Counselling offers a unique, caring, non-judgmental, confidential space to focus on you.
As a counselor I work with anxiety, panic, depression, self-criticism, self-confidence, anger, sleep, relationships, grief, life crises, health issues, sexuality, abuse, trauma, trans-generational issues, repeating patterns, dissatisfaction with life, lack of purpose or meaning.
As coach I work with personal effectiveness, visibility, stress, work-life-balance, becoming more strategic, time management, relationships, influencing and negotiating, delegation, dealing with poor performance, bullying, managing upwards, career development, career change, returning from maternity, retirement.
Many of our troubles have their roots in coping mechanisms developed when we were younger (for example criticising ourselves as a way of trying to avoid disapproval from parents). These mechanisms can become stuck patterns limiting our ability to live fully.
Another cause of difficulty is a society or family where expressing, or even feeling emotion is frowned upon as weak or inappropriate. This can leave pain stuck inside us begging to be heard, often accompanied by a sense of shame and aloneness .
Counselling works by exploring and raising our awareness of the patterns, feelings, beliefs and thoughts that drive our behaviour. With more awareness comes more choice over how we deal with situations. Counseling works by learning that we are not alone with our issues and that there are genuine reasons for our troubles. It works by being able to express the pain we are carrying and by learning to develop self-compassion and value ourselves.
We’ll explore your situation, your feelings, your thoughts, wishes and what your body is telling you. We might get creative or playful. We will likely laugh. I’ll be myself in our relationship, not a blank screen or someone who’s ‘sorted’, but another human who also suffers. Mainly I'll listen and ask questions but I'll also share my thoughts, feelings and personal experience when appropriate. We’ll pay attention to our relational dynamics as these will likely shed light on patterns outside therapy.
As counselling is a personal relationship it’s useful to see a few of us until you find someone who feels right. This usually becomes clear in the first meeting. I also offer free telephone consultation before meeting so you can ask questions and get a feel for me. You can also email or text.
I work face to face, online and in nature. I can also visit you if you aren’t mobile.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a BACP Registered counsellor with a diploma in Gestalt psychotherapeutic counselling and an MSc in executive coaching. I have significant training in mindfulness, self-acceptance, self-compassion, mind / body / emotion connection and Buddhist philosophy. I have worked in different mental health settings including a hospital, a GP practice and various counselling organisations.
Before becoming a coach and counselor I spent 20 years leading humanitarian projects with people of different cultures in disadvantaged and war torn parts of the world. I have worked to chief executive and board level. My original training is in civil engineering (BSc) and public health (MSc).
In addition to my life experience and my training as a coach and counselor, I have spent (and continue to spend) many years’ working through my own wounds and patterns. I am passionate about understanding what it is to be human, how we can be our true selves and live to the full from that place. I am committed to my own personal and professional development and continue training at the Pacific Gestalt Institute in Los Angeles and the International Gestalt Institute in Turin. I have fortnightly supervision and weekly therapy. I regularly attend workshops, conferences and retreats. I meditate daily. This all allows me to keep up to date and offer a reflective, ethical practice. For fun I love to spend time in nature with my dog. I'm also learning to sing and play guitar and dabble in art, mosaic and jewelery making.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
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Areas of counselling I deal with
I'm available 7 days a week, daytimes and evenings.