Getting Through Christmas?
6th December, 20110 Comments
Christmas can be a very stressful time. It is a time when there can be a huge divide between what we wish was true (fantasy) and reality. When papering over the cracks in relationships or emotional wounds seems like the only way to get through, when deep down inside there are feelings of loneliness, sadness or anger.
The expectation of Christmas and New Year is everywhere and has been around for months, on the TV, in the shops, in the high street and the even the buzz in the air. It is almost impossible to escape. The opposite of what we often hope will be of a time of child –like cheer, love and celebration instead becomes a hard slog with fulfilling expectations and coping with disappointments.
The pressure to be merry can sometimes magnetize the joy that is missing in one’s life, which can be very painful. To avoid that pain alcohol is almost encouraged, just as much as a fake smile to get through.
Or as our financial belts are pulled in this year and the cost of living is up, the stress of shelling out on food, booze and expensive gifts are expected, can lead to arguments and upset.
For some it maybe that their relationship is far from perfect and even crumbling, but instead of being honest with each other, they find themselves saying we’ll be fine once we get Christmas out of the way, even though they know it’s not true.
If this is ringing some bells, here are some tips to help get you through:
- Breathe. Slow deep breaths every time you feel yourself being overwhelmed.
- Take time for yourself. Everything is about balance and that means it is not just about giving time to others it is about taking time for one self.
- Spread the load: Don’t do all the preparations, decorating, shopping etc alone.
- Ask for help: If you are feeling in need, ask for help from friends, family and if you need it professional help. The Samaritans are on hand to help, if you just need someone to talk to and you have nowhere else to turn
- Have realistic ideas about Christmas:
- Is it about presents or people?
- Time on the Wii or time with those you love?
- Do we need to have vasts amount food we will waste or just a nice meal?
- Don’t be fake: be honest with yourself about how your feeling
- Be honest: Talk about how you’re feeling and if you’re coping with those you love and love you.
Where Can Counselling Help?
If you already know it is going to be a struggle to get through, then it also helps to know you have something already in place in the New Year, a lifeline to get you through, so check out counsellors in your area, pick up the phone and book a session for January. Having the connection made can give that little bit of extra strength to get through it, knowing that there is support out there ready and waiting for you.
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