Andrew Selway

Perhaps you've reached a point where you know something needs to change.

You may have been feeling anxious, overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted for some time. Perhaps your mind won't switch off, you're overthinking situations, struggling with relationships, carrying pressure from work, questioning your confidence or simply recognising that life no longer feels how you'd like it to.

Or perhaps it's harder to put your finger on. From the outside, life may look much as you'd hoped it would. You know there are things to be grateful for, yet something still feels out of alignment. You're getting through life rather than truly experiencing it, finding it difficult to rest or fully enjoy the moments that matter.

Hi, I'm Andrew (Andy)

I'm an Integrative Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Solution-Focused Hypnotherapist based in Upper Heyford, near Bicester, Oxfordshire, offering counselling in person, online throughout the UK and Walk & Talk Therapy.

Before retraining professionally as a therapist, I spent more than twenty years working in senior HR, leadership, talent acquisition and business roles. Throughout my career, I supported people through periods of pressure, uncertainty, workplace challenges, organisational change and significant life transitions.

That experience taught me something I still see every day in my therapy room: many of the people who appear to be coping the best are often carrying the greatest emotional weight.

Alongside my professional experience, I'm also late-diagnosed ADHD and a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community. Those lived experiences have given me a deeper understanding of identity, difference and what it can feel like to navigate a world that isn't always designed with everyone in mind.

Today, I combine that real-world experience with professional training in counselling, psychotherapy, clinical hypnotherapy and mindfulness.

If you're considering counselling and would like to explore whether working together might be right for you, you're very welcome to arrange an Initial Consultation. It's an opportunity to meet, ask questions and get a feel for how I work, with no obligation to continue.

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A tailored approach to therapy

No two people arrive with exactly the same experiences, goals or reasons for seeking therapy, so I don't believe everybody benefits from exactly the same approach.

As an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist, my work is grounded in Person-Centred Counselling, with the therapeutic relationship forming the foundation of everything we do together.

Depending on your individual needs, I may also draw upon approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), NLP and Mindfulness. Where appropriate and agreed, I may also integrate Clinical Hypnotherapy into our work.

These approaches aren't used as rigid techniques or followed as a formula. Instead, they help inform my understanding of your experiences and allow therapy to be tailored to you as an individual.

I'm an Accredited Professional Member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), and I'm also a registered member of the National Council for Hypnotherapy (NCH), the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC) and the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (AfSFH).

Clients often tell me they value having a space where they don't feel judged, analysed or rushed. A space where they can speak openly, understand themselves more clearly and explore the patterns that may have been influencing their lives for many years.

Reflect • Understand • Move Forward

These three principles sit at the heart of how I work.

Reflect

Life can move quickly. Therapy offers the opportunity to pause, slow things down and talk openly about your experiences, relationships, emotions and the challenges you're facing.

Understand

We are all shaped by our experiences. The relationships we've had, the messages we've received, the beliefs we've developed and the ways we've learnt to protect ourselves all influence how we think, feel and interact with the world around us.

Sometimes those patterns continue to serve us well. Sometimes they quietly begin holding us back. I often think of these influences as invisible threads. Threads that connect our past with our present, shaping the way we see ourselves, relate to others, impacting relationships and respond to life's challenges.

We cannot always change what has happened to us, but we can begin to understand those threads and decide whether they still reflect the person we want to be today.

Move Forward

Greater understanding creates greater choice. Rather than feeling driven by old patterns or automatic reactions, you can begin making decisions that feel more aligned with who you are now and how you want to live your life.

What I can help with

Every person's story is unique.

Some people contact me because they're experiencing a specific mental health difficulty or life event. Others come because they simply don't feel like themselves anymore, or because life doesn't feel quite how they'd like it to, even though everything may appear fine from the outside.

Whatever has brought you here, our work isn't about placing labels on your experiences. It's about understanding what is happening for you, making sense of your experiences and exploring how you would like to move forward.

