Kai Meredith Goodman

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Tobermory, Argyll And Bute, PA75
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About me

Hi, my name is Kai. I am an individual and relationship therapist, specialising in gender, sexual, erotic and relationship diversity (GSERD), and particularly with people who identify as neurodiverse, including but not limited to autism, ADD, ADHD (whether diagnosed or not). I formerly worked for a mental health charity for ten years, and have  a wealth of experience working with people experiencing anxiety and depression. As a highly trained and experienced Relationship Therapist I focus on all kinds of relationships, and the impact that they can and do have on our lives. As well as sexual and romantic relationships, (including polyamory & consensual non-monogamy) I work with family relationships, both current and past, friendships, work relationships, and self and body relationships. I also focus on political and cultural influences.

The way I work is mostly psychodynamically and systemically influenced. Sometimes our early relationships can impact upon our adult relationships, and cause difficulties around intimacy and trust. Our relationships can be negatively affected by the expectations of the culture we live in, and wider society. These experiences can often lead to feelings of stress, depression and anxiety. Relationship and family issues of any nature can also impact on our self esteem and cause feelings of sadness and/or loneliness. I am also experienced in working with complex post traumatic stress (cptsd) and toxic guilt. A systemic approach works well with both, looking at how our childhood relationships and experiences impact on how we are today, and can be exacerbated by prominent social and cultural messages.

I conduct therapy by video (usually zoom), voicecall, sms, or by email. Please contact me for specifics of how email therapy is conducted, or alternatively visit my website for a full description. 

If you have any questions that you want to ask me please do contact me. 

Training, qualifications & experience

  • MA Relationship Therapy with distinction
  • Graduate Certificate in Couples Counselling
  • Certificate in Psychodynamic Counselling
  • BSc (hons) Psychology

In addition to my private practice, I also worked as a relationship therapist with Relate for a total of 7 years. My approach is integrative (psychodynamic and systemic), and I am interested in the way we are shaped as humans, both by our experiences within our families of origin, and by the cultures in which we are raised, and live in as adults, whether or not these be the same.

Much of my work with couples, and individuals, involves talking  about instances of abuse, including emotional abuse, psychological abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse as well as domestic violence. These can all be really difficult experiences to talk about, but I can offer a safe space where we can talk about the implications of abuse and its impact on self esteem and mental health. If abuse is happening in a couple relationship, couples can be seen together or separately, depending on what is required. As with all the therapy I offer, confidentiality and safety will be prioritised.

I have worked for many years to raise awareness of gender, sexual and relationship  diversity (also known as LGBTQ+) within my counselling work and other settings, both professional and personal.

I have experience of working with people with dementia, and of the very particular difficulties that people can face in their relationships when a diagnosis of dementia is made.

I also have a lot of experience working with couples from different cultural backgrounds, many of whom do not share a first same language.

Before training as a therapist I worked for 10 years in mental health services, working with people with a variety of mental health difficulties including, but not limited to, anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder, and depression.

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

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Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Relationship issues and couples counselling, including affairs and betrayal, sex problems, separation and divorce.
  • Gender diversity and gender identity including trans, non binary, genderqueer, cisgender, transgender and genderfluid identities.
  • Sexual diversity including gay, lesbian, heterosexual, kinky, queer.
  • Relationship diversity including polyamory and ethical non-monogamy/consensual non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, open relationships, swinging.
  • LGBTQ+ including gender dysphoria
  • Kink and BDSM affirmative and knowledgable
  • Inter ethnic relationships
  • Cultural differences in relationships
  • Language differences in relationships
  • Friendships
  • Work Relationships
  • Preparing for leaving home for university (therapy can continue remotely after moving to university)
  • Family counselling
  • Domestic abuse including emotional, psychological, financial and sexual abuse, and domestic violence.
  • Mental health including anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder and depression

An additional profile can be found at www.pinktherapy.com

Follow me on Instagram: @elliegoodmantherapy


£45.00 - £90.00

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

  • Individuals £45-£60 for 50 minutes
  • Relationship £75 for 50 minutes
  • Family £90 for 50 minutes
  • 75 minute sessions are also available

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

Monday - Friday 730am - 330pm

Further information

I understand that starting therapy can feel really difficult. Many people decide to attend therapy to deal with really difficult issues, including loneliness, shame, feeling sad, low self esteem. This can feel overwhelming, and can be difficult to talk about. All therapy will be conducted in a sensitive way, and at your pace.

Other issues that people bring to therapy have been kept secret, or at least not spoken openly and freely about. Again these issues will  be treated sensitively and with regard for you as an individual, who may or not feel comfortable at first in talking freely about the reasons for attending therapy.

For further information, including frequently asked questions, please visit my website.

Tobermory, Argyll And Bute, PA75

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people (13-17)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)

Key details

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