Naomi Louise Rae B.A.(Hons), P.G. Dip, UKCP Reg, SNR MBACP AccredIted, IMAGO
Welcome to the website of Naomi Louise Rae. B.A.Hons, PG Dip - UKCP Registered Psychotherapist Senior MBACP Accredited & UKCP Registered Psychotherapeutic Counsellor. I am also an IMAGO Relational Trained Therapist.
My practice is based in Lancaster, Lancashire, in easy reach of M6. I am also able to support you wherever you may be, in whatever country or location- via Skype to enable remote working.
I bring my understanding, warmth and sensitivity to my meetings with you. In this, I help to create a safe space in which you can explore your issues and experiences with the aim of enabling you to create more life enhancing choices and to live your life more fully.
I work with individuals ,couples, young people and children offering therapy.
I am a Consultant Specialist at BMI Healthcare Private Hospital, Meadowside, Lancaster and approved provider with leading healthcare insurance companies to deliver clinical therapeutic services (See below for companies I am registered with).
There may be times in our lives when we feel stuck and our difficulties seem insurmountable. We may see the changes that are needed but have lost sight of the means and road to take us there. Counselling and psychotherapy can often help.
Can you imagine talking in a way that moves you in a direction that enhances your choicefulness and honours your being?
Talking with an experienced therapist can help us become more aware of who we are and how we function in the world. With increased awareness and support from the therapeutic relationship we can develop our capacity for choice and change.
I am a recognized registered provider with leading U.K. Health Insurance Companies. Some of the people attending my clinics are funded through private health insurance, the fees being paid directly by the insurer. However some people are self-financing. If you are covered by health insurance you should inform your insurer of a referral and confirm your level of cover in the first instance. (The financial contract for payment will exist with yourself and should your insurer decline to pay your account in whole or in part, you may be held personally responsible for payment of the account). It is therefore in your own interests to always contact your insurer, confirm your level of cover and obtain agreement prior to your initial appointment. Your insurance details, including membership number will be required in advance in order to book an initial appointment.
Individuals There are times in everyone’s life when we need help and support from others. Often when faced with issues such as loss, relationship difficulties and life stresses which can bring overwhelming feelings of anger, sadness and grief. Whatever it is, I can help you to discover ways for you to restore the balance in your life and become the contented, happy person you deserve to be. I have the skills and experience to help you uncover what’s really going on, causing you to feel unhappy.
Couples I work with couples to explore and find more satisfying ways in which they can enjoy being together. Many couples embark on their journey together happy, hopeful and certain their good feeling will continue. However, some find that over time they drift apart, still living together but feeling disconnected. Others find themselves falling into a loop of resentments or conflict with resulting breakdown in relationship and unable to move on together.
Couples come for therapy for all kinds of reasons. Maybe you are struggling with emotional, sexual or physical intimacy, divorce, separation, an affair or communication difficulties. Whatever the reason, I can provide a space and time where you can both learn more about your struggles while exploring ways to enhance your relationship.
How do I work?
By paying close attention to the rhythms and patterns of communication (often familiar) in your relationship we will discover how you support or diminish your levels of satisfaction and intimacy. Exploring your history together and you’re past family experiences can illuminate other factors that contribute to your current situation. The aim is to find choice points where you can make new decisions, experiment with doing things differently and find more support for the kind of relationship you want. I am passionate about the work I engage in with couples and I have very positive feedback from clients.
Children Children go through tough times too and they can be effectively supported through therapy. I provide a non-threatening space for your child to explore with a purpose. There are many therapeutic activities that can be done with children through play so they don’t even know they are receiving counselling. This can take the form of drawing, storytelling, using puppets, role play or sand play. The first indication that something is wrong may be when your child starts to misbehave more than usual. Other signs might be that your child seems very tired, lacks motivation to go to school or play with friends or engages in behaviour that is inappropriate for the child’s age, for example, acting as though they are younger than their years. It may be that you are going through a difficult time yourself and this is having an impact on your child, in which case it might be an idea to consider counselling for yourself instead of or as well as your child. See Individuals. I would begin by inviting you to an introductory session for you to ask any questions you may have and for me to give you an idea of how counselling works, discussing things like confidentiality. This also gives your child the opportunity to meet me whilst you are present. After this initial session, you will be asked to leave the room whilst counselling takes place (50 mins) and it is useful if you are able to be contactable during this time.
