Shirley Higham Reg MBACP
"If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If broken by an inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from the inside" - Jim Kwik
I love a good quote, I find they often say enough to reach inside a person and tug at something there which needs a response. You had that feeling ? is there something there that needs you to respond, needs your attention? feeling lost, alone, don't know yourself anymore.. this feeling just won't go away... if anything it keeps getting bigger but you don't know what, or even if you can fix it.
To me, this is what counselling is... you knowing that something just isn't right at this time, and you know that you cant "fix" this one alone.
We talk, it sounds simple and in one respect it is, but in counselling we talk in a different way - and as our professional relationship develops you'll understand what I mean. If you've had counselling before, or if not, the aim of our work together is to give you the chance to find your way through the challenges, to experiment with solutions, maybe take a step back.. but then find your way. And when you find that way, when you "fix" what you feel needs to be fixed, or at least some of it - then our work together has been worth it.
I am a person centred counsellor, I won't pretend I know everything about your challenges, you are the expert on that and what you bring shapes our time together - I will listen so I can learn, encourage, support and through the development of our relationship, enable you to make the changes you want to make, at your own pace without pressure or judgement.
As I said, talking.. it sounds simple. Will your egg be broken by an outside or inside force, that can be up to you...
Training, qualifications & experience
My qualifications to date are
Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills
Bsc (Hons) Behavioural Science
Access to Nursing and Social Work Training
Experience of working in the voluntary sector
In addition to my clients in private practice I have several years experience working with adults and families who have been exposed to a variety of challenging situations that have resulted in them seeking additional support, most recently;
Mosaic II - Here I worked as a volunteer counsellor offering support and stability to adults who were survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
As part of my time with this charity I gained further insight and professional development through attending training on issues surrounding sexual abuse such as;
- Sexual abuse: the impact on family members and survivors
- Sexual Exploitation
- Perpetrators: targeting and grooming
- Perpetrators: how they are managed by the police
- Post Traumatic Stress
- Self Harm and Suicide
- Domestic Violence
- Eating Disorders
- Personality Disorders
- and further training on Generalised Anxiety Disorder
Here I worked in the community with parents who were finding parenting a challenge or who were struggling with issues such as isolation and depression along with support in developing parenting skills such as bonding, nutrition and safeguarding.
As a Registered Member of the BACP (reg no 380428) I work within its ethical guidelines, a part of which being to undertake a minimum of 30 hrs CPD training a year.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic attacks
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Further issues I can support :
The initial consultation is free by phone and takes up to 30 mins
Our sessions then are £40 for up to an hour
Trainee Counsellors £30
Concessions are available, please ask.
I offer short and long term counselling, working with your needs being the priority.
Workshops - costs dependent on individual or organisation, please contact for further information.
I have plenty of experience of developing and delivering workshops to a variety of service users, the most recent of which being Sure Start Children's Centres and in the conference room at my base in Brighouse.
The subjects are varied ranging from anxiety, stress, self esteem to self awareness or assertiveness to name but a few each of which being tailored to suit the organisation or the interest of a particular groups needs.
The workshops are delivered in a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere with lots of participation and activities to embed learning and encourage continuation and further personal development into the future.
I have experience of working with male clients and am aware of the shift in what it means to be a man in todays world and the challenges that presents. I am keen to encourage more men to seek counselling as a means to not only support themselves but to also further reduce stigma and acceptance of counselling as a place for men to learn to thrive. I provide a safe, confidential place for you to openly and honestly talk about what you need to talk about but perhaps have not been able for reasons such as fear, ridicule or just not knowing how. We can find a way, try new things and get you back to being the you you want to be, not who you're expected to be.
Being a Registered Member of the BACP and working within its ethical guidelines also means I am fully insured and attend monthly supervision to support my development and to keep you safe.
I have an enhanced DBS.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Due to the current situation with Coronavirus (Covid-19) I am working via FaceTime or phone. Please contact me for my current availability and I will be as flexible as possible.
Types of client