Carol Calder MA Counselling, MBACP
Life can be unpredictable. Things happen, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and anxious. A crisis, a turning point in life, grief, loneliness; all can leave us subject to unbearable emotional states like anxiety, depression and low self-esteem, to name just a few. Indeed, the government has estimated that about half of days taken off work in 2017/18 were due to stress, depression or anxiety.
Often daily life itself can just seem to take its toll and we simply can’t cope but we soldier on, feeling that we 'ought' to be able to. We might feel that that something isn’t quite right in our lives but we can’t put our finger on what it is. We might feel out of sorts, lost and perhaps constrained by others expectations of us. Or we might have some idea what's wrong but haven’t the energy to decide what we could do about it. Relationships can become less satisfying; life can lose its meaning.
I believe that seeing a counsellor should be an accessible and normal routine, just like going to the gym, eating well, and developing your career and personal interests. It would be good to see people access counselling before reaching crisis point, recognising that self-care is, and has to be, a priority if we are to function well for ourselves and our families in today's busy world. However many sessions you might need (and clients testify that even one session can bring enormous relief and clarity) I can offer you the flexibility of short, medium or long term counselling. Some clients try a few sessions, go away to process the work we have done, and then return at a later date. Others prefer to commit to long term weekly sessions. The choice is yours.
I trained as a Person-Centred counsellor, graduating with a Post-graduate Diploma in Counselling from the University of East Anglia, and then continued with my studies to complete my MA in Counselling. The Person-Centred approach means that I believe that therapy is a collaborative process. We will work together, at your own pace, to help you towards a better understanding of yourself, and towards healing.
This approach is based on the premise that we all have within us the resources to heal, and that in a supportive, trusting, therapeutic relationship this tendency can be allowed to flourish. I think that life is infinitely more complex than we often realise and sometimes we need to stop and give some attention to the way that we are living. I will work with you as a whole person, taking into account mind, body and environment, rather than just the difficulty you are currently experiencing.
What to expect
I can offer a quiet and confidential space, in an accepting environment, where you will not be judged or told what to do. It can feel quite refreshing to talk to someone who is not a friend or family member - someone to listen who can help you to hear yourself more clearly. Think of me as an empathic companion or guide on a journey towards finding meaning again.
The first session, for which there is no charge, will be a chance for you to find out more about the way I work, for me to find out a little about you, and for us both to consider how we might work together. If you decide you want to continue we would usually meet at the same time each week. But you will not have to make a decision there and then. Sessions last for an hour.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am currently focusing on my private practice in south west Norwich. Previously I have worked at the Norwich Centre where I counselled adults and young people age 16-18.
My previous experience includes working in a High School in a mentoring capacity with young people aged 11-18. I hold an enhanced DBS Certificate.
I have taught on the Introduction to Counselling skills course at the Norwich Centre and co-facilitated on the Certificate in Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapy course at the University of East Anglia.
Qualifications: BA (Hons) Literature, PG Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling, PG Certificate in Person-Centred Counselling, MA Counselling.
I am passionate about my professional development and keep up to date with new research, for example in the field of both psychotherapy and neuroscience. It is a fast moving field. Recent short trainings I have undertaken are in trauma, addictions, mindfulness and attachment theory.
I am also a Licensed Practitioner for the Understanding Your Eating (UYE) programme http://understandingyoureating.co.uk/index.html which is a focussed intervention aimed at tackling emotional overeating. This is a fantastic 5 week programme, based on current research, delivered as 5 hourly sessions, and aims to help you to understand how you use food now and to help you with strategies to manage your feelings. Please get in touch if you are interested in this.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
I offer an initial consultation for 30 mins which will be free. Sessions may be cancelled without charge but I would ask that you give me 24 hours notice.
Each session lasts for one hour and costs £40. Fees are payable after the session by cash, cheque or bank transfer.
If you think that I might be the right counsellor for you please do get in touch. I look forward to meeting you.