Elaine McKenzie

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MA Psychoanalytic Studies BACP accredited, UKCP registered.
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Beckenham, Kent, BR3
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About me

2023 Has flown by Christmas and 2024 has arrived!   Are you managing to keep afloat?.  The day's are short and the night's are long, 'conflict' all around appears to be gaining pace?

Welcome to my page, Elaine, she/her - I wonder what has brought you?  Life continues to be 'uncertain' and difficult to manage -  my understanding is that 'we humans'  like to feel in control ?.  However,  it  looks like  the name of the game is uncertainty, the only certainty we have right now? 

Poly crises?  The ongoing war in the Ukraine grinds on and now the outbreak of war between Israel and Palestine creating unspeakable violence perpetuating hatred rather than effecting resolution. (We need Poly Solutions?).   'Man's inhumanity to man' all in the quest for power and domination manifesting chaos and a multitude of catastrophic consequences for individuals, families, children - the most vulnerable.  The global impact cannot be determined, I am deeply affected by the unnecessary pain that is being inflicted upon communities and I wonder how much angst is vicariously transmitted throughout societies undermining the need for belonging and spiritual well-being.  

‘Let’s get Brexit done – Boris and Liz are long gone leaving a 'legacy', a huge inquiry into what went wrong ???  Now it's Rishi's turn, confusion and anxiety prevails.  The cost of living, inflation hiking the price of but not for long?  Food and  energy bills exacerbating the uncertainty within society of financial insecurity putting family budgets under greater pressure and creating greater divisions within communities.  

Education - the future of our young ones,  anger, confusion and increasing adolescent anxiety, a difficult developmental period anyway, trying to establish an identity in such a state of societal flux.   The potential for self-harm or 'other acting' out behaviours by internalising worries and pushing down, de-pressing, feelings as a way of keeping going are increasing exponentially.

The COVID-19 and Omicron viruses continue to mutate, society is presented with ever more unknowns and hurdles to overcome in the quest to manage life on life’s terms.  

Sometimes we need a hand to navigate life's unmanageability, as Sigmund Freud suggested therapy is 'a talking cure',   there is  nothing to lose and everything to gain, sharing can take the power out of situations that may be baffling right now and take on new perspectives.

During the recent past society has changed how our lives are viewed and also, how we, as people, interact with each other.   The need to find ever more creative ways to negotiate and adapt to a new and evolving way of living, work life and communication in order to survive and meet such challenges further aggravated by the extreme pressures and divides arising from societal inequality.  Such drastic and uninvited change is manifesting in increased anxiety affecting one's whole being, physically, mentally and emotionally - a sense of impossibility which runs through Samuel Becket's plays, 'I can't go on - I must go on'!, but how, where are the answers?.

Self-care is really essential in order to keep on keeping on, this too shall pass just not sure when?.  How does one manage such life changing situations without familial support systems in place, intolerable anxiety, children who have lost out on education.  Husbands, wives and partners at home or not, the choice of home or office, ongoing adjustments having shed our Covid masks, what is laid bare or not said?  

Fear and anxiety a 'virus in itself' that is contagious, seen in panic buying - a survival mechanism, there are many other maladaptive ways to seek a sense of 'control' in the situation or absenting oneself, drinking too much or trying to understand a partner's addiction - my specialism.  

There are tools at hand to manage 'self' in challenging situations as impossible as this may seem, for example coming back to the 'now taking each moment as it comes - now at a time', maximum one day at a time, thoughts and feelings - come and go, like clouds in the sky.  The idea of creating a new routine, adapting the routine that one had prior to the tsunami that was  Covid.   'Talk is cheap', but change is possible, the key is willingness, alongside mindfulness and self-care.

Crazy as it may sound, but maybe helpful?   How to turn this situation around into an 'opportunity?' take a risk to think and begin to communicate/relate on a deeper level?, can we dare to verbalise our innermost fears and anxieties to those closest to us, often the most difficult ones to be vulnerable with?.  It begins with 'self' but not alone, being heard and validated is the first step towards a freer future.

Society has moved quite a way but not far enough, especially for our boys and men of all ages, let's take a risk, mention life and death and the difficulties in just living, let's try and give air time to those unspeakable thoughts, those even of non-living, it is possible that emotional pain eases, it has been my experience, just like a pressure cooker the steam builds up release brings relief! Would you like something to change but cannot see the "how"?, Let's Talk, I'm here not going anywhere!.

This approach may sound selfish running contrary to a society that conditions individuals to put everyone else’s needs first with the belief that “if they are all OK, then I will be OK?”   I wonder how often this belief bears fruit, are others needs endless?  I would like to offer the thought that “living in a world of one” is a selfish perspective but “self first” in order to be available to self and others can be a more relationally enhancing position to adopt?

I am interested - I can be your witness, a completely confidential service bound by the UKCP Code of Ethics and Framework for Best Practice. I am a registered member of the UKCP (United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapy).  I am also accredited by the BACP, (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).  Counselling offers the opportunity to explore aspects of your life that may be confusing, challenging or unsatisfactory, seek solutions and options for "change".

