Lorna Day

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Registered MBACP, MSc, FdA
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Lincoln, Lincolnshire, LN2
Available for new clients
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This professional is available for new clients.

About me


I am an experienced and supportive counsellor offering a non-judgemental space for you to talk about any life or relationship difficulties that are concerning you.  I can do daytime and evening appointments to suit your circumstances and short or long term counselling and psychotherapy.  Counselling is a way of finding out about yourself to help get a better understanding of your feelings and why some relationships or situations may cause you to feel repeatedly upset, angry, depressed, anxious or confused.

I am fully qualified (BACP registered) and I have worked in the NHS for many years counselling people in difficult circumstances (including those living with disability, life-long diseases and cancer) as well as working with individuals wanting to make changes in their day-to-day lives.  Counselling can help with any problem, big or small, allowing you to speak freely and confidentially without fear of causing upset or damage to relationships.  I will meet you for counselling sessions in a large and Covid secure space in my Lincoln home on the gound floor.  The setting is calm and private with off road parking

Many people feel a sense of relief when they can finally understand patterns of behaviour in themselves and others around them.  We will work together to help you find new ways of dealing with whatever it is that troubles you.  I am also a qualified nurse and so have an understanding of the medical issues often associated with unhappiness.  I can help you with feelings related to a number of problems when perhaps you feel you are struggling to cope, but you do not need to have a reason for being unhappy to seek counselling.  Finding out why you have the feelings you do is part of the process.  Come and talk to me and let’s see what we can do about it.

Please feel free to call, text or email me and we can arrange an initial appointment to meet up and talk about how and when we can work together.  I provide a free pre-arranged 20 minutes phone consultation to help you decide whether counselling would be helpful for you.

I aim to make the first contact as easy for you as possible so you can feel supported whatever is on your mind.

How we will work together

Counselling and psychotherapy are bespoke to meet your individual needs whether attending on your own or as a couple.  Don't worry if it is new to you; I will explain what to expect.  We will work in partnership to address whatever it is that has brought you to counselling so that you no longer feel overwhelmed or stuck in painful reaction patterns.  Your mind will begin to clear and allow you to see what is within your control and you will be able to get in touch with what you need and want from life.  Understanding the bigger picture gives us important information that may be difficult to uncover without professional help.

By getting to know each other, I will support you to make any changes you want for yourself.  Change can be bewildering while making for new possibilities.  We will discover what holds you back, how you can do things differently and how to understand yourself better in relation to others.  I work mainly with the ideas of transactional analysis which are easily understood and used widely for individuals, couples and organisations.

Change can just be to feel more comfortable in your relationships or it can be life changing as in giving up an addiction.  I can help with specific problems such as obsessive compulsive disorder.  You will learn to get insight into your thoughts and feel more in control.  See list below for other problems that I can assist with.

Couple counselling

It is normal for couples to experience ups and downs.  This can lead to dissatisfaction with their relationship and make partners question whether they are really suited to each other.  In couple counselling we will get to the heart of how you communicate.  We will find out what is happening in your relationship and I will guide you to open up your communication and increase your confidence in handling conflict.  If necessary, we can even explore the long term future of the relationship honestly and realistically in a way that enables both of you to be heard and without siding with one or the other.

The most important factor that determines the outcome is the willingness of both of you to give it a go.  Couples can get locked in conflicts, either avoiding them or feeling unable to resolve them.  I will help you to move forward and to deal with conflict in a new way to build your relationship.  If the problems you are experiencing relate to a particular issue like parenting or a family crisis, I can facilitate a workable resolution.

Affairs and entanglement

An affair or any kind of infidelity/secrecy in a relationship is a devastating blow to the trust between a couple.  There may be complex reasons why an affair happens rooted in the relationship dynamic, in circumstance or in individual behaviour.  The shock waves from an affair can have lasting impact on a relationship unless the feelings are worked through and made sense of.  Feelings and reactions may be extreme and start a dynamic of blame and mistrust.

For some couples an affair may become a turning point when they begin to understand the factors that brought them to this point.  However painful the experience, it can revive the relationship and make for commitment and willingness to work through difficult feelings.  We may think that we know ourselves and our partner but in reality our motivations may be hidden both from ourselves and from each other.  Perhaps we sabotage love and trust in our relationship in ways we are completely unaware of.  Some relationships become emotional entanglements instead of providing connection and growth.  It is possible to transform an entanglement into a healthy relationship with some dedication and an experienced person present who can help you to recognise the relationship dynamic and why the same negative and distressing feelings occur over and over.  Couples may discover they want to learn to be with each other differently.

