Menopause and sexual wellness

Menopause is a natural phase in a woman’s life, marking the end of her reproductive years. While this transition is inevitable, it can bring physical, emotional, and psychological changes that may affect overall well-being. One significant and often challenging issue that many women face during menopause is sexual dysfunction.

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Understanding how menopause affects sexual function and knowing that therapy can offer substantial relief is crucial for navigating this life stage with confidence and comfort.

Understanding menopause and its impact on sexual function

Hormonal changes:

Menopause is characterised by a decline in oestrogen and progesterone levels. These hormonal shifts can lead to various symptoms, including hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, and vaginal dryness. oestrogen plays a key role in maintaining the health of vaginal tissues, lubrication, and elasticity, so its reduction can directly impact sexual comfort and pleasure.

Physical symptoms:

  • Vaginal dryness: Reduced oestrogen can lead to thinning of the vaginal walls and decreased natural lubrication, making intercourse uncomfortable or even painful. This condition, known as vaginal atrophy, can also cause itching, burning, and irritation.
  • Decreased libido: Hormonal changes can diminish sexual desire and arousal, making it harder to feel interested in sexual activities. This can be exacerbated by other menopausal symptoms like fatigue and mood swings.
  • Changes in sensation: Some women may experience a decrease in genital sensitivity, making it more challenging to achieve orgasm. This can be frustrating and impact sexual satisfaction.
  • Pain during intercourse: Known as dyspareunia, pain during intercourse can result from vaginal dryness and thinning of tissues. This pain can create a cycle of fear and avoidance of sexual activity.
  • Emotional and psychological effects: Menopause can also affect mental health, contributing to anxiety, depression, and body image concerns. These emotional factors can further complicate sexual intimacy and desire.

The role of therapy in addressing menopausal sexual dysfunction

Therapy can be an invaluable resource for women experiencing sexual dysfunction during menopause. Here’s how therapy can help:

Providing a safe space for discussion:

Therapy offers a confidential and supportive environment where you can discuss your experiences and concerns without judgment. Talking openly about sexual issues can be empowering and the first step toward finding solutions.

Understanding the physical changes:

A therapist specialising in sexual dysfunction can educate you about the physical changes your body is going through. Understanding these changes can help reduce anxiety and normalise the experience.

Exploring emotional factors:

Therapy can help you address the emotional and psychological aspects of menopause. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, or body image issues, a therapist can guide you through coping strategies and emotional healing.

Improving communication with partners:

Effective communication with your partner is crucial during this time. Therapy can help you express your needs and feelings, fostering understanding and intimacy. Couples therapy can be particularly beneficial if both partners are struggling to adjust to the changes.

Developing coping strategies:

Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and mindfulness techniques can be effective in managing anxiety and stress, improving your overall mental health and sexual function. These strategies can help you stay present during intimate moments, enhancing your ability to enjoy sex.

Exploring medical options:

A therapist can also guide you in exploring medical treatments that might alleviate physical symptoms. This could include discussing hormone replacement therapy (HRT), vaginal lubricants, or moisturisers alongside support from your healthcare provider.

Enhancing sexual techniques:

Therapy can introduce you to new sexual techniques and positions that might be more comfortable and pleasurable. It can also help you and your partner explore non-penetrative forms of intimacy, ensuring that sexual experiences remain satisfying.

Building a support network:

Therapy can assist you in building a support network of friends, family, and groups who understand what you’re going through. Having a community can reduce feelings of isolation and provide additional emotional support.

Addressing body image issues:

Menopause can bring changes in weight, skin elasticity, and overall appearance, which may affect body image. Therapy can help you develop a positive self-image and improve self-esteem, making you feel more confident and attractive.

Managing mood swings:

Hormonal fluctuations can lead to mood swings and irritability. Therapy can teach you techniques to manage these mood changes, reducing their impact on your daily life and relationships.

Holistic approaches:

Some therapists incorporate holistic approaches, such as yoga, and meditation to support overall well-being during menopause. These practices can enhance physical comfort and mental clarity.

Pelvic floor therapy:

For women experiencing pain during intercourse, pelvic floor therapy can be beneficial. Specialised physical therapists can work with you to strengthen and relax pelvic floor muscles, reducing pain and improving sexual function.


Experiencing sexual dysfunction during menopause is not uncommon, and you are not alone. Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward reclaiming your sexual health and overall well-being. Therapy can provide the tools and support needed to navigate this transition.

Navigating menopause and its effects on sexual function can be challenging, but you don’t have to face it alone. Seeking therapy is a proactive and positive step towards managing these changes. Remember, your experiences and feelings are valid, and help is available.

Therapists are here to provide the support, understanding, and strategies you need to overcome these challenges and enjoy a satisfying and fulfilling intimate life. You deserve compassion, care, and the best possible quality of life during this transformative stage

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Written by Donna West
MBACP (Accred)ACTO (Snr) Psychotherapist/Clinical supervisor
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