Andrew Selway

A quick note on availability: I currently have a short waiting list for new clients. If my profile resonates with you, I'd still encourage you to get in touch. I'll be happy to let you know the next available Initial Consultation and keep you updated as appointments become available.

Perhaps you've reached a point where you know something needs to change.

You may have been feeling anxious, overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted for some time. Perhaps your mind won't switch off, you're overthinking situations, struggling with relationships, carrying pressure from work, questioning your confidence or simply recognising that life no longer feels how you'd like it to.

Or perhaps it's harder to put your finger on. From the outside, life may look much as you'd hoped it would. You know there are things to be grateful for, yet something still feels out of alignment. You're getting through life rather than truly experiencing it, finding it difficult to switch off, rest or fully enjoy the moments that matter.

Many people initially come to counselling hoping to feel less anxious, more confident or better able to cope. Whilst those are often important goals, I believe lasting change begins with something deeper.

We are all shaped by our experiences.

The relationships we've had, the messages we've received, the beliefs we've developed and the ways we've learnt to protect ourselves all influence how we think, feel and interact with the world around us. Sometimes those patterns continue to serve us well. Sometimes they quietly begin holding us back.

Whether you're experiencing anxiety, stress, low mood, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, work-related stress, ADHD, grief, life transitions or simply feel stuck in patterns you don't fully understand, counselling offers the opportunity to slow down, make sense of your experiences and develop a deeper understanding of yourself.

I often think of these influences as invisible threads. Threads that connect our past with our present, shaping the way we see ourselves, relate to others and respond to life's challenges. We cannot always change what has happened to us, but we can begin to understand those threads and decide whether they still reflect the person we want to be today.

Hi, I'm Andrew (Andy)

I'm an Integrative Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Solution-Focused Hypnotherapist based in Upper Heyford, near Bicester, Oxfordshire, offering counselling in person, online throughout the UK and Walk & Talk Therapy.

Before retraining professionally as a therapist, I spent more than twenty years working in senior HR, leadership, talent acquisition and business roles. Throughout my career I supported people through periods of pressure, uncertainty, workplace challenges, organisational change and significant life transitions. That experience taught me something I still see every day in my therapy room: many of the people who appear to be coping the best are often carrying the greatest emotional weight.

Alongside my professional experience, I'm also late-diagnosed ADHD and a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community. Those lived experiences have given me a deeper understanding of identity, difference and what it can feel like to navigate a world that isn't always designed with everyone in mind.

Today I combine that real-world experience with professional training in counselling, psychotherapy, clinical hypnotherapy and mindfulness.

I'm an Accredited Professional Member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), and I'm also a registered member of the National Council for Hypnotherapy (NCH), the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC) and the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (AfSFH).

Clients often tell me they value having a space where they don't feel judged, analysed or rushed. A space where they can speak openly, understand themselves more clearly and explore the patterns that may have been influencing their lives for many years.

Arrange an Initial Consultation - where we'll explore what has brought you to therapy, discuss what you're hoping to gain from counselling, answer any questions you may have, and consider whether my approach feels like the right fit for you.

Reflect • Understand • Move Forward

These three principles sit at the heart of how I work.

Reflect

Life can move quickly. Therapy offers the opportunity to pause, slow things down and talk openly about your experiences, relationships, emotions and the challenges you're facing.

Understand

Together we'll explore the patterns, beliefs, emotions and ways of relating that may be influencing how you think, feel and respond today. As understanding grows, many people find they begin viewing themselves with greater compassion and clarity.

Move Forward

Greater understanding creates greater choice. Rather than feeling driven by old patterns or automatic reactions, you can begin making decisions that feel more aligned with who you are now and how you want to live your life.

A tailored approach to therapy

No two people arrive with exactly the same experiences, goals or reasons for seeking therapy, so I don't believe everybody benefits from exactly the same approach.

As an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist, my work is grounded in Person-Centred Counselling, with the therapeutic relationship forming the foundation of everything we do together.

Depending on your individual needs, I may also draw upon approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, Transactional Analysis, mindfulness and Solution-Focused Therapy. Where appropriate and agreed, I may also integrate Clinical Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy into our work.

These approaches are not used as rigid techniques or followed as a formula. Instead, they help inform my understanding of your experiences and allow therapy to be tailored to you as an individual.

Ultimately, therapy isn't about fitting neatly into a diagnosis or a particular therapeutic model. It's about developing a deeper understanding of yourself, making sense of your experiences and creating meaningful, lasting change in a way that feels authentic to you.

