Carla Swan BABCP (Acc), NCS (Acc), CBT. PG DipM, Couples Counselling PG Dip
You can get better, you don't have to feel this way. It's much easier to get help than you may think.
If you hurt yourself, you see a doctor, if you struggle with your feelings, you see a therapist.
Get in touch to book an initial consultancy assessment to make sure you get the right therapist, and we can take it from there.
Through life we all can have periods of personal challenge. When facing times of crisis or on-going negative feelings and behaviours, the support of a professional counsellor and therapist can make all the difference to show that there can be a light at the end of the tunnel.
I can help you with:
- OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- BDD – Body Dysmorphic Disorder
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Bi Polar Disorder
- Panic Disorder
- Psychosis Trichotillomania (Hair Pulling)
- Domestic Violence
- Survival of Sexual Abuse
- Low Self Esteem
- Difficulty in expressing feelings
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What happens in therapy?
My techniques are proven to help my clients as not only am I a specialist in relationship counselling for individuals and couples, but I am also a specialist in working with mental health problems. More often than not, the two are interlinked.
This skill set is a rare mix in a therapist, and means that together, we can look at the bigger picture and not only improve your mental health, but change all areas of your life and how you relate with the people in it; giving you the tools you need to grow and get well.
Perhaps you need help with a relationship? I can help you with:
- Relationship counselling
- Support for your partner
- Managing separation
- Reducing the impact of divorce on children
- Difficulties in sustaining relationships
- Recovering from relationship breakdown
You’re in safe hands
I am able to really understand your issues as not only am I highly qualified to work with pathological disorders, but I am also highly trained in couples counselling and relationship issues, and they very often go hand in hand.
Oxford University (OCTC)
• CBT Post Grad Masters Level Diploma Oxford College
• Post Grad Diploma Relate / University of East London
• Post Grad Certificate Couple Counselling
• Parenting Apart
• Moving Forward from Relationships
• Solution Focused Brief Therapy
• Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
• Domestic Violence Assessment & Intervention
• Mental Health & Couples
• Working Systemically with Sexual Problems
My experience includes working in a number of areas including:
• NHS Secondary Care
• NHS Primary Care (IAPT)
• Social Services
• Milton Keynes psychiatric unit
• Family Law Practices
• Private Healthcare Providers
• Mental Health Charities
• Family Law Solicitors
Here are some quotes from Zoe’s testimonial…
Zoe is a recent client suffering from depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts.
“I didn’t see a future and I didn’t want one; I just wanted it all to stop. To stop thinking, to stop the nightmares, to stop hurting, to stop being.
I was depressed and suffered with debilitating anxiety, where I’d have up to three or four panic attacks a day.
Being in a safe environment and having Carla there to help and understand and, most importantly for me, challenge everything I was thinking and experiencing, has completely changed my life”
One of the first Couples CBT counsellors in the UK
The fact that you’re seeking help, is the first step to getting better and trust me, if you work at it, you will learn so much about yourself and love yourself more than you thought you ever could.
There can come a time in everyone’s life when just coping day to day feels like a struggle. Recognising that some help or support is needed is a critical first step to getting back on an even keel. As an empathetic, accredited and experienced therapist, I will teach you the skills you need to enable you to overcome your problems.
As an accredited member of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapy and a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, I work to the highest standards of professionalism.
Governed by the strict codes of clinical practice, ethics and client confidentiality, my therapeutic approaches are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic, Systemic and Short Term Brief therapy. Working with individuals and couples.
Training, qualifications & experience
Oxford University (OCTC)
- CBT Post Grad Masters Level Diploma
- CBT Post Grad Diploma
Relate / University of East London
- Post Grad Certificate Couple Counselling
- Spreading the Word – David Clark
- Working with psychosis
- Solution Focused Brief Therapy
- Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Domestic Violence Assessment & Intervention
- Mental Health & Couples
- Working Systemically with Sexual Problems
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
Please get in touch to confirm fee's.
Testimonials of my clients...
