Elaine McKenzie, Adv.Dip., MA, UKCP reg'd.
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Now into February 2020 and out of Europe! the Brexit exit continues to present challenges and uncertainties adding pressures to familial relationships plus an undercurrent of global fear emanating from reactive heads of state who could detonate equally random responses and ad hoc terror attacks at any moment not to mention the Corona virus!. 'Contagious anxiety', increasing stressors and pressure for society, a sense of powerlessness pervades within the nation and challenges the ability to survive and 'rise above' and find an acceptable meaning for life, which, of course is subjective.
How can we think more of managing our individual stress levels, how are your needs to achieve and maintain balance being met?
Are you resorting 'to not so healthy' coping strategies, such as drink, porn, food, gambling, pills, video games and and and.......excess exercise in order to 'manage' uncertainty and escape reality at this time, the human condition seeks control over insecurities. Is anxiety winning? Has the resolve to establish a more manageable "work life balance gone out of the window?" Maybe an opportunity has arisen to invest in yourself and your life, at least an opportunity to think and reappraise?
How are your New Year Year Resolutions holding up?
I wonder what areas of your life feel hopeless and unmanageable at present, the question one asks of self "who am I really", my identity, my sexual identity, being is confusing? How to really communicate, can we dare to verbalise our innermost fears and anxieties to those closest to us, often the most difficult ones to be honest with?. Fears of being told "not to be silly, get on with it or you just don't know how well off you are", well meaning maybe but misguided, who is hearing you?
Society has moved quite a way but not far enough, especially for our boys and men of all ages, let's take a risk, mention death, suicide, let's try and give air time to those unspeakable thoughts, it is possible that they will lose some of their power, it has been my experience! Would you like something to change but cannot see the "how"?, Let's Talk!.
The Newsreel continues to frighten the life out of us by highlighting the ever evolving global ups and downs, the uncertainties of "life on life’s terms", man’s quest for survival and achievement in the face of extreme adversity and an ongoing need for change in attitude toward “mental health” in order to develop mental and emotional resilience to manage the afore-mentioned, to accomplish personal well-being, whatever that may mean for any one individual, a subjective experience to find 'meaning'. If one's thinking is "off-key" the emotions also will be awry!
Key to good mental health is attention to self-care, the “self” needs to be at the top of the list, if the self is not OK, close relationships with significant others in our lives suffer, work life cannot flourish and succeed and without personal time to replenish one’s batteries whether through exercise, nature, meditation, music ie "whatever floats your boat", we can end up swimming against the tide!
This approach may sound selfish running contrary to a society that conditions individuals to put everyone else’s needs first with the belief that “if they are all OK, then I will be OK?” I wonder how often this belief bears fruit, are others needs endless? I would like to offer the thought that “living in a world of one” is a selfish perspective but “self first” in order to be available to self and others can be a more relationally enhancing position to adopt?
Is NOW the time to consider your own unmet needs? How not to say "Yes" when one is running on empty and really need to say “No”. Changing past patterns of behaviour and challenging ingrained beliefs takes time, but the rest of your life starts now. The first step is to stop, reflect and then take a risk to verbalise what maybe preventing the possibilities of becoming and achieving potential.
I am interested - I can be your witness, a completely confidential service bound by the UKCP Code of Ethics and Framework for Best Practice. I am an accredited member of UKCP. I am also accredited by the BACP, (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). Counselling offers the opportunity to explore aspects of your life that may be confusing, challenging or unsatisfactory, seek solutions and options for "change".
Why me? I have learned and continue to learn from my clients, 'you teach me'.
With the expertise acquired from counselling training a Diploma in Integrative Counselling followed by a Masters degree in Psychoanalytic Studies plus ongoing personal/professional development currently undertaking a Doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling, I aim to gather as many "tools" possible to apply to thinking together in order to co-create meanings for your life plus I am fascinated by the many and varied facets of "the human condition, your human condition !". Working to foster a positive therapeutic relationship "a working alliance", an experience that can be taken forward to improve relationships with significant others having discovered the all important "relationship with self - it's an inside job". It works, it really does, as Freud said "therapy is a talking cure", give it a go you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
The search for the "right therapist" can be a daunting experience please do not hesitate to make contact via email or telephone in order to assist you in this process, I have plenty of time to talk and to answer any questions you may have.