I can assist you to explore the minefield of an affair or infidelity safely and to piece your relationship back together.  Even if it becomes apparent that the relationship cannot survive, for most couples it is important to voice the feelings triggered by the betrayal to prevent distrust or guilt from being carried over to a new relationship.  Having a third person in the room can contain the most hurtful reactions.  The betrayer may feel so confused and ashamed that talking to someone seems impossible which can make it difficult to seek help.  I will meet you without judging knowing that an affair can be a big challenge to the happiness of you both.

You are welcome whether heterosexual or LGBTQ+.

What clients have written about me:

"Lorna literally changed my life and for that I cannot thank her enough… I don’t think I would have stuck with counselling if it was not for her and the skills I learnt with her are always going to be with me... For anyone who may be doubting counselling, then I say just try it once with Lorna."

"Good counselling is a rare commodity. I really appreciate your listening skills and offering up concepts, books and thoughts to explore and challenge. The year and a half I spent has really changed my perception of how I think about the dynamic between myself and others. I've never had this platform to grow my life from before. Thank you." [Client identifying on autistic spectrum]

"Lorna has been an amazing support; she has worked with me to address and accept myself and my circumstances, giving me a greater understanding of emotions and reactions. I feel much happier and am very glad that I have persevered with therapy to make such a positive impact. Lorna’s manner and style is very open and warm, and she allowed me to feel very comfortable."

"I would just like to say thank you very much for your support in providing me with the necessary tools to understand the relationship I was in. I was able to find out more about myself, understand my feelings and where the drivers were coming from. Through our discussions, I was able to discover what’s been holding me back and how to combat the feelings I was experiencing. I understand how I can change my life and do things differently. I have obtained a better understanding of my emotions and why my relationship and the situation I was in caused me to feel the way I did, and understand why I remained in my relationship for so long. It was a great relief to be able to use the models that we discussed to support my understanding of how and why I was feeling so low about myself for so long. You put things into perspective providing me with an understanding of the behaviours of others, the impact they were having on me and how to work with them to reduce the impact they were having. I have taken back control of my life avoiding being drawn into the emotional triangle. It is clear to me as each day goes by what I want and need from life."

"You provided me with a safe and non-judgemental environment allowing me to express my emotions and share my experiences with you. This has provided me with a greater understanding of myself and the impact that the behaviours of others can have on us. I'm so glad that I made the call to commence our counselling sessions. There was an instant feeling of release instilling a positive outlook. Our sessions unravelled the turmoil and confusion helping me recognise human behaviours and understand emotional intelligence including my own. I was able to associate with the problems I encountered through your approach and style of delivery. You've provided me with the ability to confront and understand my personal and emotional difficulties using the tools you've provided me with. It's been a great journey and helped me tremendously. Many thanks once again for all of your support and guidance, I feel so much self-belief and self-confidence and have a positive attitude and outlook on life."

"When I first started seeing Lorna, I was a very unhappy, confused woman of 57! Lorna has made me feel happy again for the first time in a long time. I now look forward to the future and feel confident enough to be on my own for the time being. Lorna has helped me to understand all my thoughts and why I've felt the way I'd been feeling. Lorna's interaction and understanding was extremely helpful!"

"Thank you Lorna for everything you did for me. I was struggling with anxiety and I knew that I needed to look at my approach when dealing with stress. I found Lorna’s sessions extremely helpful in helping me identify my issues and in making me look and learn about myself. Lorna’s approach is warm, empathetic and friendly but at the same time helping me to challenge myself. Lorna is a special and very valuable counsellor and I would recommend Lorna to anyone looking for sound and professional counselling."

Enquiries are welcome even if you are unsure whether counselling is for you.  I am happy to talk with you about how it may benefit your particular situation.  Choosing talking therapy as a way forward to clarify your problems can bring about changes to resolve the situation.  I can help you to reassess your life and create the future you want.

- Do get in touch on 07899 755642 or email via blue button above to talk things through with no obligation.

- The initial phone consultation is free and confidential, helping you to decide without inconvenience if you would like to meet.