I regularly support people experiencing:

• Anxiety, Overthinking & High-Functioning Anxiety
• Panic Attacks, Health Anxiety, Medical Anxiety & Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
• Low Mood, Depression, Feeling Stuck & Loss of Direction
• Low Self-Confidence, Low Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Self-Criticism & Negative Self-Talk
• Social Anxiety, Fear of Judgement & Self-Consciousness
• Obsessive Thinking, Reassurance Seeking & Unhelpful Coping Patterns
• Stress, Burnout, Emotional Exhaustion & Difficulty Switching Off
• Sleep Difficulties & Insomnia
• Emotional Overwhelm, Inner Conflict & Feeling Pulled in Different Directions
• Workplace Stress, Leadership Pressures, Redundancy & Work-Life Balance
• Career Counselling & Career Transitions
• Adult ADHD, Late-Diagnosed ADHD, Neurodiversity & Executive Function Challenges
• LGBTQ+ Counselling – Wellbeing, Identity & Relationships
• Men's Sexual Confidence, Performance Anxiety & Intimacy (Non-Medical)
• Impacts of Childhood Bullying, Adult Bullying & the Lasting Impact of Bullying
• Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome & Fear of Getting Things Wrong
• Cancer Diagnosis, Living With and Beyond Cancer, and Support for Family Members and Loved Ones
• Identity, Purpose & Self-Discovery
• Feeling Stuck Despite Looking Like You're Coping
• Carer Support, Caring Responsibilities & Feeling Overwhelmed
• Loneliness, Disconnection & Feeling Isolated
• Relationship Difficulties, Family Issues & Recurring Relationship Patterns
• People-Pleasing, Boundaries & Putting Your Own Needs First
• Grief, Loss & Bereavement
• Life Transitions, Early Adulthood, Divorce, Change, Uncertainty & Retirement 
• The Lasting Impact of Difficult Life Experiences
• Fears & Phobias i.e. flying, driving, public speaking, needles, emetophobia.
• Young Adults (18+) – University, Further Education & Early Career Transitions

If your particular concern isn't listed above, you're still very welcome to get in touch. Many of the people I work with don't arrive with a clear label. They simply know that life no longer feels quite how they'd like it to.

Walk & Talk Therapy

Alongside traditional face-to-face and online counselling sessions, I also offer Walk & Talk Therapy.

Some people find it easier to open up whilst walking side-by-side rather than sitting in a therapy room, whilst also benefiting from movement, fresh air and being outdoors.

Taking the first step

Choosing a counsellor is an important decision.

The Initial Consultation gives us the opportunity to discuss what's been happening, explore what you're hoping to gain from counselling, answer any questions you may have and consider whether my way of working feels like the right fit for you.

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There is no pressure, no obligation and no expectation to commit to anything further. If we both feel we're a good fit, we can then arrange your next appointment.

Alongside my general counselling practice, I have particular interests and experience in supporting the following areas:

Men's Mental Health

I have a particular interest in supporting men's mental health and emotional wellbeing.

Many of the men /males I work with appear to be coping from the outside. They may be managing demanding careers, supporting their families or carrying significant responsibility, whilst privately experiencing anxiety, stress, burnout, emotional exhaustion, low confidence or a growing sense that life no longer feels as it once did.

Therapy provides a confidential, non-judgemental space to step away from those pressures, better understand yourself and explore healthier ways of responding to the challenges you're facing.

Counselling for professionals, business owners and senior leaders

Before retraining as a therapist, I spent more than twenty years working in senior HR, leadership, talent acquisition and business roles. As a result, I understand many of the pressures associated with demanding careers, leadership, decision-making, organisational change and balancing professional responsibility with personal wellbeing.

I regularly work with professionals experiencing workplace stress, burnout, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, overthinking, career transitions, redundancy, leadership pressures and the challenge of maintaining healthy boundaries whilst continuing to perform at a high level.

LGBTQ+ counselling

As a gay man, I understand that sexuality, identity and belonging can influence our experiences in ways that are not always visible to others.

Whilst every person's story is unique, LGBTQ+ counselling can provide a supportive space to explore identity, relationships, self-acceptance, confidence, minority stress, family dynamics, dating, intimacy and the wider emotional experiences that can accompany being part of the LGBTQ+ community.