I look forward.......................................
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Training, qualifications & experience
My experience is wide ranging from working with children experiencing emotional difficulties in schools through play therapy. I have also worked with complex family issues in a Family Learning Centre in South East London. My 1-1 experience with adults and adolescents includes presenting issues of all manner of physical illness (symptoms), what might be manifesting physically that could have an emotional root? Are you a "compulsive hoarder"?, do you "manage" your day to day by engaging in "rituals" OCD? Addictive patterns of behaviour, drinking a little too much/much to much, chaotic eating patterns, exercise, gambling and porn?. Are you a "survivor" of sexual abuse and domestic violence, all part of my current practice and ongoing and ever developing professional experience. Of particular interest for me at this time are, "Male Issues", are you a "Man in Crisis?", not sure who you are, where you are going, confusion with gender, confusion with technology ie Tinder, e-dating??? a minefield these days?.
“Emotions” and how to manage them? anxiety, anger, disappointment,frustration, sadness, such feelings that play havoc with the ability to think clearly at times! “Trauma” and just what that means to you in your life, loss whether death of a loved one, loss of opportunity, loss in the lack of emotional intimacy in relationships as a result of being sent away to school “Boarding School Syndrome”, the hidden losses in life that may be affecting your ability to achieve fulfilment in the “here and now”, pick up the phone, start living in the solution rather than the problem, there is a way forward. It has been and is my experience.
I am currently undertaking a research project thinking about "the other side of despair", how to reach this "other side" ? Prompted by the high male suicide rate at this time and suicidal ideation, "what do you guys need?", what could make a difference for you and how to discover those illusive moments towards finding meaning for your life rather than ending it? Maybe we can talk about it.
Specialisms, (especially at this time male psychological abuse), alcoholism, addictive patterns of behaviour, traumatic life experiences, psychological abuse whether verbal or physical, difficulties in relating with others ie relationships!.
Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, MA (Psychoanalytic Studies) , Goldsmiths College, University of London. Art Therapy, Goldsmiths College. Diploma in CBT. Supervision Training with British Association of Psychotherapists. Couples Counselling, The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships. Systemic Family and Couples Counselling Training with Portman and Tavistock NHS. Workshops - many and varied - with the Westminster Pastoral Foundation 2000-16 Currently in my third year of a doctorate programme, Doctorate in Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy via Middlesex University. I am reminded by Jean-Paul Sartre "that Hell is other people!", not easy being and relating with others?
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
If you are wrestling with something that is not listed please do not hesitate to e-mail an enquiry firstname.lastname@example.org
Individual one to one sessions £60 per 60 minute session in Beckenham. (Reduced rates for counselling trainees to be negotiated on a case by case basis). Limited discounted rates are available for those in genuine need - please ask when you contact me. Initial assessment for 1-1 counselling £55. “An assessment session”, an opportunity for you to “assess” me, the client/therapist fit is essential – as well as an opportunity for me to begin to "be curious" about what has brought you to therapy. Clinical Supervision £70. Professional endorsements to be found on my Linked In site.
Couples counselling - assessment rate £70. Sessions thereafter £85.00 - Couple session duration 90 minutes.
London individual sessions £85.00, couples £120.00.
I offer both short term 6-12 sessions solution focussed therapy (CBT). Or longer term sessions exploring and seeking to make meaning of the difficulties that may have their roots in childhood and have become "obstacles" in the present preventing fulfilment in the "here and now". Please do not hesitate to call or send an e mail with any questions you may have requesting further information. There is nothing that cannot be "worked with and worked through". Learn to "live life on life's terms, one day at a time", the rest of your life starts here......................!
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BACP - British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy http://www.bacp.co.uk UKCP - United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy http://www.ukcp.org.uk I am accredited and registered with both and apply by their Ethical Framework.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
London: am Thursday and Friday.
Beckenham: Monday pm, Tuesday am/pm, Wednesday am/pm.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
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