Training, qualifications & experience

My professional qualifications

  • Registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) for your safety
  • Video and Phone Counselling 2.0 - The Open University & BACP
  • BSY Professional Certificate of Merit in Couple Counselling
  • FdA degree in Humanistic Counselling based on Transactional Analysis - BACP Accred. Middlesex University London
  • Transactional Analysis 101 Certificate
  • Registered Genetic Counsellor* - Professional Standards Authority Accred.
  • Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
  • Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Concepts
  • MSc degree in Research Methods in Health - University of Southampton
  • Registered Nurse*
  • Level 2 Biology Brain and Behaviour - The Open University

*not practising

My experience

I have worked in the NHS for many years, in private practice and with young people who have grown up in difficult circumstances.  I have experience with a wide range of life and relationship problems and have counselled countless people from diverse backgrounds and of different ethnicity and faiths.

Do you or a relative have a long term health condition?
It can be overwhelming to struggle on your own when you or a loved one is affected.  Many conditions cannot be cured and discovering how to live life to the full can transform how you feel.  Together we can make this happen to enable you to realise the best choices for you and your family.

I am able to help you work through a broad spectrum of issues:-

For example, anxiety, depression, ADHD, low self-esteem, family issues, trauma, low self-confidence, bereavement, autism, stress, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), loneliness, social anxiety, LGBTQ+ counselling and neurodiversity.

My personal statement

My commitment to each client or couple is to deliver a combination of empathy and best practice.  Therefore I undertake new learning continually, often studying in depth particular problems that clients present with.  I greatly enjoy relating to people as a foundation for helping them with their problems.  This way I aim to give full attention to you and your specific requirements.  It seems to work well for my clients and is known as the relational style of counselling.  I also keep up to date with developments in counselling and psychotherapy in general, using a variety of methods creatively.  You will experience this simply as talking.  I believe in equality, diversity and inclusion.

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I have longstanding experience of working with families affected by inherited conditions whether personally or within the family.  My role as a counsellor would not be to give medical advice but rather to support you and your family in managing any challenges you face.

Relationship problems

  • Difficulty knowing and getting what you want
  • Strained family dynamics

Health related problems

  • Emotional eating
  • Health anxiety
  • Learning difficulties / diminished mental capacity affecting your family
  • Life altering injury
  • Long term health condition / living with cancer
  • Sleep disturbance
  • Stress induced illness

Problems at work

  • Burnout
  • Conflict in the workplace
  • Dealing with difficult people
  • Fear of failure
  • Feeling undervalued
  • Lack of assertiveness

Life coaching

It is no surprise that at times it can be a troubling event, a new challenge, or some discomfort in your life, that compels you to take the time to discover your inner strengths, your own worth, and what it will take to face these challenges.  Life coaching can help you overcome obstacles to moving forward and tends to be less focused on past experiences and more directed at the future.  As a trained counsellor, I can move between life coaching and counselling and if it seems that difficulties from the past are keeping you stuck we can address those.

These are some examples of difficulties that I have experience with though you are welcome to enquire about specific problems.

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£45.00 - £55.00
Free initial telephone session

Concessions offered for

  • Trainee counsellors

Additional information

Free introduction - 20 minutes

In person:

£45 per session - concession available for students on counselling course

£55 per session

Video or phone:
£45 per session

Sessions last 50 minutes for individuals and 60 minutes for couples

Initial sessions are up to 75 minutes with no additional charge.

For your information, payment is by cash at the appointment or by bank transfer in advance for online / phone bookings.  If you want to know about other ways of paying, just ask when you book.


I aim to respond to messages and emails as soon as I possibly can within 24 hours.

Appointments of longer duration are available.  Extended appointments and costs will be discussed with you to avoid hidden charges.

There is no obligation to continue following a meeting.  It is important that you feel comfortable although getting to know each other can take a few sessions.  In most cases appointments will be weekly but different schedules are also possible.

I can do home visits in certain circumstances, usually when working with an organisation.  The fee for a home visit will be determined individually based on travel time and mileage.

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

MON - FRI 10AM - 9PM by appointment. No additional charge out of hours.

Further information

My practice

I have a dedicated consulting room on the ground floor adapted for COVID-19 standards.  Please do ask me about this to ensure it meets your needs.  There is secure parking.

I hold full indemnity and liability insurance.  I am a registered member of the professional counselling body, the BACP (see above).  You can find me in their Therapist Directory.

I adhere to current data protection legislation, including the General Data Protection Regulation (EU/2016/679) (the GDPR).  I am registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) in keeping with GDPR and have rolling Enhanced Disclosure & Barring Service (DBS) clearance to work with adults and children updated yearly.

Lincoln, Lincolnshire, LN2

Type of session

In person
Home visits

Types of client

Young people (13-17)
Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
Employee Assistance Programme

Key details

DBS check

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Lorna Day
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