Elaine McKenzie, Adv.Dip., MA, UKCP reg'd.
Welcome to my page, I wonder what has prompted your search?
A difficult 2018? So much going in the world at large, so much uncertainty. With nature now sleeping, shorter days longer nights, more time possibly to contemplate your life your needs, are they being met? is life going according to plan? Cutting down on unhealthy coping strategies, such as drink, porn, excess exercise and food to manage stress levels? Has the resolve to establish a more manageable "work life balance", or even to ask yourself "are my needs being met with regard to work and within relationships?".
I wonder what areas of your life continue to feel hopeless and unmanageable at present?“ How to really communicate, can we dare to verbalise our innermost fears and anxieties?. Society has moved quite a way but not far enough, especially for our boys and men of all ages, let's take a risk, mention death, suicide, let's try and give air time to those unspeakable thoughts, it is possible that they will lose some of their power, it has been my experience! Would you like something to change but cannot see the "how", Let's Talk!.
The Newsreel continues to highlight the ever evolving global ups and downs, the uncertainties of "life on life’s terms", man’s quest for survival and achievement in the face of extreme adversity and a need for change in attitude toward “mental health” in order to develop mental and emotional resilience to manage the afore-mentioned, to accomplish personal well-being, whatever that may mean for any one individual, a subjective experience. The Princes William and Harry speaking on the 20th anniversary of Princess Diana's death, their beloved mother, elevating the public’s attention for the need to address “the stigma” attached to mental health. If one's thinking is "off-key" the emotions also will be awry!
Key to good mental health is attention to self-care, the “self” needs to be at the top of the list, if the self is not OK, close relationships with significant others in our lives suffer, work life cannot flourish and succeed and without personal time to replenish one’s batteries whether through exercise, nature, meditation, music ie "whatever floats your boat", we can end up swimming against the tide!
This approach may sound selfish running contrary to a society that conditions individuals to put everyone else’s needs first with the belief that “if they are all OK, then I will be OK?” I wonder how often this belief bears fruit, are others needs endless? I would like to offer the thought that “living in a world of one” is a selfish perspective but “self first” in order to be available to self and others can be a more relationally enhancing position to adopt?
Is NOW the time to consider your own unmet needs? How not to say "Yes" when one is running on empty and really need to say “No”. Changing past patterns of behaviour and challenging ingrained beliefs takes time, but the rest of your life starts now. The first step is to stop, reflect and then take a risk to verbalise what maybe preventing the possibilities of becoming and achieving potential.
I am interested - I can be your witness, a completely confidential service bound by the UKCP Code of Ethics and Framework for Best Practice. I am an accredited member of the BACP and UKCP. Counselling offers the opportunity to explore aspects of your life that may be confusing, challenging or unsatisfactory, seek solutions and options for "change".
Why me? With the expertise acquired from counselling training a Diploma in Integrative Counselling followed by a Masters degree in Psychoanalytic Studies plus ongoing personal/professional development currently undertaking a Doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling, I aim to gather as many "tools" possible to apply to thinking together in order to co-create meanings for your life plus I am fascinated by the many and varied facets of "the human condition, your human condition !". Working to foster a positive therapeutic relationship "a working alliance", an experience that can be taken forward to improve relationships with significant others having discovered the all important "relationship with self - it's an inside job". It works, it really does, as Freud said "therapy is a talking cure", give it a go you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
The search for the "right therapist" can be a daunting experience please do not hesitate to make contact via email or telephone in order to assist you in this process, I have plenty of time to talk and to answer any questions you may have.
I look forward.......................................
Saturday am sessions available.
Training, qualifications & experience
My experience is wide ranging from working with children experiencing emotional difficulties in schools through play therapy. I have also worked with complex family issues in a Family Learning Centre in South East London. My 1-1 experience with adults and adolescents includes presenting issues of all manner of physical illness (symptoms), what might be manifesting physically that could have an emotional root? Are you a "compulsive hoarder"?, do you "manage" your day to day by engaging in "rituals" OCD? Addictive patterns of behaviour, drinking a little too much/much to much, chaotic eating patterns, exercise, gambling and porn?. Are you a "survivor" of sexual abuse and domestic violence, all part of my current practice and ongoing and ever developing professional experience. Of particular interest for me at this time are, "Male Issues", are you a "Man in Crisis?", not sure who you are, where you are going, confusion with gender, confusion with technology ie Tinder, e-dating??? a minefield these days?.
“Emotions” and how to manage them? anxiety, anger, disappointment,frustration, sadness, such feelings that play havoc with the ability to think clearly at times! “Trauma” and just what that means to you in your life, loss whether death of a loved one, loss of opportunity, loss in the lack of emotional intimacy in relationships as a result of being sent away to school “Boarding School Syndrome”, the hidden losses in life that may be affecting your ability to achieve fulfilment in the “here and now”, pick up the phone, start living in the solution rather than the problem, there is a way forward. It has been and is my experience.
I am currently undertaking a research project thinking about "the other side of despair", how to reach this "other side" ? Prompted by the high male suicide rate at this time, "what do you guys need?, what will make a difference for you having reached "the jumping off point" and with a moment of clarity, heading back in order to go forward with finding that illusive meaning for life rather than ending it? Maybe we can talk about it.
Specialisms, (especially at this time male psychological abuse), addictive patterns of behaviour, traumatic life experiences, psychological abuse whether verbal or physical, difficulties in relating with others.
Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, MA (Psychoanalytic Studies) , Goldsmiths College, University of London. Art Therapy, Goldsmiths College. Diploma in CBT. Supervision Training with British Association of Psychotherapists. Couples Counselling, The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships. Systemic Family and Couples Counselling Training with Portman and Tavistock NHS. Workshops - many and varied - with the Westminster Pastoral Foundation 2000-16 Currently in my third year of a doctorate programme, Doctorate in Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy via Middlesex University. I am reminded by Jean-Paul Sartre "that Hell is other people!", not easy being and relating with others?
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
Other areas of counselling I deal with
If you are wrestling with something that is not listed please do not hesitate to e-mail an enquiry email@example.com
Individual one to one sessions £70 per 60 minute session. (Reduced rates for counselling trainees £45.). Limited discounted rates are available for those in genuine need - please ask when you contact me. Initial assessment for 1-1 counselling £55. “An assessment session”, an opportunity for you to “assess” me, the client/therapist fit is essential – as well as an opportunity for me to begin to "be curious" about what has brought you to therapy. Clinical Supervision £70. Professional endorsements to be found on my Linked In site.
I offer both short term 6-12 sessions solution focussed therapy (CBT). Or longer term sessions exploring and seeking to make meaning of the difficulties that may have their roots in childhood and have become "obstacles" in the present preventing fulfilment in the "here and now". Please do not hesitate to call or send an e mail with any questions you may have requesting further information. There is nothing that cannot be "worked with and worked through". Learn to "live life on life's terms, one day at a time", the rest of your life starts here......................!
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BACP - British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy http://www.bacp.co.uk UKCP - United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy http://www.ukcp.org.uk I am accredited and registered with both and apply by their Ethical Framework.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday pm, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday 8am last session 7pm.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
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