Walk & talk therapy

Alongside traditional face-to-face and online counselling sessions, I also offer Walk & Talk Therapy. Some people find it easier to open up whilst walking side-by-side rather than sitting in a therapy room, whilst also benefiting from movement, fresh air and being outdoors.

What I can help with

Every person's story is unique.

Some people contact me because they're experiencing a specific mental health difficulty or life event. Others come because they simply don't feel like themselves anymore, can't switch their mind off or have lost the ability to properly enjoy life, even though, on paper, everything seems as though it should be fine.

Whatever has brought you here, our work isn't about placing labels on your experiences. It's about understanding what is happening for you, making sense of your experiences and working together to create meaningful, lasting change.

Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, capable individuals who have spent years trying to understand themselves. They may have read books, listened to podcasts, spoken with friends or tried to work things out alone, yet still find themselves repeating the same patterns or feeling emotionally stuck.

From the outside they often appear resilient, successful and coping well. Privately, however, they may feel overwhelmed, disconnected from themselves or quietly exhausted by the effort of holding everything together

I regularly support people experiencing:

• Anxiety, Overthinking & High-Functioning Anxiety
• Panic Attacks, Health Anxiety, Medical Anxiety & Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
• Social Anxiety & Fear of Judgement
• Obsessive Thinking, Reassurance Seeking & Unhelpful Coping Patterns
• Stress, Burnout, Emotional Exhaustion & Difficulty Switching Off
• Emotional Overwhelm, Inner Conflict & Feeling Pulled in Different Directions
• Low Mood, Depression, Feeling Stuck & Loss of Direction
• Confidence, Low Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Self-Criticism & Negative Self-Talk
• Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome & Fear of Getting Things Wrong
• Identity, Purpose & Self-Discovery
• Feeling Stuck Despite Looking Like You're Coping
• Relationship Difficulties
• Loneliness, Disconnection & Feeling Isolated
• Family Relationships & Recurring Patterns
• People-Pleasing, Boundary Setting & Prioritising Yourself
• Grief, Loss & Bereavement
• Life Transitions, Change, Uncertainty & Early Adulthood
• The Lasting Impact of Difficult Life Experiences
• Fears & Phobias
• Workplace Stress, Work-Related Stress & Burnout
• Career Challenges, Leadership Pressures, Redundancy & Work-Life Balance
• ADHD, Neurodiversity & Executive Function Challenges
• LGBTQ+ Counselling - Wellbeing, Identity & Relationships
• Men's Sexual Confidence, Performance Anxiety & Intimacy (Non-medical)
• Young Adults (18+) – University, Further Education & Early Career Transitions.

Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, capable individuals who have spent years trying to understand themselves. They may have read books, listened to podcasts, spoken with friends or tried to work things out alone, yet still find themselves repeating the same patterns or feeling emotionally stuck.

From the outside they often appear resilient, successful and coping well. Privately, however, they may feel overwhelmed, disconnected from themselves or quietly exhausted by the effort of holding everything together. Therapy offers the opportunity to stop trying to figure everything out alone and instead begin understanding yourself from a different perspective.

If your particular concern isn't listed above, you're still very welcome to get in touch. Many of the people I work with don't arrive with a clear label. They simply know that life no longer feels quite how they'd like it to.

Taking the first step

Choosing a counsellor is an important decision.

The Initial Consultation gives us the opportunity to discuss what's been happening, answer any questions you may have and explore whether my way of working feels like the right fit for you.

There is no pressure, no obligation and no expectation to commit to anything further. If we both feel we're a good fit, we can then arrange your first appointment.

Alongside my general counselling practice, I have particular interests and experience in supporting the following areas:

Men's Mental Health

I have a particular interest in supporting men's mental health and emotional wellbeing.

Many of the men /males I work with appear to be coping from the outside. They may be managing demanding careers, supporting their families or carrying significant responsibility, whilst privately experiencing anxiety, stress, burnout, emotional exhaustion, low confidence or a growing sense that life no longer feels as it once did.

Therapy provides a confidential, non-judgemental space to step away from those pressures, better understand yourself and explore healthier ways of responding to the challenges you're facing.

Professionals, Business Owners, HR & Senior Leaders

Before retraining as a therapist, I spent more than twenty years working in senior HR, leadership, talent acquisition and business roles. As a result, I understand many of the pressures associated with demanding careers, leadership, decision-making, organisational change and balancing professional responsibility with personal wellbeing.

