Lorna Day Registered MBACP, MSc, FdA
*In view of the evolving coronavirus pandemic, I am reviewing how I am delivering counselling. We can discuss how you would prefer to interact. I am following the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and UK government guidelines for containing the spread of the virus.*
I am an experienced and supportive counsellor offering a non-judgemental space for you to talk about any life or relationship difficulties that are concerning you. I can do daytime, evening and weekend appointments to suit your circumstances and short or long term counselling and psychotherapy. Counselling is a way of finding out about yourself to help get a better understanding of your feelings and why some relationships or situations may cause you to feel repeatedly upset, angry, depressed, anxious or confused.
I am fully qualified (BACP registered) and I have worked in the NHS for many years counselling people in difficult circumstances (including those living with disability, life-long diseases and cancer) as well as working with individuals wanting to make changes in their day-to-day lives. Counselling can help with any problem, big or small, allowing you to speak freely and confidentially without fear of causing upset or damage to relationships. I will meet you for counselling sessions in my home in Albrighton, in a calm and private setting on the ground floor with disabled access and off road parking.
Many people feel a sense of relief when they can finally understand patterns of behaviour in themselves and others around them. We will work together to help you find new ways of dealing with whatever it is that troubles you. I am also a qualified nurse and so have an understanding of the medical issues often associated with unhappiness. I can help you with feelings related to a number of problems when perhaps you feel you are struggling to cope, but you do not need to have a reason for being unhappy to seek counselling. Finding out why you have the feelings you do is part of the process. Come and talk to me and let’s see what we can do about it.
Please feel free to call, text or email me and we can arrange an initial appointment to meet up and talk about how and when we can work together. I provide a free pre-arranged 20 minutes phone / video consultation to help you decide whether counselling would be helpful for you.
I aim to make the first contact as easy for you as possible so you can feel supported whatever is on your mind.
How we will work together
Counselling and psychotherapy are bespoke to meet your individual needs whether attending on your own or as a couple. Don't worry if it is new to you; I will explain what to expect. We will work in partnership to address whatever it is that has brought you to counselling so that you no longer feel overwhelmed or stuck in painful reaction patterns. Your mind will begin to clear and allow you to see what is within your control and you will be able to get in touch with what you need and want from life. Understanding the bigger picture gives us important information that may be difficult to uncover without professional help.
By getting to know each other, I will support you to make any changes you want for yourself. Change can be bewildering while making for new possibilites. We will discover what holds you back, how you can do things differently and how to understand yourself better in relation to others. I work mainly with the ideas of transactional analysis which are easily understood and used widely for individuals, couples and organisations.
Change can just be to feel more comfortable in your relationships or it can be life changing as in giving up an addiction. I can help with specific problems such as obsessive compulsive disorder. You will learn to get insight into your thoughts and feel more in control. See list below for other problems that I can assist with.
It is normal for couples to experience ups and downs. This can lead to dissatisfaction with their relationship and make partners question whether they are really suited to each other. In couple counselling we will get to the heart of how you communicate. We will find out what is happening in your relationship and I will guide you to open up your communication and increase your confidence in handling conflict. If necessary, we can even explore the long term future of the relationship honestly and realistically in a way that enables both of you to be heard and without siding with one or the other.
The most important factor that determines the outcome is the willingness of both of you to give it a go. Couples can get locked in conflicts, either avoiding them or feeling unable to resolve them. I will help you to move forward and to deal with conflict in a new way to build your relationship. If the problems you are experiencing relate to a particular issue like parenting or a family crisis, I can facilitate a workable resolution.
Affairs and entanglement
An affair or any kind of infidelity/secrecy in a relationship is a devastating blow to the trust between a couple. There may be complex reasons why an affair happens rooted in the relationship dynamic, in circumstance or in individual behaviour. The shock waves from an affair can have lasting impact on a relationship unless the feelings are worked through and made sense of. Feelings and reactions may be extreme and start a dynamic of blame and mistrust.
For some couples an affair may become a turning point when they begin to understand the factors that brought them to this point. However painful the experience, it can revive the relationship and make for commitment and willingness to work through difficult feelings. We may think that we know ourselves and our partner but in reality our motivations may be hidden both from ourselves and from each other. Perhaps we sabotage love and trust in our relationship in ways we are completely unaware of. Some relationships become emotional entanglements instead of providing connection and growth. It is possible to transform an entanglement into a healthy relationship with some dedication and an experienced person present who can help you to recognise the relationship dynamic and why the same negative and distressing feelings occur over and over. Couples may discover they want to learn to be with each other differently.