In April 2016 I fell extremely ill and was in and out of hospital due to an attempt to end my life. I was given various tablets to make me sleep, to calm me down and one to knock me out for 24 hours; these tablets didn’t work and I was erratic and dangerous. I don’t remember much from that weekend, but the parts I do remember are terrifying – it’s a place that I never thought I would get to. I didn’t see a future and I didn’t want one; I just wanted it all to stop: to stop thinking, to stop the nightmares, to stop hurting, to stop being. The only thing more frightening than feeling pain, was feeling nothing at all. I didn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel and the future that I had once been so excited about, stirred no emotions, no feeling. I remember thinking that I couldn’t be helped and that my life was over. It was in that April that I found the strength to go to a doctor and contacted Carla; it was then that things changed.
I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man double my age; he lied about everything: who he was, what he did, where he lived – everything. He was controlling, nasty and hurtful and made me believe that I deserved everything I got. I was also bullied in Sixth Form twice within a couple of months. I was depressed and suffered with debilitating anxiety, where I’d have up to three or four panic attacks a day. When I went to Carla I thought that I would learn how to handle my anxiety and discuss the abusive relationship I had been in, but nothing could have prepared me for the journey that I have embarked on.
It transpired that everything that I was feeling currently, lead way back to childhood trauma and a psychologically abusive relationship with my father, that had shaped my core beliefs and my rules of living. I had convinced myself that I was a horrible person, that brought out the worst in people and everyone would be better off if I was dead. Carla and I started right from the beginning to understand why I felt the way I did; why I had such low self-esteem; why I wanted to die. It was then that everything began to make sense: I remembered and recalled memories that explained so much of my adult behaviour. It was incredibly hard to revisit painful memories and there was so much anger, it physically hurt sometimes, but this was where the magic happened. Carla made me challenge my core beliefs and questioned my unhealthy behaviours, making it clear to me that there was another option; that I didn’t have to self-harm and she gave me the confidence and support to delve deeper into my past and research psychological theories that would help me to understand my relationship with my father and why I was feeling the way I was.
When I began seeing Carla, she told me that I was going to have to work hard – that she couldn’t do the work for me and she was completely right. It’s been a hard journey and therapy isn’t easy, but being in a safe environment and having Carla there to help and understand and, most importantly for me, challenge everything I was thinking and experiencing, has completely changed my life.
I’m pleased to say that after seven months of therapy with Carla, I’ve just had my final session. I see a future and more importantly, I’m excited about it. I have come so far and I feel more secure in myself and who I am, than I ever thought I could be and that’s because of the work I’ve done with Carla. Sometimes, you have to hit rock bottom to start getting back up, but I wouldn’t have gotten to the place I am today, without Carla’s support and work. Don’t get me wrong, I still have my bad days: I still wake up sometimes and can’t bear to face the world, but I now have the strength and the tools to get up, each and every day and know that I am worth the effort and I deserve to live a happy life. Carla has given me the tools to know that if I ever begin to feel the same way I did last year, I will be okay; I know what works for me and that even if I take steps back, I’ll never be in the same place I was in April.
I deferred my entry to Northumbria University to study Fashion Communication for a year, to go travelling and in January I am going to Nepal for four months to teach English to children in Kathmandu Valley. Whilst there, I embark on an eight-day trek of the Himalayas, three days’ white water rafting and Chitwan Safari. I am then travelling to Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand and Bali and will be returning home at the end of July 2017 before heading to University in September. Not bad considering I didn’t see a future, all of seven months ago, hey?
Just remember: their behaviour is a reflection on their character, not on yours and you are so much stronger than you think. The fact that you’re seeking help, is the first step to getting better and trust me, if you work at it, you will learn so much about yourself and love yourself more than you thought you ever could.
“We argued constantly, we never laughed together, it was over. As a last ditch attempt to save the marriage for the children’s sake, we saw Carla. That was five years ago, we are still going strong!” (Catherine and Mark)
“I was in a traumatic car accident, I could not get the images out of my mind, they played over and over. I couldn’t work in the end, I stopped seeing friends and family, life was a nightmare. Carla helped me put this behind me, I am now my old self, enjoying the life I use to”. (Theo)
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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|Other languages:||Work with translators|
Please get in touch to discuss the best place and time for us to meet. I have offices in London, Buckinghamshire and Milton Keynes.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|