Why me?  I have learned and continue to learn from my clients, 'you teach me'.  I have wandered through this maze of life also, seeking out different pathways to pursue in order to survive, I can hear you!

Over time I have become increasingly concerned by the growing epidemic of mental health problems and increasingly passionate about facilitating a space to effect change by educating people, breaking down taboos and opening up conversations about mental health.

With the expertise acquired from counselling training a Diploma in Integrative Counselling followed by a Masters degree in Psychoanalytic Studies plus ongoing personal/professional development by studying Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling with a research interest in male suicide and male abuse.   I aim to gather as many "tools" possible to apply to thinking together in order to co-create meanings for your life plus I am fascinated by the many and varied facets of "the human condition, your human condition !".    

Working to foster a positive therapeutic relationship "a working alliance", an experience that can be taken forward to improve relationships with significant others having discovered the all important "relationship with self - it's an inside job". It works, it really does, give it a go you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!.

The search for the "right therapist" can be a daunting experience please do not hesitate to make contact via email or telephone in order to assist you in this process, I have plenty of time to talk and to answer any questions you may have.

I look forward.......................................

Thank you for reading my page.

Training, qualifications & experience

My experience is broad from working with children experiencing emotional difficulties in schools through play therapy to working  with complex family issues in a Family Learning Centre in South East London.  My 1-1 experience with adults and adolescents includes presenting issues of all manner of physical illness (symptoms), meaning, what might be manifesting physically that could have an emotional root?   Anxiety, underpins our very being - existential angst, really heightened at this time.

How do you attempt to manage your anxiety? do you try to  control your environment and those around you in order to give yourself a sense of peace? do you engage  in "rituals" OCD to achieve a sense of order?   Addictive patterns of behaviour, drinking a little too much/much too much, chaotic eating patterns, exercise, gambling or porn, fetishes?   Are you a "survivor" of sexual abuse and domestic violence, all part of my current practice and ongoing and ever developing professional experience.  Of particular interest for me at this time are, "Male Issues", are you a "Man in Crisis?", not sure who you are, where you are going, confusion with gender, relationships, on-line dating - all a minefield in the quest for a meaning and purpose for life and connections that remain elusive?

“Emotions” and how to manage them? anxiety, anger, disappointment, frustration, sadness, such feelings that play havoc with the ability to think clearly at times! “Trauma” and just what that means to you in your life, loss whether death of a loved one, loss of opportunity, loss in the lack of emotional intimacy in relationships as a result of being sent away to school “Boarding School Syndrome”, the hidden losses in life that may be affecting your ability to achieve fulfilment in the “here and now”, pick up the phone, start living in the solution rather than the problem, there is a way forward. It has been and is my experience.

I continue to research the incidence of male suicide, thinking about "the other side of despair", how to reach this "other side" ? Prompted by the high male suicide rate at this time and suicidal ideation, "what do you guys need?", what could make a difference for you and how to discover those illusive moments towards finding meaning for your life rather than ending it? Maybe we can talk about it.

Specialisms, domestic abuse, alcoholism, addictive patterns of behaviour, traumatic life experiences, suicidal ideation, psychological abuse whether verbal or physical, social anxiety, difficulties in relating with others ie relationships!.

Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, MA (Psychoanalytic Studies) , Goldsmiths College, University of London. PG Dip.. Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy, Middlesex University.  Art Therapy, Goldsmiths College. Diploma in CBT. Supervision Training with British Association of Psychotherapists. Couples Counselling,  The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships. Systemic Family and Couples Counselling Training with Portman and Tavistock NHS.  I continue training with specialist seminars 2001-2024,  many and varied - with NScience, Anna Freud Centre, New School of Counselling and Psychotherapy, TCCR. Mandatory clinical supervision with Professor Ernesto Spinelli and Dr Betty Canon.

I am reminded by Jean-Paul Sartre "that Hell is other people!", not easy being and relating with others?

Member organisations

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BACP
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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

If you are wrestling with something that is not listed please do not hesitate to e-mail an enquiry emacmckenzie@gmail.com

Fees

£65.00 - £120.00
Free initial in-person, telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Keyworkers
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

Face to face sessions from £65.00 zoom and telephone sessions also available £55.00.  (Reduced rates for counselling trainees to be negotiated on a case by case basis). Limited discounted rates are available for those in genuine need - please ask when you contact me. Clinical Supervision £70. Professional endorsements to be found on my Linked In site.

Face to Face couples counselling 75 minute session £95.00 (Via Zoom also).

I offer both short term 6-12 sessions solution focused therapy (CBT). Or longer term sessions exploring and seeking to make meaning of the difficulties that may have their roots in childhood and have become "obstacles" in the present preventing fulfilment in the "here and now and going forwards".  Please do not hesitate to call or send an e mail with any questions you may have requesting further information. There is nothing that cannot be "worked with and worked through". Learn to "live life on life's terms, one day at a time", the rest of your life starts here......................!

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Useful links:-

BACP - British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy http://www.bacp.co.uk UKCP - United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy http://www.ukcp.org.uk I am accredited and registered with both and apply by their Ethical Framework.

Beckenham, Kent, BR3

Type of session

Online
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Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults
Couples
Families
Organisations
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Supervision

In person
Phone

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