Teens I work in a non-threatening, non-judgmental way using your own natural talents and interests. For example, if you enjoy drawing, then this can be used within the sessions through art activities to explore the difficulties you are facing. I have worked with issues such as self-harm, eating disorders, relationship issues, low self-esteem, body image and abuse. I would begin by inviting you to an introductory session for you to ask any questions you may have and for me to give you an idea of how counselling works, discussing things like confidentiality. If you are under 18, I will also need a parent or guardian to come to this initial meeting to give their permission for you to have counselling.
Training, qualifications & experience
The professional organisations and memberships to which belong are -
- UKCP -United Kingdom of Counselling & Psychotherapy
- BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
- CPC - Counsellors & Psychotherapists in Primary Care
- UKRCP - United Kingdom Register of Counsellors & Psychotherapists
- SCPTI - Scarborough Psychotherapy Training Institute
- IMAGO -RELATIONSHIPS UK
- IMAGO - RELATIONSHIPS INTERNATIONAL
My professional experience within wellbeing stretches over 20 years within this time I have worked for :
- NHS - Lancashire Care Trust
- Lancaster University
- CAMHS (Children and Adolescent Mental Health)
- G.P. Counselling Services
- Social Services
- Education Inclusion Services
- Adoption and Fostering Services
- Primary,Secondary,Further and Higher Education Services
- Employee Assistance Services
- Disability Services
- Cancer Care Services
- Bereavement Services
Over the past 20 years in the UK, I have worked with many clients from a variety of different backgrounds, presenting a wide range of issues. I have experience of working with couples, individuals and children.I have enhanced CRB clearance. In addition to the above I continue to undertake workshops and trainings for my own personal and professional development. I have a passion for this work and and engaged in what it means to have relational awareness. Within ourselves, within our relationships with each other and our environment. I am interested in how these experiences shape lives. Underpinning my approach is the importance of the relationship between therapist and client. So while trust takes time to establish in any relationship, I believe it is vital to good counselling or psychotherapy. Continuity, safety, professionalism, combined with integrity and warmth, are all important ingredients that help build the right conditions within which the changes you want to make can occur. I enjoy walking, swimming, and art. I love talking with friends, scuba diving and Zumba ! I am interested in different cultures and enjoy travelling and learning.I am committed to my own growth - and walk my talk.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Asperger's syndrome
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
All messages and calls are treated in the strictest confidence. Both e-mail and mobile answer phone are only accessed by myself. To arrange an initial appointment, please e-mail me at:firstname.lastname@example.org Or you can call me on 07880732825. If you would like to leave a message please leave your name, the date and time of your call and a good time for me to call you back. If necessary, please ensure that the number you leave me is one you can be called confidentially on. I will endeavour to return all inquiries within 48 hours. Counselling & Psychotherapy can help you - If you want to work on your relationship with your self, your partner, a member of your family, a friend or a colleague at work. and can offer you a space to work on issues you are experiencing difficulty with, in your life. Or, if you would like support for your child, then giving time and space to explore these issues in a safe environment could help.
Most people find that my approach of working with them, within the therapeutic relationship offers them a different experience. This in turn offers them a way to make a difference in their own lives, in their relationships and with themselves and others.
Counselling & Psychotherapy Consultations
After making initial contact with you I then offer an initial fifty minute consultation and assessment in a comfortable room in my practice in Lancaster, Lancashire. Following this, a therapeutic agreement will typically be reached which involves regular fifty minute meetings usually weekly.
Frequency and Duration of Counselling & Psychotherapy Sessions
An arrangement /contract will be agreed. It is possible to agree a fixed number of therapeutic sessions. This may be suitable for brief work, where all that is required is to concentrate on a particular difficulty or relationship issue.
Psychotherapy is usually longer term and involves exploring underlying issues and unresolved conflicts. Periodically, we will review your journey in counselling and therapy with me, both to mark progress and to focus on future direction together.
I am available to offer counselling and psychotherapy - I see individuals, couples, young people and children for short, medium and long term work on relationship and other issues.
My fees are by arrangement and you can pay in person by cash or cheque when we meet -
What is therapy - how can it help?
