Sandra Hayes-Davis
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About me
Why me?
I specialise in helping people with anxiety, low self-esteem and relationships issues and I often find that these go hand in hand. Anxiety and/or low self-esteem often impacts on our relationships and difficulties in our relationships often cause us anxiety and low self-esteem. In addition, there are often underlying factors such as stress, depression, grief and childhood trauma. This list is not exhaustive, and I work holistically with all these issues.
I work in a supportive and facilitative way but can also be direct and provide gentle challenge, working with young people (16+) and adults, individuals, couples and families. I offer both short term (6-8 weeks) solution focused therapy, using CBT and other tools and longer-term therapy. I often find that by exploring the past, we have a better understanding of the present; our emotions, behaviours and relationships, and understanding is often the first step in being able to move forward with a more fulfilling life.
I believe that therapy is about forming a relationship, working with a person you can both trust and feel a connection with is vital. I would also say it is probably the most important element of successful therapy, so I offer a complimentary 15-minute telephone introduction for us to get to know each other. I can answer any questions or fears you may have whilst you decide if I am the right person for you. If after speaking on the phone you decide you’d like to move things forward I offer an initial one off paid, no obligation session, we will be going through some history and the presenting problem. It is also an opportunity to get to know each other a little to see if you feel comfortable with me and want to continue.
Individuals - Anxiety and low Self-esteem
I understand from personal experience how debilitating anxiety and low self-esteem can be. I also know how frustrating it is when someone suggests the common coping strategies, such as square breathing and expecting you to magically feel better.
We are all different and what works for one person may not work for another. If you would like some coping strategies and grounding techniques to help with the physical symptoms of anxiety, I will happily teach you some. More importantly, I will help you explore what may be causing your anxiety and/or low self-esteem, and together we will work in various ways to overcoming this.
Imagine a life without anxiety and/or low self-esteem holding you back. I can help you to achieve that and would be honoured to be a part of that journey.
Individuals - Relationship issues
Our relationships with our family, friends and work colleagues are a hugely important part of our lives. When we are having issues with one of these relationships, it tends to impact on other areas.
Many people come to me with relationship issues difficulties with their relationship with their: spouse/partner, parents, siblings, children, work colleagues or boss, and it’s making them miserable.
We explore these difficulties and what may be causing them so that changes can be made. Whilst we cannot change the way another person behaves and reacts, we can influence these behaviours and responses by adapting how we behave and communicate.
There are often patterns in our relationships, caused by our core beliefs, our behaviours and our communications style. Recognising these patterns is the first step to making changes to break this cycle.
Together we can explore these issues, even if the relationship is in the past, so that you can heal, better understand yourself and possibly the other person. This understanding is the first step in making changes that will improve and strengthen your relationship.
Couples counselling
Many of my clients come to me feeling hopeless, lost in their relationships, unable to move forward or reconnect with their partners. Whatever difficulties you are experiencing in your relationship, whether you’re dealing with intimacy issues, recovering from an affair, or feeling stuck and unable to move forward, I am here to support you.
My role as a couple’s therapist is to remain neutral and provide the right environment for two people to journey together through these difficult times, helping them rebuild their self-esteem and confidence, whilst rediscovering the joy and connection they crave.
Couples and relationship therapy is suitable for any couple, heterosexual or same-sex, or any family, such as mother and daughter.
Where and when
I am easy to get to; I have a comfortable room in Central Eastleigh within a few minutes’ drive from both the M27 and the M3 and a few minute walk from the bus and train stations, and close to local parking.
I predominately work in person, but I also work online via Microsoft Teams.
Therapy is usually weekly, but I understand this does not work for everyone, whether that be timewise or financially, therefore fortnightly is also an option.
I work weekdays and evenings and aim to be as flexible as possible to accommodate those working shifts or from home with varying meeting times.
Please contact me or visit my website for further information. www.sandrahdcounselling.co.uk
Training, qualifications & experience
Couples Counselling Course Advanced Specialist Recognition NCPS (certificate pending)
Diploma in Supervision – Iron Mill College (NCPS accredited course)
Couples and Family Therapy Diploma (CofE)
Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling Practice (AMI Award Level 5)
Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (AMI Award Level 4)
Diploma in Counselling Skills and Theory (AIM Awards Level 4)
The Chrysalis Certificate in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills
AIMS Awards Level 3 Certificate in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills Professional Diploma
Couples and Family Therapy Diploma (CofE)
HACP & Lottie Passell-Syms: The playbook: Couples Therapy
Diploma in Supervision – Iron Mill College (NCPS accredited course)
I am a Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and an Accredited Registered Member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), and work within the BACP’s and NHC’s Ethical Framework for Good Practice.
I am also a member of the Hampshire Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (HACP) and help with the committee.
As part of my commitment to you I have ongoing clinical supervision and regularly attend courses and further training to enhance my knowledge and professionalism with Continued Professional Development.
I am fully insure and hold an Enhanced DBS Certificate.
I volunteered for two years as a counsellor with a charity providing counselling to young people ages 11 – 25 years.
I help train other counsellors by teaching level 5 counselling. I also offer supervision to trainee and qualified counsellors.
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
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The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
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This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
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Fees
£55.00 per session
Free initial telephone session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
Individuals
I offer individual counselling for adults, individuals and couples. This can be time limited sessions (6-12) or for as long as required (open ended).
Each session lasts for 50 minutes, usually at the same time on the same day each week although I may be able to offer some flexibility. I offer both daytime and early evening sessions.
Telephone introduction 15 minutes - complementary
Individual sessions £55.00
I offer concessions for student counsellors, as well as for NHS, emergency services and Military Personnel.
Payment (Cash or bank transfer in advance or at start of session)
Couples and relationship therapy
I offer relationship therapy to adult couples of all ages and genders, as well as family relationships, such as mother/daughter.
Telephone introduction 15 minutes - complementary
Sessions - £80 per hour – (Cash in advance or at start of session)
Block of four hours - £300 – (bank transfer in advance)
Block of six hours- £440 – (bank transfer in advance) Please note: Blocks of sessions are paid in advance and are non-refundable. The time can be spent on a 60-minute session or a longer session. However, if a session finishes early, the remaining time can be ‘banked’ for use in another session.
When I work
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I work 8am - 8pm Monday - Friday.
Further information
Location
My practice is in central Eastleigh.
By train or bus: approximately 10-minute walk from the Eastleigh train station and 8-minute walk from the bus station.
By Car: approximately five-minute drive from both junction 5 of the M27 and junction 13 of the M3 and approximately a 15-minute drive from either Southampton city centre or Winchester.
Parking
Central Eastleigh is permit parking only. However, there are a number of 2 hour bays dotted around the residential streets. There is paid parking close by in the Swan Centre and Hanns way car park, as well as some on street parking in Leigh Road, Market Street and High Street. (free from 6pm) All approximately 4 mins walk.
