Hi, my name is Ellie. I am an individual and relationship therapist, specialising in gender, sexual, erotic and relationship diversity (GSERD). Issues that you want to bring to therapy can be focussed on this diversity, but I also work with a range of other issues, and your GSER diversity may not be the primary focus. However, working with someone who is sensitive and alert to the complexities of diverse expression can still be useful, and foster a feeling of safety and understanding in the therapeutic relationship. As a highly trained and experienced Relationship Therapist I focus on all kinds of relationships, and the impact that they can and do have on our lives. As well as sexual and romantic relationships, I work with family relationships, both current and past, friendships, work relationships, and self and body relationships. I also focus on political and cultural influences.
The way I work is mostly psychodynamically and systemically influenced. Sometimes our early relationships can impact upon our adult relationships, and cause difficulties around intimacy and trust. Our relationships can be negatively affected by the expectations of the culture we live in, and wider society. These experiences can often lead to feelings of stress, depression and anxiety. Relationship and family issues of any nature can also impact on our self esteem and cause feelings of sadness and/or loneliness. I offer a safe, supportive environment where we can take the time to explore these and other issues.
My therapy room is in central Bedford. For individuals I offer the option of walking therapy. Walking can be very helpful for people who find it challenging to express themselves, or who find sitting opposite a therapist too intense. Walking and being in nature can be helpful with the flow of thoughts and ideas. We can agree between us how to manage confidentiality whilst in open spaces.
I also offer online therapy. Online therapy can work well for those who are limited as to when they are able to get out of the house, or how far they are able to travel. When doing couples counselling, relationship or family therapy, meeting online can be particularly useful when one or more people are working away, as it allows us to continue to meet every week, and the therapy is therefore less interrupted. I also conduct therapy by phone or by email. Please contact me for specifics of how email therapy is conducted, or alternatively visit my website for a full description(www.elliegoodmantherapy.com)
If you have any questions that you want to ask me please do contact me. If you would find it helpful to have a short phone conversation before you make your first appointment we can arrange that.
Training, qualifications & experience
- MA Relationship Therapy with distinction
- Graduate Certificate in Couples Counselling
- Certificate in Psychodynamic Counselling
- BSc (hons) Psychology
In addition to my private practice, I also worked as a relationship therapist with Relate for a total of 7 years. My approach is integrative (psychodynamic and systemic), and I am interested in the way we are shaped as humans, both by our experiences within our families of origin, and by the cultures in which we are raised, and live in as adults, whether or not these be the same.
Much of my work with couples, and individuals, involves talking about instances of abuse, including emotional abuse, psychological abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse as well as domestic violence. These can all be really difficult experiences to talk about, but I can offer a safe space where we can talk about the implications of abuse and its impact on self esteem and mental health. If abuse is happening in a couple relationship, couples can be seen together or separately, depending on what is required. As with all the therapy I offer, confidentiality and safety will be prioritised.
I have worked for many years to raise awareness of gender, sexual and relationship diversity (also known as LGBTQ+) within my counselling work and other settings, both professional and personal.
I have experience of working with people with dementia, and of the very particular difficulties that people can face in their relationships when a diagnosis of dementia is made.
I also have a lot of experience working with couples from different cultural backgrounds, many of whom do not share a first same language.
Before training as a therapist I worked for 10 years in mental health services, working with people with a variety of mental health difficulties including, but not limited to, anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder, and depression.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Relationship issues and couples counselling, including affairs and betrayal, sex problems, separation and divorce.
- Gender diversity and gender identity including trans, non binary, genderqueer, cisgender, transgender and genderfluid identities.
- Sexual diversity including gay, lesbian, heterosexual, kinky, queer.
- Relationship diversity including polyamory and ethical non-monogamy/consensual non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, open relationships, swinging.
- LGBTQ+ including gender dysphoria
- Kink and BDSM affirmative and knowledgable
- Inter ethnic relationships
- Cultural differences in relationships
- Language differences in relationships
- Work Relationships
- Preparing for leaving home for university (therapy can continue remotely after moving to university)
- Family counselling
- Domestic abuse including emotional, psychological, financial and sexual abuse, and domestic violence.
- Mental health including anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder and depression
An additional profile can be found at www.pinktherapy.com
Follow me on Instagram: @elliegoodmantherapy
- Individuals £50 for 50 minutes
- Relationship £55 for 50 minutes
- Family £60 for 50 minutes
- 20 minute initial consultation via phone FREE
I understand that starting therapy can feel really difficult. Many people decide to attend therapy to deal with really difficult issues, including loneliness, shame, feeling sad, low self esteem. This can feel overwhelming, and can be difficult to talk about. All therapy will be conducted in a sensitive way, and at your pace.
Other issues that people bring to therapy have been kept secret, or at least not spoken openly and freely about. Again these issues will be treated sensitively and with regard for you as an individual, who may or not feel comfortable at first in talking freely about the reasons for attending therapy.
For further information, including frequently asked questions, please visit my website www.elliegoodmantherapy.com