Rebecca Murray-Gilling

*Update:  I am currently unavailable for new client appointments until approx. May 2025. 


Feeling lost, uncertain, and lonely amidst the pressure to “have it all figured out” - be it in our career, education, relationships, life direction and purpose - can leave us feeling as if there is something wrong with us, or that we are not good enough - despite feeling that we've done everything 'right'.  It can be an overwhelming and sometimes dark place to be.

Perhaps you have a specific challenge that you would like to explore, or maybe you are reaching out for support during a really difficult and upsetting time.

Maybe you’re questioning the roles you find yourself playing in life and are curious to learn more about yourself, but aren’t sure where to begin.

If this sounds like something you are experiencing, then we might be a good fit to work together in therapy.


In my practice, I support clients with: 

Finding your way in your 20s and 30s:
Life changes, uncertainty and feeling lost; Low mood, Sadness & depression; Career & education; Changing relationships with family; Relationship difficulties; Figuring out who you are and what you want to do.

Life Direction:
Choices & changes; Support when things fall apart; Navigating relationships; Search for meaning and living authentically; Career, education & purpose; Dealing with uncertainty; Exploring who you are, and how to live the life you want. 

Identity & Self-Esteem:
Self-esteem, self-criticism & shame; Understanding yourself better; Anxiety and self-doubt; Women's issues across the lifespan; Men's mental health; Work-related stress and burnout; Being a high achiever, a 'helper', and perfectionism.

I also have experience working with communities and issues including:

• Disability, including sight loss and visual impairment (RNIB Sight Loss Counselling trained)
• Workplace stress
• Chronic illness
• LGBTQIA+ issues
• Gender, Sex / Sexuality and Relationship Diversity
• Men's mental health
• Women's issues

Women's issues
I work with women in their search for identity and meaning outside of their achievements, experiences, and the roles they find themselves playing in their lives. This often includes: self-esteem and self-criticism, relationship with self and with others, body-image, perfectionism, sexuality, career & education, and relationships. 

Men's mental health
I often work with men through issues including: work-stress & pressure, life direction, depression / low mood, anxiety, relationship to masculinity, self-criticism & self-esteem, relationship difficulties, shame, loneliness, and loss. We collaborate on your chosen goals, working within a safe environment of non-judgement, understanding, and authenticity. 

How can counselling and therapy help?

• Experience feeling heard, understood and accepted without judgement
• Space to be yourself
• Somewhere to bring painful feelings and experiences
• Figure out what is holding you back and find your way forward in life
• Improve your relationships with others
• Treat yourself with more kindness and care
• Support as you make positive changes
• Become better able to handle changes and challenges as they occur throughout life. 

What will therapy sessions be like?

• Being supported in a calm, confidential and judgement-free space, always moving at your own pace
• Being with difficult feelings in a safe way 
• An experience of being valued, seen and accepted for all that you are
• Authentic connection and conversation with a real person
• Therapy that is tailored to you as an individual, accounting for all your unique life experiences, background, and personality, that doesn't confine you to a box
• Gentle challenge and curiosity as you learn more about yourself and what you want out of life.

How I work:

Existentialism: Living a life that feels meaningful and authentic
Who are you, and what is your place in life? My approach to therapy is existentially based, offering the opportunity to gently explore the big questions in life, without judgement or pressure.

Philosophies drawn from Feminism and Spiritual Traditions
I draw on feminist and spiritual principles of Power-With (as opposed to Power-Over), fluidity, balance, and embracing change, in my approach to therapy. I also incorporate philosophies from spiritual traditions in my approach to understanding and coming to terms with suffering and uncertainty, and its impact on our lives. 

Impact of Culture, Gender, Sexuality and Individuality 
Who we are, and the challenges we face in life, do not exist in a vacuum: we are all directly and differently impacted by the circumstances in which we live, and by our unique experience of life. Our work in therapy takes all of this into account, as well as any other aspects that you feel are meaningful to you. 

Counselling for Sight Loss 

I am experienced in supporting people with visual impairment and sight loss through my work with sight loss charities in the UK and Canada. I have also completed training in counselling for sight loss with RNIB, and am working towards RNIB accredited status as a counsellor for sight loss. I aim to provide a counselling environment that is accessible, and work with you in a way that incorporates your unique lived experiences. 

I operate a 48-hour cancellation policy. Sessions cancelled less than 48 hours before the session will incur the full session fee (unless cancelled by the therapist). 

The fee per 50-minute session is £60. Fees are paid on the day of the session via direct bank transfer. 

I also offer: 
Assessment Session (the first session): 60 mins: £60 

Monthly Extended Session: 1hr 15mins (for long-term, in-depth work): £90

Prior to my counselling career, and as part of finding my own path in life, I worked primarily with young adults in support, well-being and educational roles in the UK, Canada, and Australia. This has included international higher education, international youth travel & cultural exchange, outdoor education and summer camp in Canada, in palliative care, disability support and social services, and as a secondary & sixth form teacher of the performing arts.