, we may go through a structured assessment and build a clearer picture of the issue, then develop a plan together for how to work through things. This pathway often involves regular tasks for you to experiment with at home. Alternatively, we may embark on more exploratory work seeking a deeper understanding of yourself. Throughout, I often provide information and education about sex and related topics.
In general, I aim to work with clients on a weekly basis as this supports us to build a therapeutic relationship and sense of momentum. At the moment, I deliver therapy online over Zoom and have availability on Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays.
You can read more or message me through my website: https://bare-conversations.com/ or find me on Instagram @jesshoar
Please feel free to reach out with any questions you may have. I aim to respond within 72 hours.
