Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: L. Selina Joynson BSc(Hons) MBACP
13th December, 20110 Comments
Christmas is a wonderful time of year where families and friends gather to celebrate with joy and love. Often it also reminds us of how we miss our loved ones if we have been separated from them.
Separated either through distance from our loved ones, physical space or emotional distance or of course bereavement.
This separation can be often be unbearable to cope with feelings of sadness, anger and confusing thoughts of what if’s.
So we may be driven to reach for comfort in other ways by reaching to eliminate the pain by unhelpful addictive behaviors.
How do we manage and how do we survive this period?
One way that will truly create a balance is to be present to the moment. Being aware of your own needs, shining a torch on how you are this moment.
Beginning with the outer condition of your body.
Temperature of your body what does it feel like warm, hot, cool or cold be as accurate as possible. Define the areas that are most warm working from the top of your head via your ears to your little toes.
Be curious and spend time investigating, then turn your attention to the inside of your body.
What feelings you may have any discomfort anywhere, be mindful of areas of comfort and pleasure.
This may take some time to really dissect these areas in so doing wondering how and what would it be like if there was something you could do to change things.
This is a vary basic but powerful example of how to think creatively about ourselves we often ignore our largest organ the body and its covering the skin.
How different it is when we take our attention from the past and how things were and from the future how things should be to being peaceful and present to the moment NOW.
Suddenly as I prepare for the Christmas celebrations I seem to change from wanting to accept the present that is already ours.
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