Men’s Sexual Confidence, Performance & Intimacy

Alongside my counselling work, I also have an interest in supporting aspects of men’s sexual confidence, performance anxiety and intimacy.

This is not specialist sex therapy, and I do not diagnose or medically treat sexual difficulties. Where appropriate, support may be incorporated into wider therapeutic work using Solution-Focused approaches and Clinical Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy.

This may include non-medical erectile difficulties, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, difficulty reaching orgasm, excessive pornography use, unhelpful sexual habits, intimacy concerns, anxiety affecting sexual performance and rebuilding confidence after difficult experiences.

Clients experiencing significant medical concerns, specialist psychosexual difficulties or complex presentations may be advised to seek additional specialist support alongside therapy.

Young Adults, Sixth Form & University Transitions

I also support young adults aged 18+ navigating major life transitions, including university, further education, apprenticeships, early career decisions and moving into greater independence.

This period can bring anxiety, overthinking, social anxiety, low confidence, academic pressure, changing friendships, uncertainty about the future and questions around identity and belonging.

Therapy can provide a steady space to explore these changes, build confidence, understand yourself more clearly and develop resilience during an important stage of life.

Obsessive Thinking & Repetitive Unhelpful Patterns

I can support some of the emotional, behavioural and relational factors that may accompany obsessive thinking, repetitive reassurance seeking and unhelpful coping patterns.

This may include becoming hyper-focused on particular worries, repeatedly checking, researching or seeking reassurance, excessive pornography use, habitual behaviours linked to anxiety or avoidance, and overthinking that begins to interfere with day-to-day life.

Whilst I can support the wider emotional impact these experiences may have, I am not an addiction specialist and may recommend additional specialist support where appropriate.

Available in person in Upper Heyford, near Bicester, Oxfordshire (OX25), online throughout the UK, or via Walk & Talk Therapy in selected Oxfordshire locations.

Initial Consultation

50-60 minutes | £80

Your Initial Consultation is our opportunity to explore what has brought you to therapy, discuss your best hopes for our work together, and ensure therapy feels like the right fit.

Ongoing Sessions

50 minutes | £80 

Many clients choose this option for flexibility.

Three-Session Commitment Block

£225 (£75 per 50-minute session)

Many clients choose this option as it provides consistency, helps build momentum and creates dedicated space to focus on meaningful change.

Walk & Talk Therapy

50-minute session | £100

Combining therapeutic conversation with the benefits of movement and time spent outdoors.

For some people, being side-by-side rather than face-to-face can make it easier to reflect, think clearly and talk openly.

Sessions take place in carefully selected Oxfordshire locations and provide an alternative to the traditional therapy room whilst maintaining the same professional and confidential experience. 

I regularly work with adults from Bicester, Banbury, Kidlington, Woodstock, Oxford and the surrounding Oxfordshire villages, as well as online with clients throughout the UK.

Monday: 10.00am - 2.00pm
Tuesday: 1.00pm - 6.30pm
Wednesday: 10.00am - 2.00pm
Thursday: 1.00pm - 6.30pm
Friday: 10.00am - 2.00pm

Please note 5.30pm appointments are popular and often have a waitlist. Please get in touch to discuss availability.

Additionally, many people who contact me don't necessarily identify with a specific diagnosis. Instead, they often describe themselves as thoughtful, capable and self-aware individuals who have reached a point where overthinking, stress, emotional exhaustion, obsessive thinking or life pressures have simply become too much to carry alone.

I work with adults from all walks of life and am based in Upper Heyford, nr Bicester, Oxfordshire (OX25) and online throughout the UK, and regularly support professionals, senior leaders, managers, business owners, emergency services, men, ADHD and LGBTQ+ clients.

However, you do not need to fit into any particular category to benefit from therapy.

My aim is to provide a calm, approachable and collaborative experience where you can talk openly, gain a deeper understanding of yourself and create meaningful, sustainable change at a pace that feels right for you.