Mila Palma

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MA, UKCP reg Psychotherapist, Certified EFT Couple Therapist
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Whitstable, Kent, CT5
Available for new clients
Available for new clients

This professional is available for new clients.

About me

Hello and thank you for your interest! What you should really know about me is that I'm very passionate about helping people improve their relationships. The focus of my work, as individual and couple psychotherapist, has become over the years to help people change the way they relate, to become more emotionally open and attuned to themselves and their loved ones.
I found that many other psychological problems that people experience, such as anxiety, stress, panic, lack of meaning, depression, post-traumatic stress, to name a few, seem to alleviate if not disappear completely once people start having better relationships; not just with their partner (if they have one) but with their friends, family, as well as, fundamentally, with themselves.
Many of us grew up thinking that being ‘independent’ was good, and that needing others was not so good, but science (neuroscience in particular) increasingly confirms what John Bowlby (the father of attachment theory, one of my heroes) told us a long time ago: we need others to survive. Being dependent on others (being able to lean on others in times of need) is not just ok, but essential for our well-being!
I'm one of a very limited number of professionals in the UK to be Certified in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and this approach informs my work with couples. EFT is the gold standard of couple therapy, a very effective, evidence-based approach designed to help couples overcome conflict and distressing ways of relating by developing a stronger emotional connection (for more detailed descriptions of the approach, you will find a link at the bottom of the page with my articles on the subject). It's a short to medium term approach which works well for most couples and usually produces lasting positive changes in the relationship within 12-20 sessions.
I also offer Discernment Counselling, a short-term intervention designed for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship. It is particularly aimed at couples where one partner is considering ending the relationship while the other is interested in saving it. This intervention helps couples gain clarity about what steps to take next in their relationship.

My therapeutic work with individual clients is primarily relational and can be described as existential, humanistic and experiential. I am also a Certified EFIT Therapist (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy), a ground-breaking model that originated from Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and adapted its principles for individual therapy, with particularly high success rates in helping clients with depression, anxiety, trauma and relationship problems. 
I work with respect and cultural humility with clients from different cultural backgrounds, ethnicity and sexual orientations.
I have a lot of experience in helping couples in cross-cultural relationships and expats in the UK and abroad.
As a mother of three children, including twins, I’m also well versed in supporting new parents through the inevitable turmoil of this important life transition, as well as supporting couples who started to struggle in their relationship after having children.
You'll find more information about my work on my main website if needed, or just get in touch!

Training, qualifications & experience

Certificate in Clinical Supervision CSTD London

EFT Supervisor Candidate ICEEFT, Ottawa, Canada

Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist ICEEFT, Ottawa, Canada

Certified Emotionally Focused Individual Therapist ICEEFT, Ottawa, Canada

MA in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling
New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, London / Sheffield University

Foundation Certificate in Psychotherapy and Counselling
Regent's School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, London

Magistral Degree in Psychology of the Arts/DAMS 
University of Bologna, Italy

Registered with UKCP and BACP

Lifetime Member of ICEEFT
(International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Ottawa)

Member of British EFT Centre

Past clinical positions held:

  • NHS Clinical Team Leader at The Awareness Centre London
  • Counsellor at the Retail Trust charity, London
  • Psychotherapist at St. Thomas Hospital, London
  • Counsellor at BUPA Psychological Services, London
  • Bereavement Counsellor at Wandsworth Bereavement Service, London

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP)

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UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

UK Council for Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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UK Council for Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Mid-life crisis.
  • loss of meaning/ lack of direction.
  • Fear of ageing and dying.
  • Cultural identity issues.
  • Sense of isolation and loneliness.
  • Supporting victims of narcissistic abuse/ partners of people displaying traits of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).
  • Maternity issues including expecting and parenting twins and multiples, post-natal depression.


£130.00 per session

Health Insurance/EAP

  • Cigna

Additional information

Individual and couple therapy sessions last 50 minutes

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

I work weekdays from 9:30am to 3pm

Whitstable, Kent, CT5

Type of session


Types of client

Adults (25-64)

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I'm particularly interested in working with colleagues and trainees who wish to explore existential and attachment-based perspectives in their work.

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Mila Palma
Mila Palma