I regularly work with professionals experiencing workplace stress, burnout, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, overthinking, career transitions, redundancy, leadership pressures and the challenge of maintaining healthy boundaries whilst continuing to perform at a high level.

LGBTQ+ counselling

As a gay man, I understand that sexuality, identity and belonging can influence our experiences in ways that are not always visible to others.

Whilst every person's story is unique, LGBTQ+ counselling can provide a supportive space to explore identity, relationships, self-acceptance, confidence, minority stress, family dynamics, dating, intimacy and the wider emotional experiences that can accompany being part of the LGBTQ+ community.

Men’s Sexual Confidence, Performance & Intimacy

Alongside my counselling work, I also have an interest in supporting aspects of men’s sexual confidence, performance anxiety and intimacy.

This is not specialist sex therapy, and I do not diagnose or medically treat sexual difficulties. Where appropriate, support may be incorporated into wider therapeutic work using Solution-Focused approaches and Clinical Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy.

This may include non-medical erectile difficulties, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, difficulty reaching orgasm, excessive pornography use, unhelpful sexual habits, intimacy concerns, anxiety affecting sexual performance and rebuilding confidence after difficult experiences.

Clients experiencing significant medical concerns, specialist psychosexual difficulties or complex presentations may be advised to seek additional specialist support alongside therapy.

Young Adults, Sixth Form & University Transitions

I also support young adults aged 18+ navigating major life transitions, including university, further education, apprenticeships, early career decisions and moving into greater independence.

This period can bring anxiety, overthinking, social anxiety, low confidence, academic pressure, changing friendships, uncertainty about the future and questions around identity and belonging.

Therapy can provide a steady space to explore these changes, build confidence, understand yourself more clearly and develop resilience during an important stage of life.

Obsessive Thinking & Repetitive Unhelpful Patterns

I can support some of the emotional, behavioural and relational factors that may accompany obsessive thinking, repetitive reassurance seeking and unhelpful coping patterns.

This may include becoming hyper-focused on particular worries, repeatedly checking, researching or seeking reassurance, excessive pornography use, habitual behaviours linked to anxiety or avoidance, and overthinking that begins to interfere with day-to-day life.

Whilst I can support the wider emotional impact these experiences may have, I am not an addiction specialist and may recommend additional specialist support where appropriate.

Available in person in Upper Heyford, near Bicester, Oxfordshire (OX25), online throughout the UK, or via Walk & Talk Therapy in selected Oxfordshire locations.

Initial Consultation

50-60 minutes | £80

Your Initial Consultation is our opportunity to explore what has brought you to therapy, discuss your best hopes for our work together, and ensure therapy feels like the right fit.

Ongoing Sessions

50 minutes | £80 

Many clients choose this option for flexibility.

Three-Session Commitment Block

£225 (£75 per 50-minute session)

Many clients choose this option as it provides consistency, helps build momentum and creates dedicated space to focus on meaningful change.

Walk & Talk Therapy
50-minute session | £100

Combining therapeutic conversation with the benefits of movement and time spent outdoors.

For some people, being side-by-side rather than face-to-face can make it easier to reflect, think clearly and talk openly.

Sessions take place in carefully selected Oxfordshire locations and provide an alternative to the traditional therapy room whilst maintaining the same professional and confidential experience. 

I regularly work with adults from Bicester, Banbury, Kidlington, Woodstock, Oxford and the surrounding Oxfordshire villages, as well as online with clients throughout the UK.

Additionally, many people who contact me don't necessarily identify with a specific diagnosis. Instead, they often describe themselves as thoughtful, capable and self-aware individuals who have reached a point where overthinking, stress, emotional exhaustion, obsessive thinking or life pressures have simply become too much to carry alone.

I work with adults from all walks of life and am based in Upper Heyford, nr Bicester, Oxfordshire (OX25) and online throughout the UK, and regularly support professionals, senior leaders, managers, business owners, emergency services, men and LGBTQ+ clients.

However, you do not need to fit into any particular category to benefit from therapy.

My aim is to provide a calm, approachable and collaborative experience where you can talk openly, gain a deeper understanding of yourself and create meaningful, sustainable change at a pace that feels right for you.

I understand that finding the right therapist is important, which is why I offer a free 15-minute introductory call before committing to an Initial Consultation.

This provides an opportunity to briefly discuss what has brought you here, ask any initial questions and explore whether working together feels like the right fit.