Pamela Duffy

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MA Couple Therapy, MBACP(Accred) ACC(Accred) FRTC BEd (Hons)
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High Wycombe, Bucks, HP15
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About me

Life is about relationships - and our nearest are only sometimes our dearest. Relationships can at times become very challenging. Over the years mine and my extended families' own relationship issues have included:

  • the challenges that arise from getting and staying married,
  • having and parenting children,
  • re-locations,
  • work related issues and career changes,
  • redundancy and unemployment,
  • chronic serious illness,
  • stress, depression,
  • disability,
  • alcoholism,
  • domestic violence,
  • suicide,
  • bereavement,
  • separation and divorce,
  • merging families,
  • adapting to different life stages,
  • caring for ageing parents, 
  • living and working between different countries.

I offer my clients the opportunity to explore safely and confidentially how their difficulties have arisen and what relief and change is possible. Together we work through what might be blocking them from making the changes they want and consider how and when clients might move forward and out of their stuck positions.

Common Problems include:

  • My partner and I just don't seem to talk any more - it feels as if we've drifted apart
  • We can't stop arguing
  • There's been an affair - what do we do now?
  • Our problems are affecting our sex life
  • Work/Life Balance
  • Our rows have become aggressive
  • We disagree about our children
  • I'm not sure about this relationship anymore
  • I've decided to end this relationship - what now?
  • How do we help our children cope with our separation/divorce?
  • Life after a relationship ends
  • Beginning again

Couples Counselling is here to help you either on your own or with your partner.

I am an experienced RELATE Certified Counsellor and BACP accredited counsellor. With over 25 yrs experience working in various agency settings and G.P. surgeries, I worked for RELATE for over 20 years and manage my own private counselling practice specialising in relationship therapy with individuals and couples.

I provide a separate, comfortable, private and discreet consulting room at my home in Holmer Green near High Wycombe, Bucks.

Telephone and online counselling is offered to those who cannot attend at my consulting room and is charged at the same price as face to face sessions.

I aim to reply to emails within 2 working days so check your spam folder if you are still waiting for a reply after 48 hrs.

Training, qualifications & experience

I achieved an Honours degree in Education and taught at both primary and secondary levels before beginning my counselling career.

A first counselling training led to my accreditation as an individual counsellor with the Association of Christian Counsellors (ACC).

I then specialised in Couple Therapy and relationship issues and became an experienced RELATE Certified Counsellor.

I hold a Post-Graduate Diploma in Couple Therapy, and a Master of Arts Degree in Couple Therapy, both validated by the University of East London.

I qualified as an Open College Network trainer and now write and deliver courses in life skills, communication and conflict resolution skills, assertiveness, customer care and workplace relevant skills.

I have worked as a trainer both in the UK and abroad, particularly, Uganda.

I completed a Diploma in Therapeutic Coaching and qualified as a Fusion Registered Therapeutic Coach (FRTC) in 2012.

I help individuals identify their goals across all areas of life - work, money, health, relationships - identify their blocks to those goals and develop strategies for progress.

I have BACP Accredited Counsellor and ACC Accredited counsellor status and am a UKRCP Registered Independent Counsellor.

My continuing professional development has included further study in

  • Domestic Violence,
  • Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse,
  • Children’s and Young People’s Counselling,
  • Family Counselling,
  • Separation and Divorce issues for couples and their families,
  • Family Law,
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy,
  • Solution Focussed Brief Therapy,
  • Clinical and Case supervision,
  • Aspergers in couple relationships 
  • Working with issues relating to Mental Health
  • Affairs.

I have completed a Certificate in Counselling Supervision and work with supervisees mostly around relational client casework.

I have been married for over 40 yrs and have three children and three grandchildren.

  • MA Couple Therapy
  • PG Dip Couple Therapy
  • B Ed (Hons)
  • Relate Certificate in Couple Counselling
  • Open College Network Trainer
  • MBACP (Accred)
  • ACC (Accred)
  • UKRCP (Reg)
  • Licensed Fusion Therapeutic Coach (FRTC)
  • Certificate in Counselling Supervision (OCN)

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

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Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Life Coaching

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£80.00 - £120.00

Additional information

Frequently Asked Questions

Q. What does it cost?
The standard fee is £80 per one hour session and £120 per 90 min session.

I offer an initial one hour consultation to gain understanding of the problems and for you to ask questions and discuss how we would work together. If seeking counselling as a couple, two further individual sessions are also offered. You then decide independently whether I am the right counsellor for you.

Q. How many sessions do I need?
It is suggested that clients should think in terms of an initial six sessions though you can end sooner than that if you wish. During the sixth session we will look at what has been achieved and whether to continue. No pressure is brought to bear on clients. Some clients like to take a break and return later (or not at all), others like to continue. There is no rule!

Q. What does confidentiality mean?
Nothing you say is revealed to anyone else without your specific consent. Any notes are kept in line with current Data Protection requirements. However, breaking confidentiality might need to be considered if there is substantial concern of the possibility of current serious harm to yourself or another - especially, though not exclusively, where a child might be at risk.

The other occasion when confidentiality can not be maintained is where a court orders me to produce counselling materials.

Q. Can I come on my own?
Yes. Whether you are single, or if you have a partner who doesn't want to come or you simply want to discuss things alone you are welcome to bring any aspect of your current, past or future relationships to counselling by yourself.

Q. Do you have to be married?
No, couple counselling offers therapy to anyone whether or not they are married, in a committed relationship, or on their own and whatever their age, race, gender, religion, personal beliefs or social background.

Q. What if separation is the only answer?
Whilst it is a difficult decision, especially if there are children involved, sometimes separation is the only solution you want to pursue. By helping you talk to each other and come to terms with the ending, counselling can help to make the break less acrimonious. This is vital, because if there are children involved you will continue to be parents for the rest of your lives and it would be enormously helpful if you can both be closely involved harmoniously in your children's lives.

Q. How long is a session and how often will I need to come? Appointments are generally for one hour, but clients can request to book a 90 minute session, especially if travelling a long way. I see clients regularly but not necessarily on a weekly basis. Frequency of sessions and my own and the clients' availability are discussed as part of the consultative process.

Q. What if I can't make an appointment?
If you cancel or miss a session without giving two working days' notice then you would be charged for that missed appointment. If appointments can be rescheduled there is no additional charge.

Q. How much do you charge for supervision?
Sessions usually last 1 1/2 hrs and cost £80.

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

Daytime sessions Monday-Thursday. 

Further information

My counselling practice is in Holmer Green and so within easy reach of Hazlemere, High Wycombe, Beaconsfield, Marlow, Maidenhead, Amersham, Chesham, Aylesbury and surrounding areas of Bucks, Berks, Herts and Oxon.

There is parking available.

Disabled access is possible but not easy. Unfortunately, no wheelchair access available.

I aim to reply to emails within 2 working days so check your spam folder if you are still waiting for a reply after 48 hrs.

For more information please refer to my website

As an individual member of both the ACC and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) I am bound by their 'Ethical framework for good practice in counselling and psychotherapy' and subject to the Professional Conduct Procedure for the time being in force. This includes a requirement for all counselling to be subject to appropriate professional supervision that maintains client confidentiality.

Holmer Green, High Wycombe, Bucks, HP15

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)

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I have worked as a couples counsellor/psychotherapist for over 25 years within my own private practice, GP surgeries and for Relate.

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Pamela Duffy
Pamela Duffy