I can assist you to explore the minefield of an affair or infidelity safely and to piece your relationship back together. Even if it becomes apparent that the relationship cannot survive, for most couples it is important to voice the feelings triggered by the betrayal to prevent distrust or guilt from being carried over to a new relationship. Having a third person in the room can contain the most hurtful reactions. The betrayer may feel so confused and ashamed that talking to someone seems impossible which can make it difficult to seek help. I will meet you without judging knowing that an affair can be a big challenge to the happiness of you both.
You are welcome whether heterosexual or LGBT+.
What clients have written about me:
"Lorna literally changed my life and for that I cannot thank her enough… I don’t think I would have stuck with counselling if it was not for her and the skills I learnt with her are always going to be with me... For anyone who may be doubting counselling, then I say just try it once with Lorna."
"I have fully benefited from counselling sessions with Lorna. Lorna actioned my contact promptly and professionally which gave me confidence in her - she was definitely a good match as a counsellor for me! I have gone from a guarded individual who didn’t have the courage to start a family, and didn’t know why, to a first time mum with a loving husband and now 3 months old daughter. As a result of some long term issues and a severely premature birth I also now have more acceptance over the relationship with my mother. Lorna has worked alongside me to enhance my life and for that I am eternally grateful."
"Lorna has been an amazing support; she has worked with me to address and accept myself and my circumstances, giving me a greater understanding of emotions and reactions. I feel much happier and am very glad that I have persevered with therapy to make such a positive impact. Lorna’s manner and style is very open and warm, and she allowed me to feel very comfortable."
"I would just like to say thank you very much for your support in providing me with the necessary tools to understand the relationship I was in. I was able to find out more about myself, understand my feelings and where the drivers were coming from. Through our discussions, I was able to discover what’s been holding me back and how to combat the feelings I was experiencing. I understand how I can change my life and do things differently. I have obtained a better understanding of my emotions and why my relationship and the situation I was in caused me to feel the way I did, and understand why I remained in my relationship for so long. It was a great relief to be able to use the models that we discussed to support my understanding of how and why I was feeling so low about myself for so long. You put things into perspective providing me with an understanding of the behaviours of others, the impact they were having on me and how to work with them to reduce the impact they were having. I have taken back control of my life avoiding being drawn into the emotional triangle. It is clear to me as each day goes by what I want and need from life."
"When I first started seeing Lorna, I was a very unhappy, confused woman of 57! Lorna has made me feel happy again for the first time in a long time. I now look forward to the future and feel confident enough to be on my own for the time being. Lorna has helped me to understand all my thoughts and why I've felt the way I'd been feeling. Lorna's interaction and understanding was extremely helpful!"
"Thank you Lorna for everything you did for me. I was struggling with anxiety and I knew that I needed to look at my approach when dealing with stress. I found Lorna’s sessions extremely helpful in helping me identify my issues and in making me look and learn about myself. Lorna’s approach is warm, empathetic and friendly but at the same time helping me to challenge myself. Lorna is a special and very valuable counsellor and I would recommend Lorna to anyone looking for sound and professional counselling."
Enquiries are welcome even if you are unsure whether counselling is for you. I am happy to talk with you about how it may benefit your particular situation. Choosing talking therapy as a way forward to clarify your problems can bring about changes to resolve the situation. I can help you to reassess your life and create the future you want.
- Do get in touch on 07899 755642 or email via blue button above to talk things through with no obligation.
- The initial phone / video consultation is free and confidential, helping you to decide without inconvenience if you would like to meet.
Training, qualifications & experience
My professional qualifications
- Registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) for your safety
- BSY Professional Certificate of Merit in Couple Counselling
- FdA degree in Humanistic Counselling based on Transactional Analysis - BACP Accred. Middlesex University London
- Transactional Analysis 101 Certificate
- Registered Genetic Counsellor* - Professional Standards Authority Accred.
- Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
- Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Concepts
- MSc degree in Research Methods in Health - University of Southampton
- Registered Nurse*
- Level 2 Biology Brain and Behaviour - The Open University
I have worked in the NHS for many years, in private practice and with young people who have grown up in difficult circumstances. I have experience with a wide range of life and relationship problems and have counselled countless people from diverse backgrounds and of different ethnicities and faiths.
Do you or a relative have a long term health condition?
It can be overwhelming to struggle on your own when you or a loved one is affected. Many conditions cannot be cured and discovering how to live life to the full can transform how you feel. Together we can make this happen to enable you to realise the best choices for you and your family.
I am able to help you work through a broad spectrum of issues:-
Anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder, panic attacks, depression, relationship and family issues, child related issues, separation and divorce, affairs and betrayals, domestic violence, seasonal affective disorder (sad), postnatal depression, addiction(s), abuse, emotional abuse, childhood bullying, attachment disorder, feeling sad, anger management, alcoholism, bereavement, low self-esteem/low confidence, Asperger's syndrome, stress, work related stress, internet addiction, smoking, career and life change adjustments, binge-eating disorder, eating disorders, sex problems, post-traumatic stress disorder (ptsd), narcissistic personality disorder and body dysmorphic disorder.
My personal statement
My commitment to each client or couple is to deliver a combination of empathy and best practice. Therefore I undertake new learning continually, often studying in depth particular problems that clients present with. I greatly enjoy relating to people as a foundation for helping them with their problems. This way I aim to give full attention to you and your specific requirements. It seems to work well for my clients and is known as the relational style of counselling. I also keep up to date with developments in counselling and psychotherapy in general, using a variety of methods creatively. You will experience this simply as talking. I believe in equality, diversity and inclusion.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have longstanding experience of working with families affected by inherited conditions whether personally or within the family. My role as a counsellor would not be to give medical advice but rather to support you and your family in managing any challenges you face.
- Difficulty knowing and getting what you want
- Strained family dynamics
Health related problems
- Emotional eating
- Health anxiety
- Learning difficulties / diminished mental capacity affecting your family
- Life altering injury
- Long term health condition / living with cancer
- Sleep disturbance
- Stress induced illness
Problems at work
- Conflict in the workplace
- Dealing with difficult people
- Fear of failure
- Feeling undervalued
- Lack of assertiveness
It is no surprise that at times it can be a troubling event, a new challenge, or some discomfort in your life, that compels you to take the time to discover your inner strengths, your own worth, and what it will take to face these challenges. Life coaching can help you overcome obstacles to moving forward and tends to be less focused on past experiences and more directed at the future. As a trained counsellor, I can move between life coaching and counselling and if it seems that difficulties from the past are keeping you stuck we can address those.
These are some examples of difficulties that I have experience with though you are welcome to enquire about specific problems.
Free introduction via video or phone - 20 minutes
Face to face:
£45 per session - concession available for students on counselling course (I regret that in person sessions are currently unavailable due to the pandemic. Meetings will take place via online platforms such as Zoom, WhatsApp video or doxy.me in a confidential manner.)
£50 per session
£45 per session
Sessions last 50 minutes for individuals and 60 minutes for couples
Initial sessions are 75 minutes with no additional charge.
For your information, payment is by cash or cheque at the appointment. If you want to know about other ways of paying, just ask when you book.
You will be given an appointment usually within 5 days. Next day requests will be met wherever possible. I aim to respond to messages and emails as soon as I possibly can within 24 hours.
Appointments of longer duration are available. Extended appointments and costs will be discussed with you to avoid hidden charges.
There is no obligation to continue following a meeting. It is important that you feel comfortable although getting to know each other can take a few sessions. In most cases appointments will be weekly but different schedules are also possible.
I can do home visits in certain circumstances, usually when working with an organisation. The fee for a home visit will be determined individually based on travel time and mileage.
Concessions offered for
Local transport links include rail and bus services all within easy walking distance of my practice in the centre of Albrighton.
I have a dedicated consulting room on the ground floor with disabled access. Please do ask me about this to ensure it meets your needs. There is secure parking.
I hold full indemnity and liability insurance. I am a registered member of the professional counselling body, the BACP (see above). You can find me in their Therapist Directory.
I adhere to current data protection legislation, including the General Data Protection Regulation (EU/2016/679) (the GDPR). I am registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) in keeping with GDPR and have rolling Enhanced Disclosure & Barring Service (DBS) clearance to work with adults and children updated yearly.