Mila Palma MA UKCP & BACP reg. Psychotherapist; Certified EFT Couple Therapist
I've been running TherapyTime, my psychotherapy practice in central London, since 2009 and over the years I developed a particular interest and expertise in working with people who are struggling with relationship problems and associated anxiety, stress and life crises. I offer individual psychotherapy as well as couples therapy.
I’m a relationships expert; the focus of my work has become over the years to help people change the way they relate to each other, to become more emotionally open and authentic. I found that many other psychological problems that people experience (anxiety, stress, panic, lack of meaning, depression) seem to alleviate if not disappear completely once people start having better relationships, not just with their partner (if they have one) but with their friends and family. Many of us grew up thinking that being ‘independent’ was good, and that needing others was not so good, but science (neuroscience in particular) increasingly confirms what John Bowlby (the father of attachment theory) told us a long time ago: we need others to survive. Being dependent on others (being able to lean on others in times of need) is not just ok, but essential for our well-being.
I'm Certified in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ('EFT') and this approach informs my work with couples. It's an effective, evidence based approach designed to help couples overcome conflict and distressing ways of relating by developing a stronger emotional connection (for more detailed descriptions of the approach, you will find a link at the bottom of the page with my articles on the subject). It's a short to medium term approach which works well for most couples and usually produces lasting positive changes in the relationship within 12-20 sessions.
My therapeutic work with individual clients is primarily relational and it draws on existential, humanistic, experiential and attachment theories.
I work with respect and understanding of different cultural backgrounds, ethnicity and sexual orientations and I have experience of working with same sex couples. Depending on the nature of the difficulties experienced, I can work short-term (usually around 12-15 sessions) or in an open-ended way when more in-depth therapeutic work is needed.
Apart from private practice, my past clinical experience from 2006 included working as a psychotherapist and Clinical Team Leader with well-known organisations such as the NHS and BUPA, and a number of London based charities. I’ve been working in private practice since 2008.
I offer sessions to individuals and couples via video-link (usually Skype or FaceTime) when meeting face-to-face at my London practice is not possible.
You'll find more information on my website if needed, or just get in touch!
Training, qualifications & experience
EFT Supervisor Candidate
ICEEFT, Ottawa, Canada
Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist
ICEEFT, Ottawa, Canada
MA in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling
New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, London / Sheffield University
Foundation Certificate in Psychotherapy and Counselling
Regent's School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, London
Registered with UKCP and BACP
Lifetime Member of ICEEFT
(International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples)
Past clinical positions held:
NHS Clinical Team Leader at The Awareness Centre London
Counsellor at the Retail Trust charity, London
Psychotherapist at St. Thomas Hospital, London
Counsellor at BUPA Psychological Services, London
Bereavement Counsellor at Wandsworth Bereavement Service, London
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Mid-life crisis.
- loss of meaning/ lack of direction.
- Fear of ageing and dying.
- Cultural identity issues.
- Sense of isolation and loneliness.
- Psychological support to the LGBTQ community.
- Supporting victims of narcissistic abuse/ partners of people displaying traits of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).
- Vegan issues / trauma induced by animal cruelty/ feeling overwhelmed.
- Maternity issues including expecting and parenting twins and multiples, post-natal depression.
Photos & videos
My fees vary depending on the type of therapy, location and time, please contact me with your requirements for a precise quote.
Clients with private insurance: I am a recognised provider with AXA PPP and Aviva.
- Stopping the negative cycle of protest-withdraw with the help of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
- Stopping the Vicious Cycle of Blaming each Other with the help of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
- How to prepare for couple therapy
- Couple Therapy / Emotions and Reactions That Get Your Relationship Into Trouble: Criticism
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Types of client
Supervision & training
I've been approved by ICEEFT as EFT Supervisor Candidate and I'm therefore able to offer supervision to therapists learning Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.