Elaine McKenzie, Adv.Dip., MA, UKCP reg'd.
Welcome to my page at this really challenging time, I wonder what has brought you here?.
Hot on the heels of Brexit, COVID-19 appeared. A pandemic! what have we lived through? What has happened, lives changed forever and the consequences and losses to be overcome, but how?
As we all know, the past few months have been tumultuous and deadly. In a very short amount of time, society has changed—both in how we view our lives and how we, as people, interact with each other and now coming out of 'lockdown', the need to find ever more creative ways to adapt to a new and evolving way of living, working and communicating to survive and negotiate such challenges further highlighted by a society under extreme pressure with regard to inequality.
Such drastic and uninvited change can manifest in increased anxiety affecting one's whole being, physically, mentally and emotionally - a sense of impossibility which runs through Samuel Becket's plays, 'I can't go on - I must go on'!, but how?.
Self-care is really essential in order to keep on keeping on, this too shall pass just not sure when. How does one manage such life changing situations without familial support systems in place, intolerable anxiety, children at home - should they go back to school?, husbands, wives and partners 'at home!', adjusting to the continual presence of everyone all day and every day with little or no escape and now, which way to turn 'masked up' to risk public transport? Fear of financial insecurity looms and the nameless dread of a 'Second Wave of the Virus'
Fear and anxiety a 'virus in itself' that is contagious, seen in panic buying - a survival mechanism, there are many other maladaptive ways to seek a sense of 'control' in the situation or absenting oneself, drinking too much, eating too much, not eating, obsessive cleaning and and............................................
There are tools at hand to manage 'self' in this situation as impossible as this may appear, such as coming back to the 'now, now at a time', maximum one day at a time, thoughts - they come and go, the feelings pass. The idea of creating a routine, adapting the routine that one had prior to Corona, how to keep life as simple as possible?. Words are easy but change is possible, the key is mindfulness and self care.
Crazy as it may sound, but maybe helpful? How to turn this situation around into an 'opportunity?' really to think and begin to communicate/relate on a deeper level?, can we dare to verbalise our innermost fears and anxieties to those closest to us, often the most difficult ones to be honest with?.
Society has moved quite a way but not far enough, especially for our boys and men of all ages, let's take a risk, mention life and death and the difficulties in just living, let's try and give air time to those unspeakable thoughts, those even of non-living, it is possible that they will lose some of their power, it has been my experience, just like a pressure cooker the steam builds up release brings relief! Would you like something to change but cannot see the "how"?, Let's Talk, I'm here not going anywhere!.
This approach may sound selfish running contrary to a society that conditions individuals to put everyone else’s needs first with the belief that “if they are all OK, then I will be OK?” I wonder how often this belief bears fruit, are others needs endless? I would like to offer the thought that “living in a world of one” is a selfish perspective but “self first” in order to be available to self and others can be a more relationally enhancing position to adopt?
I am interested - I can be your witness, a completely confidential service bound by the UKCP Code of Ethics and Framework for Best Practice. I am an accredited member of UKCP. I am also accredited by the BACP, (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). Counselling offers the opportunity to explore aspects of your life that may be confusing, challenging or unsatisfactory, seek solutions and options for "change".
Why me? I have learned and continue to learn from my clients, 'you teach me'. I am stepping through this Covid 19 maze also, seeking out different pathways to persue in order to survive, I can hear you!
With the expertise acquired from counselling training a Diploma in Integrative Counselling followed by a Masters degree in Psychoanalytic Studies plus ongoing personal/professional development currently undertaking a Doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling, I aim to gather as many "tools" possible to apply to thinking together in order to co-create meanings for your life plus I am fascinated by the many and varied facets of "the human condition, your human condition !". Working to foster a positive therapeutic relationship "a working alliance", an experience that can be taken forward to improve relationships with significant others having discovered the all important "relationship with self - it's an inside job". It works, it really does, as Freud said "therapy is a talking cure", give it a go you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
The search for the "right therapist" can be a daunting experience please do not hesitate to make contact via email or telephone in order to assist you in this process, I have plenty of time to talk and to answer any questions you may have.
I look forward.......................................
Thank you for reading my page.
Training, qualifications & experience
My experience is wide ranging from working with children experiencing emotional difficulties in schools through play therapy. I have also worked with complex family issues in a Family Learning Centre in South East London. My 1-1 experience with adults and adolescents includes presenting issues of all manner of physical illness (symptoms), what might be manifesting physically that could have an emotional root? Anxiety, underpins our very being - existential angst, seriously heightened at this time.
How do you attempt to manage your anxiety? do you try to control your environment and those around you in order to give yourself a sense of peace? do you engage in "rituals" OCD to achieve a sense of order? Addictive patterns of behaviour, drinking a little too much/much to much, chaotic eating patterns, exercise, gambling or porn? Are you a "survivor" of sexual abuse and domestic violence, all part of my current practice and ongoing and ever developing professional experience. Of particular interest for me at this time are, "Male Issues", are you a "Man in Crisis?", not sure who you are, where you are going, confusion with gender, relationships, on-line dating? all a minefield in the quest for a meaning for life when it is difficult to find?.
“Emotions” and how to manage them? anxiety, anger, disappointment,frustration, sadness, such feelings that play havoc with the ability to think clearly at times! “Trauma” and just what that means to you in your life, loss whether death of a loved one, loss of opportunity, loss in the lack of emotional intimacy in relationships as a result of being sent away to school “Boarding School Syndrome”, the hidden losses in life that may be affecting your ability to achieve fulfilment in the “here and now”, pick up the phone, start living in the solution rather than the problem, there is a way forward. It has been and is my experience.
I am currently undertaking a research project thinking about "the other side of despair", how to reach this "other side" ? Prompted by the high male suicide rate at this time and suicidal ideation, "what do you guys need?", what could make a difference for you and how to discover those illusive moments towards finding meaning for your life rather than ending it? Maybe we can talk about it.
Specialisms, omestic abuse, alcoholism, addictive patterns of behaviour, traumatic life experiences, psychological abuse whether verbal or physical, difficulties in relating with others ie relationships!.
Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, MA (Psychoanalytic Studies) , Goldsmiths College, University of London. Art Therapy, Goldsmiths College. Diploma in CBT. Supervision Training with British Association of Psychotherapists. Couples Counselling, The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships. Systemic Family and Couples Counselling Training with Portman and Tavistock NHS. Workshops - many and varied - with the Westminster Pastoral Foundation 2000-16 Currently in my third year of a doctorate programme, Doctorate in Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy via Middlesex University. I am reminded by Jean-Paul Sartre "that Hell is other people!", not easy being and relating with others?
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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
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Online or telephone counselling £65.00 per 50 minute session, face to face therapy on hold at present due to Covid. (Reduced rates for counselling trainees to be negotiated on a case by case basis). Limited discounted rates are available for those in genuine need - please ask when you contact me. Clinical Supervision £70. Professional endorsements to be found on my Linked In site.
Couples counselling 75 minute session £90. (Via Zoom at present June 2020).
I offer both short term 6-12 sessions solution focussed therapy (CBT). Or longer term sessions exploring and seeking to make meaning of the difficulties that may have their roots in childhood and have become "obstacles" in the present preventing fulfilment in the "here and now". Please do not hesitate to call or send an e mail with any questions you may have requesting further information. There is nothing that cannot be "worked with and worked through". Learn to "live life on life's terms, one day at a time", the rest of your life starts here......................!
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BACP - British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy http://www.bacp.co.uk UKCP - United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy http://www.ukcp.org.uk I am accredited and registered with both and apply by their Ethical Framework.