About me
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My name is Ade and I am a qualified counsellor, registered with the BACP.
I have experience of working in various fields of mental health. This is an area that I am very passionate about. Being a human in the 21st century, speaking about mental health is not as ‘free’ as it really should be. This is changing, but there is still a way to go.
My purpose is to provide a safe and secure space for you to be able to explore whatever it is you choose to bring. All within a non-judgemental environment set on promoting positive self regard and autonomy.
I work with anxiety, depression, narcissistic personality disorder, co/counter dependency, addiction, bereavement and sexual/emotional/physical traumas. To name a few.
What is “Trauma”?
Trauma is very subjective, and personal, to an individual. One cannot compare traumas, for they are of their own experiencing and consequence to the person that has felt it.
If something has caused you pain or anguish, that is a trauma.
Having had my own, I would walk alongside you as we explore yours…
The Transformative Experience of Therapy: A Journey to Self-Discovery;
By Adrian Felsing, BACP, AP
Therapy is often perceived through a veil of mystery, and many approach it with a mix of curiosity, skepticism, and hope. The reality of therapy, however, is far more personal, intimate, and transformative, than any preconceived notions could possibly capture.
It is a journey - a process that goes beyond just solving problems. It’s about understanding oneself, navigating emotions, and ultimately, finding a path to healing.
Often clients ask me where they should start; my response is always, at the beginning….
**Entering the Therapy Room: The First Step**
The first session of therapy can be daunting. The room, often designed to be comforting, might still feel unfamiliar. The therapist, a stranger at this point, will ask about your life, your challenges, and your reasons for seeking help. It’s natural to feel exposed, vulnerable even. But this initial discomfort is part of the process. Opening up to someone about your innermost thoughts and feelings can be intimidating, but it’s also the first step towards understanding them.
In these early sessions, the therapist is not just listening—they are learning about you, your experiences, and the patterns that have shaped your life. This phase is crucial as it lays the groundwork for the therapeutic relationship, which is one of the most important factors in the success of therapy. It’s a space where you are allowed to be yourself, where your story is heard without judgment, and where personal feelings are validated.
**The Therapeutic Process: Unpacking the Layers**
As therapy progresses, the work begins in earnest.
Therapy is often compared to peeling an onion - each layer represents different experiences, emotions, and beliefs that have accumulated over time.
Some layers may be thin and easy to peel away, whilst others are thick and bring tears to your eyes. The process is not always linear; sometimes, it feels like you’re taking two steps forward and one step back.
But, each session is a step closer to understanding and healing.
During this phase, you might confront parts of yourself or your past that you’ve avoided for years. It can be challenging and emotionally taxing. But this confrontation is where growth happens. It’s in these moments of discomfort that you begin to see patterns in your behaviour, understand your triggers, and learn new ways to cope with life’s challenges.
Therapy often involves learning new skills—whether it’s mindfulness, cognitive restructuring, or communication techniques. These tools are designed to help you manage your thoughts and emotions more effectively. Over time, you might notice that situations that once felt overwhelming are now manageable, that you respond to stressors in healthier ways, and that your relationships improve.
**The Role of the Therapist: A Guide, Not a Saviour**
It’s important to understand that therapists are not there to "fix" you. Rather, they are guides on your journey to self-discovery and healing. They provide a safe and supportive environment, offer insights, and help you navigate your emotions and thoughts. However, the real work of therapy happens within you. The therapist is there to help you find your own answers, to empower you to make changes in your life.
The relationship you build with your therapist is unique. It’s based on trust, mutual respect, and confidentiality. It’s a space where you can express yourself freely, explore your thoughts and feelings, and receive feedback that is both honest and compassionate.
Over time, this relationship can become a powerful tool for change, helping you to see yourself and your life in new and constructive ways.
**The Outcome: A New Perspective**
The outcome of therapy is different for everyone. For some, it’s about resolving specific issues, such as anxiety, depression, addiction issues or relationship problems. For others, it’s about personal growth and self-improvement. What’s common is that therapy offers a new perspective on life. It helps you to understand yourself better, to make peace with your past, and to create a future that is more aligned with your values and desires.
Therapy doesn’t necessarily provide all the answers, but it equips you with the tools to find them. It empowers you to take control of your life, to navigate its challenges with resilience, and to build relationships that are healthier and more fulfilling. The experience of therapy is deeply personal, and its impact can be profound, leading to a more balanced, authentic, and meaningful life.
**Final Thoughts: Embracing the Journey**
The experience of therapy is a journey - sometimes difficult, sometimes surprising, but always worth it.
It is a commitment to yourself, a declaration that your mental and emotional well-being is a priority. Whether you’re just starting out or you’re deep into the process, remember that therapy is not about perfection; it’s about progress.
It’s about becoming the best version of yourself, not by changing who you are, but by understanding and embracing who ‘you’ are.
In the end, therapy is not just about healing - it’s about growth, self-discovery, and creating a life that truly reflects the person you always have been, but had lost for some time.
“It’s a journey worth taking.”
Training, qualifications & experience
Degree PCC - University of Brighton
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£60.00 - £80.00
Additional information
Face to Face/Walk & Talk: £70 per session
Online/Telephone: £60 per session
Couples: £80 per session
Cancellation policy: Discussed in first session.
When I work
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Do get in touch - other appointments can be available.
Further information
Having had formal training and it being invaluable in my field of practice, for me, there is no comparison to lived experience.
I have a wealth of lived experience and am able to truly empathise with a wide breadth of issues. Give me a call, we can discuss yours and you could then assess whether you feel that I would be the right therapist for you.
After all, YOU are the most important person in the room.
