About me
Hello, I'm Selwyn.
I work with people who are struggling in their relationship with themselves and others. This may show up through intimacy difficulties, shame, attachment wounds, codependency, compulsive behaviours, low self-worth, or a persistent sense of disconnection.
Many of us develop ways of coping that once helped us navigate life's challenges but now leave us feeling stuck, isolated, or unable to fully be ourselves. Therapy offers an opportunity to explore these patterns with curiosity and compassion, creating space for greater awareness, choice, and connection.
I offer a warm, supportive, and non-judgemental environment where you can bring whatever is present for you. My approach is integrative and trauma-informed, drawing on person-centred, relational, attachment-based, psychodynamic, mindfulness, and somatic perspectives. I believe that healing happens through awareness, self-compassion, and authentic connection.
I have a particular interest in relationships, intimacy, attachment, shame, boundaries, codependency, compulsive sexual behaviours, recovery, and personal growth.
Whether you are facing a specific difficulty or simply feel that something in your life needs attention, therapy can provide a space to slow down, reflect, and deepen your understanding of yourself and your relationships.
I offer counselling online and in person and welcome people from all backgrounds and walks of life.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a qualified Integrative Humanistic Counsellor and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP), working within their Ethical Framework.
Over the past three years, I have supported clients through both placement and private practice work. I have experience working with a range of issues including relationship difficulties, intimacy concerns, compulsive behaviours and recovery, shame, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, codependency, trauma, and life transitions.
Alongside my private practice work, I volunteer as a counsellor at St. Barnabas Hospice, Worthing. This experience has deepened my capacity to sit with grief, loss, vulnerability, and the complexities of end-of-life experiences and has further informed my understanding of what it means to support people through profound emotional processes.
Prior to training as a counsellor, I worked as an intimacy and sexuality coach. This experience deepened my understanding of relationships, vulnerability, communication, sexuality, and the challenges many people face in creating meaningful connection with themselves and others.
Alongside my counselling work, I have a longstanding interest in consent, boundaries, and authentic relating. I have attended numerous workshops and trainings in these areas, including work informed by Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and have facilitated workshops exploring consent, communication, boundaries, and relationship dynamics.
I continue to develop my practice through regular supervision, personal therapy, professional development, and ongoing study. Areas of particular interest include attachment, intimacy, trauma-informed practice, mindfulness, somatic awareness, and recovery.
Alongside my professional training, I bring lived experience of recovery, which informs my understanding of change, vulnerability, self-compassion, and the importance of connection.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
compulsive behaviours, intimacy, attachment, shame, connection
Therapies offered
Fees
£75.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
I believe counselling should be as accessible as possible. I offer concessions for students, NHS workers, and people on low incomes, as well as reduced rates for longer-term therapeutic work.
Further information
I believe that many of our difficulties make sense when viewed in the context of our life experiences and relationships. The ways we learn to protect ourselves, seek connection, and navigate vulnerability often continue to shape our lives long after they have stopped serving us.
Rather than seeing people as broken or needing to be fixed, I see therapy as an opportunity to bring awareness and compassion to the patterns that may be causing suffering. Through this process, we can begin to develop new ways of relating to ourselves and others.
Many of the people I work with find themselves caught between a desire for connection and a fear of vulnerability. They may struggle with boundaries, intimacy, trust, self-worth, compulsive behaviours, or expressing their needs within relationships. Therapy can provide a safe and supportive space to explore these challenges at a pace that feels right for you.
Alongside conversation, I may invite awareness of emotions, bodily sensations, and inner experience where appropriate. This can help deepen understanding and support a more integrated relationship with yourself.
Finding the right therapist is important. I offer an initial conversation where we can discuss what brings you to therapy and explore whether working together feels like a good fit.
You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out. Sometimes the first step is simply beginning the conversation.
