About me
Counselling for anxiety, overthinking, relationships & self-worth
You may look like you’re coping on the outside, but inside, things can feel very different.
Perhaps your mind never seems to switch off. You overthink, worry, second-guess yourself or replay conversations. Maybe you’re struggling in a relationship, feeling disconnected, or finding yourself stuck in the same arguments and patterns.
Perhaps you’ve lost confidence in yourself, say yes when you really want to say no, put everyone else first, or feel exhausted from trying to hold everything together.
Whatever has brought you here, you don’t have to work it all out on your own.
I’m Shirley, an experienced, grounded and relational Counsellor and Mindset Coach. I offer a warm, honest and confidential space where you can talk openly, make sense of what is happening and begin to understand what may be keeping you stuck.
How I can help
I work with individuals and couples around issues including:
Anxiety and overthinking
When your thoughts won’t switch off, you’re constantly worrying, analysing or expecting the worst.
Relationships and couples
Communication difficulties, recurring arguments, emotional distance, loss of connection, trust issues or feeling stuck in familiar patterns.
Self-worth and confidence
Self-doubt, feeling not good enough, comparing yourself to others, seeking approval or struggling to trust your own decisions.
People pleasing and boundaries
Finding it difficult to say no, putting other people’s needs before your own, avoiding conflict or feeling guilty when you do put yourself first.
Burnout and feeling overwhelmed
When you’re exhausted from coping, caring for others or trying to keep everything together.
Loneliness and life transitions
Periods of change, uncertainty or feeling lost when life hasn’t turned out quite as you expected.
My approach
I believe counselling is about more than simply talking about what’s wrong. Together, we can explore what is happening for you, understand the patterns behind it and consider what might need to change.
My approach is warm, practical and relational. I won’t tell you what you should do, and I won’t try to fix you. I’ll listen, help you make sense of what you’re experiencing and, where helpful, gently challenge you to look at things from a different perspective.
My counselling work naturally incorporates mindset, because the way we think about ourselves, other people and our experiences can have a powerful influence on how we feel and behave.
What you can expect from me
I’m warm, honest and down to earth. I’ll listen without judgement, but I’m not afraid to gently challenge you when that could help you move forward. We’ll work at your pace and focus on what matters to you.
You don’t have to be in crisis to seek counselling. Sometimes we simply reach a point where we know something needs to change.
My role is not to tell you how to live your life, but to help you understand yourself, gain clarity and confidence, and find a way forward that feels right for you.
Be heard. Be understood. Be empowered.
Online counselling and where I work
I work with individuals and couples online across the UK and worldwide, and also offer counselling locally in Spain.
I am a qualified and accredited counsellor with the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS).
Taking the first step can feel daunting, particularly when you’re already feeling overwhelmed. You don’t need to have the right words or know exactly what you need before getting in touch.
We can start there.
Your mindset matters…And so do you.
Shirley
Training, qualifications & experience
- CPCAB Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
- Cruse Foundation Certificate in Bereavement Care
- Cruse Certificate in Telephone Counselling
- Certificate in Couples Counselling
- MHFA Adult Mental Health First Aider
- MHFA Youth Mental Health First Aider
- Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training
- The Rewind Technique (IARTT - International Association for Rewind Trauma Therapy)
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Additional Areas of Interest and Support
I also have a particular interest in supporting people navigating:
- Chronic and invisible illnesses, including Fibromyalgia and ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Pregnancy loss, miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal loss
- These experiences can bring deep emotional exhaustion, grief, isolation, identity shifts, and feelings of being misunderstood. My approach offers a grounded, compassionate space to process what you’re carrying at your own pace.
Therapies offered
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Fees
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
Please get in touch to enquire about my current fees.
When I work
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I offer online and telephone sessions so you can be supported wherever in the world you may be!
Further information
All sessions are held online.
You don’t need to attend a therapy room to experience meaningful support, clarity, and change. Online sessions offer the same depth and focus, with the added comfort of being in your own space. Many clients find this helps them open up more easily, and the work is just as effective.
Sessions are 50 minutes and shaped around what you bring each time, working at a pace that feels manageable for you.
If you’re ready to explore what’s been feeling stuck, I’d be glad to hear from you.
