About me
I’m a therapist based in Bethnal Green, East London, working primarily with men and LGBTQ+ people. I specialise in addiction and recovery, chemsex, codependency, shame, self-worth, relationship difficulties and the impact of growing up in dysfunctional families.
Alongside my professional training and experience, I bring over 25 years of lived experience of recovery, as well as lived experience of being a gay/queer man and neurodivergence (ASD).
What I Can Help You With
From the outside, your life may look like it’s going well. You’re capable, you function, you get things done.
Inside can feel very different.
You may doubt yourself constantly, worry what other people think, struggle to say no or keep ending up in relationships where your own needs disappear. Or you might find yourselsf working too hard or for too long, feel lonely, stay busy looking after everyone else, or lose yourself in alcohol, cocaine, chemsex, porn or sex.
Or maybe you're not sure what's wrong, just that things aren't working. Whatever it looks like, the patterns can become exhausting. You sense something isn’t working, but changing it is harder than simply deciding to do things differently. Perhaps you don’t even know where to start.
You feel as though everyone else got the handbook on how to do life, and they're out there living their best lives, and try as you might, you can't figure it out.
The Changes You May See
The work we'll do together will help give you an understanding what keeps pulling you back into the same places and finding ways to make changes that feel possible.
That might mean trusting your own judgement more. Setting boundaries without being consumed by guilt. Feeling less responsible for everyone else. Choosing relationships that actually work for you. Or, if alcohol, drugs or sex have become part of the problem, being able to step away from them without constantly breaking promises to yourself.
Much of my work comes back to shame and self-worth: the feeling that you’re somehow not enough, and the ways you’ve learned to cope with that.
How I Work
I'd describe the way I work as "relational". While I do have lots of experience and knowledge, I'm not an expert in an elevated position. First and foremost, I'm a fellow human there to walk alongside you. Therapy with me feels relaxed, once we've established a working relationship, and there's place for laughter and you're welcome to swear like a trucker if you need or want to.
We’ll look at what’s happening in your life now and, where it helps, how those patterns developed. I’m active in the room. I’ll ask questions, offer thoughts and challenge you when I think something is worth looking at more closely. You always remain in charge of where we go, but there may be times when I feel it's beneficial to you for me to be more directive, but I'll never force anything.
The work I do doesn't offer quick fixes - I offer the possibility of lasting change, which comes from working together over the longer term and working at depth., until such a time as you feel you've gained all that you can and our journey is at an end.
If anything you've read here resonates, or you'd like to know more, go ahead and book in an intro call and we can have a 20-minute chat to see whether I may be the right therapist for you.
Training, qualifications & experience
Before moving into private practice, I worked within a drug and alcohol rehab in South London and with substance misuse teams in two London men's prisons. This experience gave me extensive experience supporting people struggling with addiction, recovery, relapse, shame, self-esteem, and the wider emotional and relational difficulties that often accompany substance use.
My work included individual therapy, group therapy, and facilitating psychoeducational workshops on addiction, recovery, mental health, relationships, boundaries, and emotional wellbeing.
Qualifications
• CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Chemsex recovery
Therapies offered
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Fees
£90.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
I charge £90 per 50-minute session. I also offer some concessionary slots - please enquire to find out more.
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