My philosophy - 'You're in safe hands'
When you are struggling, hurting, overwhelmed, in despair or perhaps fearful then life maybe difficult. You may not wish to turn to family or friends, therefore counselling could be another option.
You need to know that your counsellor is trustworthy, supportive, professional and empathic.
Pease be reassured that I am trustworthy, supportive, professional and empathic together with providing the much needed, and often absent, hope. I believe in people being able to change and that together, we can move towards you making positive and lasting changes that will enhance your life.
Over the years of seeing many people of different ages, races, sexual orientations and diverse cultural backgrounds; experience has taught me 'one size does not fit all' so I tailor my approach to meet your individual needs. That said, to help you decide whether I am the right counsellor for you, I have briefly summarised my approach below –
- I rarely engage with mechanical techniques. Rather, I take the time to deeply listen, offering you the space to reflect honestly without conditions, expectations or judgement.
- My aim is for you to develop an understanding of your emotions/feelings; this understanding and awareness can support you making changes towards a more satisfying life.
- My approach encourages self-acceptance, self-assurance and self-confidence - essential for feeling better about yourself and your life.
- I foster a relationship of care, support and encouragement - like a nurturing parent, I want the best for you.
Training, qualifications & experience
If you scroll down, you will see a tick list of issues I work with. I felt it important to give more background, which I have described immediately below.
Private Counselling Practice
For almost 20 years I have managed a busy private counselling practice.
I am qualified and experienced in counselling adults, young people, children and couples, and have worked with the following issues -
Feeling lost, with no direction
Anxiety (Frequently related to not living authentically)
Depression (Often connected to not feeling good enough)
Transgender / gender confusion
Transvestism (Not a helpful term!)
Support discovering (re-creating) oneself following coming out
Feelings of violence, anger and/or rage
Illness/fears over illness (real or perceived)
Complexity around sexuality and culture, religion, family, workplace and lifestyle
Working with the LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning) community.
In my private practice, I work flexibly with a couples counselling programme, which includes -
1. Enhancing communication (Especially communicating feelings in a healthy way.)
2 Reconnecting to one another
3. Reintroducing love & adopting more loving behaviour
4. Identifying and addressing influences (negative and positive) on the relationship
5. Reducing unhelpful 'ideals' around how a partner 'should' behave
6. Introducing and exploring the concept of 'love languages'
7. Clearing past experiences that are interacting with relating now
8. Exploring and resolving sexual issues/dissatisfaction
9. Addressing vulnerability
Sometimes, couples see me for support to separate respectfully, with dignity and grace.
I specialise, but not exclusively see same sex couples. (I am experienced and qualified to work with all couples.)
Counselling Young People
I currently work at the University of Surrey as a short-term solution focused counsellor, in the past I worked as a senior counsellor in a sixth form college with experience of the following 'adolescent' issues -
Family problems at home / Divorce or parental separation
Friendship issues (especially related to social media)
'First love' breakup
Anxiety over the future
Feelings of not fitting in
Trouble with individuating (creating their own identity as an independant person separate from their parents)
Self harm/self injury
Feelings of being lost with no future
I established a counselling service in a primary school, once established, I spent a year as a play therapist supporting children between 4 and 7 years old.
I spent 2 years working as a counsellor in primary health care at a GP surgery. In response to NHS expectations I worked short-term in a solution focused way with mild to moderate mental health issues. Typically, these included anxiety, depression and low mood.
As seen below, I am qualified to work with adults, children, young people and couples; face to face or online.
M.A Counselling Children and Young People.
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling Children and Young People.
BSc (Hons) Integrative Counselling.
Diploma in Counselling.
Certificate in Couples Counselling Level 2.
Couples in Conflict.
Introduction to Counselling Couples.
Certificate in Online Counselling.
In addition to being Accredited by the BACP; I am a general member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT). I abide by their code of conduct and I comply with their practice standards.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Work related issues - relationship difficulties with manager, relationship difficulties with staff members and/or employees. Dissatisfaction and disillusionment with job or career, disciplinary procedures and other HR hearings. Promotion/workload problems. Retirement.
Family issues - changes to family constellations, changes to role/s in family, blended/step family issues, new child, divorce or separation, empty nesting, family breakdowns, fear around family breakdown.
Change and Transitions - moving home/area, employment changes, relationship changes, financial changes, role changes, coming out.
Adjustments - Recovery from illness/operation, lifestyle changes, mobility changes.
Loss - loss of a loved one, loss of a pet, loss of identity, loss of libido, loss of attraction to your partner, loss of a limb/body part, loss of established role, loss of purpose, loss of meaning in life, loss of independence, loss of self, loss of focus.
Individual, Young Person or Child - £50.00 per session
Couple £75.00 per session.
I generally work for the standard 50 minute session; although if we feel longer is necessary, we can discuss this further and agree a fee. The first session tends to be slightly longer, as we need to discuss some key points about how we will work together; there is no additional charge for this.
I have a range of weekday appointment times, some during the day and some in the evening - it's best to call me; I am sure we can arrange something convenient to you.
Easily accessible from - Farnborough, Frimley, Frimley Green, Mytchett, Blackwater, Hawley, Camberley.
I am located in Farnborough very close to the Farnborough Gate retail park (Now known as Blackwater Retail Park.), close to the M3 and A331. I am between three train stations, Frimley, Farnborough North and Farnborough Main; there are plenty of bus stops too.
I have a quiet and private therapy room up a flight of stairs, so I apologise, wheelchair access is not possible.
I am a qualified teacher, I wrote and lecture on a BSc (Hons) in Counselling. I have taught counselling, at various different levels since 2008. I frequently guest lecture and run personal development/therapy groups. If you are interested in knowing more about my role as an academic writer or lecturer, please ask.