About me
Counselling for men and adults who are tired of trying to handle everything on their own!
Many people come to therapy because they feel stuck in their thoughts, their relationships, or in patterns they can’t seem to shift. You might be carrying anxiety, low self-worth, trauma, or simply a sense that something isn’t quite right. From the outside, everything might look fine, while underneath you could be feeling overwhelmed, angry, disconnected, exhausted or stuck.
You may have spent years getting on with things, keeping busy and trying to manage everything yourself. Perhaps you’re used to being the person who copes, but now you’re wondering whether it’s time to have someone alongside you who really listens, understands, and can help you make sense of what’s going on.
I’m Deke, a qualified integrative counsellor based in Rayleigh and Rochford, offering face-to-face counselling across South East Essex and online therapy throughout the UK.
I offer a warm, grounded and relational space where you don’t have to mask, perform or have everything figured out. My approach is gentle but focused. Together, we can explore what’s happening beneath the surface, understand the roots of your struggles and begin to build a more compassionate relationship with yourself.
I work with men and adults experiencing anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, trauma, burnout and the challenges that can come with neurodiversity, identity and difficult life experiences. You don't need to know exactly what's wrong before you get in touch, and you don't need to be good at talking about your feelings.
Sometimes the hardest part is simply deciding to talk to someone.
You don't have to wait until everything feels unbearable before asking for support.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold a First Class Honours BSc in Counselling from the University of East London. I draw from different approaches thoughtfully, tailoring therapy to each person rather than taking a one‑size‑fits‑all approach.
My clinical experience began during my initial placement, working with a diverse range of clients in weekly, long‑term therapy. Since then, I’ve supported people experiencing anxiety, depression, burnout, low self-esteem, relationship and family difficulties, trauma, bereavement, neurodivergence and the emotional impact of chronic illness.
I’ve completed additional training in trauma and suicide prevention, and I have a particular interest in neurodiversity and mindfulness. My way of working is compassionate, trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming, offering a space where you can show up exactly as you are.
I’m committed to ongoing learning and regular supervision, ensuring my practice remains safe, ethical and responsive.
Most importantly, I believe therapy is deeply human. Having experienced the benefits of therapy myself, I understand the value of feeling truly heard and accepted. I see therapy as a space to explore your experiences, reconnect with yourself and discover the wisdom and strengths you already carry.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£55.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
Not sure if counselling is right for you?
I offer a free 20-minute phone consultation, giving us the opportunity to have an initial conversation, for you to ask any questions, and for you to decide whether working with me feels like the right fit.
**Online sessions: £45**
**In-person sessions: £50**
Concessionary rates are also available.
There’s no obligation to book after the consultation it’s simply an opportunity for us to talk and see whether we feel like the right fit for each other.
To arrange a free consultation or ask any questions, please email at Dctherapist@outlook.com
Further information
I also have an advanced DBS
