What situations cause you to get into a "pre-conflict" mode?

May 18th, 2011 by Steve Earlam MCS (Accd.) Dip HE

Sanford Mabel (1994) developed from research a list of identifiable triggers for anger and aggression, I think that most of them land me in the pre-conflict mode and push my red buttons.

• Interruption of goal-directed behaviour when time is important

•  Experiencing personal degradation or unfair treatment and being   powerless to stop it

•  Being treated unfairly, unkindly or in a prejudicial way, whether or not you are present

•  Being the object of dishonesty or broken promises, being disappointed by others or oneself

•  Having your authority, feelings or property disregarded by others

•  Being ignored or treated badly by a significant other

•  Experiencing harm because of your own negligence towards yourself

•  Being shown by others’ behaviour that they do not care

•  Being the object of verbal or physical assault

•  Being a ‘helpless victim’

Sanford Mabel PhD (1994) Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology.