About me
You might look like you’re coping on the outside, but inside, you’re exhausted from trying to hold everything together.
Perhaps you’re anxious, overthinking everything, struggling with your confidence, constantly putting other people first, or finding yourself caught in the same relationship patterns time and time again.
Maybe you’re wondering why you react the way you do, why you can’t seem to say no, or why something that should feel manageable is taking so much out of you.
You’re not failing. There’s usually a reason we develop the patterns we do — and understanding them is often where change begins.
I’m Shirley, an experienced, grounded and relational Counsellor and Mindset Coach. I work online with individuals and couples across the UK and internationally, helping people understand themselves more deeply, feel better within themselves and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
My approach is warm, honest and down-to-earth. I won’t tell you what you should do or offer quick fixes. Instead, I provide a safe space for honest conversations where we can explore what’s really going on beneath the surface.
I work with issues including anxiety, overthinking, low self-worth, people-pleasing, boundaries, relationship difficulties, emotional disconnection, burnout, loneliness, grief and difficult life transitions.
Sometimes we know something needs to change but don’t know how to change it. Sometimes we understand what we’re doing but can’t seem to stop repeating the same patterns. And sometimes we simply need someone outside of our lives to help us see things differently.
This is where my combined approach of counselling and mindset coaching can be particularly helpful. We can explore not only what has happened to you, but how your experiences may have shaped the way you think, feel, behave and relate to others — and then work towards creating different choices and responses.
For couples, I don’t take sides or look for someone to blame. I help you understand the dynamic between you, communicate more openly, reduce emotional reactivity and begin rebuilding connection and understanding.
My work is collaborative and tailored to you. You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what’s wrong, and you certainly don’t need to have all the answers. You don't have to figure it all out alone. Sometimes, having someone alongside you can make all the difference.
You just need to be willing to start.
All sessions are held online, giving you the flexibility, privacy and comfort of talking from wherever you feel most at ease.
If you’re tired of simply coping, repeating the same patterns or putting yourself at the bottom of the list, perhaps it’s time to understand what’s really going on — and begin doing things differently.
Your mindset matters…and so do you.
Training, qualifications & experience
- CPCAB Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
- Cruse Foundation Certificate in Bereavement Care
- Cruse Certificate in Telephone Counselling
- Certificate in Couples Counselling
- MHFA Adult Mental Health First Aider
- MHFA Youth Mental Health First Aider
- Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training
- The Rewind Technique (IARTT - International Association for Rewind Trauma Therapy)
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Additional Areas of Interest and Support
I also have a particular interest in supporting people navigating:
- Chronic and invisible illnesses, including Fibromyalgia and ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Pregnancy loss, miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal loss
- These experiences can bring deep emotional exhaustion, grief, isolation, identity shifts, and feelings of being misunderstood. My approach offers a grounded, compassionate space to process what you’re carrying at your own pace.
Therapies offered
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Fees
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
Please get in touch to enquire about my current fees.
When I work
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I offer online and telephone sessions so you can be supported wherever in the world you may be!
Further information
All sessions are held online.
You don’t need to attend a therapy room to experience meaningful support, clarity, and change. Online sessions offer the same depth and focus, with the added comfort of being in your own space. Many clients find this helps them open up more easily, and the work is just as effective.
Sessions are 50 minutes and shaped around what you bring each time, working at a pace that feels manageable for you.
If you’re ready to explore what’s been feeling stuck, I’d be glad to hear from you.