It can.....improve the way we communicate with ourselves, others and our environment.
Counselling and Psychotherapy provide effective models for understanding and evaluating :
- How we react in certain situations
- The areas of our lives where we want to make changes
- The level of self acceptance that we have
- A helpful insight into why we feel the way we do
- What motivates us
What is Counselling and Psychotherapy?
Therapy offers you a safe, confidential space where you will be listened to carefully and without judgment. From there it is possible to clarify what the problem or unease is, how it came to be, and to move forward. It is a chance to explore, think about and understand life, so that you can live it well. Counselling and psychotherapy are both ‘talking therapies’ that offer people a chance to change how they feel and to live better. UKCP's training standards/ qualifications seek to ensure that UKCP registrants are competent to practice to the highest standards.
Why do people come?
People may want to see a therapist for all kinds of reasons, often for help with emotional difficulties like loneliness, anxiety, depression and bereavement.
Some people come in the midst of emotional crisis when they feel like they are falling apart and need some help to manage and cope with life.
Others feel stuck in recurring patterns that limit and undermine their capacity to live a fulfilled life. Such patterns may interfere with relationships, success in work and career or with simply feeling fully alive.
Whether it is for self-development or actualising your potential, or whether it is for dealing with confusion, uncertainty and emotional issues or to work through patterns and limitations - in all these situations engaging in therapy can offer support and effective change.
What can Counselling and Psychotherapy offer you?
- Gaining new perspectives, developing insight and gaining understanding about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours in a confidential therapeutic relationship.
- Increased capacity for self responsibility and support to be the change you want to see!
- Provide support during difficult periods in life, such as bereavement, relationship difficulties.
- Help you sort out your priorities and make clear choices about the future.
- Support in facing difficult feelings.
- A creative approach with an experienced therapist who wishes to relate to you with integrity and respect.
What services do I offer? / Can I help you? I have experience of helping individuals, couples and children from all walks of life and with many different needs.There is no typical client; people come for lots of different reasons, ranging from a desire to develop professionally, to addressing issues of abuse. Listed below are just some of the areas which I can provide confidential support and a professional therapeutic service.
- Personal Development
- Attachment & Loss
- Relationship/Marital Issues
- Family Dynamics
- Mothering & Young Children
- Harassment & Bullying
- Anxiety & Panic Attacks
- Dreams, Symbols & Imagery
- Loss and Change
- Stress Management
- Unresolved Anger
- Relationship problems at work and at home
- Feeling down
- Trauma and abuse
- Life events
I offer confidential support & development in a suitable friendly environment for all clients. Gestalt Therapy is based on the philosophy of trusting the human potential for a growing relationship with the particular environment. Gestalt principles stem from a core belief that the desired outcome of psychotherapy is achieved through heightened awareness within the therapeutic relationship in conjunction with creative and active experimentation. The counselling or psychotherapy relationship is a working partnership between you and your therapist which aims to help you develop the skills and awareness you need to live a more fulfilling life by offering greater insight and understanding of yourself, leading to an enhanced sense of personal choice and empowerment. It is an opportunity to express your feelings, unravel your thoughts, assess past experience and gather what is helpful and learn how to let go of what is not. It cannot remove the external pressures in your life and is not a ‘magic wand’ guaranteed to make you feel better. Therapy is not about giving advice or telling you what to do. Therapy can help you increase your understanding of your feelings and reactions to various situations and help you find better strategies for coping with difficulties in everyday life or major life events. To learn more about Gestalt you may wish to visit www.gestalt.org Gestalt is a German word with no exact equivalent in English and is usually translated as form or shape. Gestalt therapists view each person as having the potential to live satisfying and creative lives. Unfortunately this potential can be held back in the form of old ideas, feelings and habitual behaviour.
The aim of Gestalt therapy is to increase awareness of how we think, feel and act. When we know what we are doing and how we have greater choice about change, growth and healing.
The Gestalt approach is holistic. People are considered as whole, we cannot be understood in isolation from our environment, nor can we be understood by isolating mind from body or soul. All these aspects of our existence are inter-related from a Gestalt perspective.
The relationship between the Gestalt therapist and client is one that is based on authenticity, mutuality and confirmation. Philosophically it is supported by Dialogic Existentialism – we come to know ourselves through meeting another.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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