Weathering the relationship storms for a brighter future
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Graeme Orr MBACP(Accred), UKRCP Reg. Ind. Counsellor
19th December, 20120 Comments
How do you ensure that your relationships can endure the storms that it has to weather through the years? Many challenges are faced by partners today, whether they are financial pressures, career pressures or perhaps the cut and thrust of normal family life. Perhaps the strains are beginning to show; yet, with some basic tips, you can protect your marriage.
It might seem obvious, but keeping the spark alive helps to keep you connected to your partner. Intimate moments like kissing and cuddling on the sofa or holding hands or a massage all help keep the affection in a relationship alive. Intimacy is a key part of any marriage and should always be present helping your emotional attachment to your partner.
Intimacy is part of one of the cornerstones of good relationships: communication. Nothing beats good communication to keep your partner in the loop about your thoughts and feelings. It helps to stop your partner having to guess your motivation or thoughts. Assumption often causes issues and fights, because one partner knows what the other is thinking. Remember that communication is a two way street and almost the more important skill is listening and understanding the thoughts of your partner. Usually good communication is the key to solving problems in any relationship.
Of course, most couples do not get together to work out how to fight well or deal with all the unpleasant things in life. They have, of course, the intention of living and growing together through their lives; perhaps that includes having common interests, like travel or sport. Even where there are not common interests, taking some interest in your partner’s activities helps to develop trust, intimacy and helps you grow as a couple.
Hobbies can also give you a chance to develop your own personal space; having personal space helps the relationship grow as it helps you to value and understand what the relationship does to enhance your life.
All of the above can help couples to develop trust and love for each other; it helps to keep the relationship strong both now and in the future.
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