Nicole Bender Reg.MBACP (Accred) EMDR and Trauma Specialist
Sometimes life is difficult. Issues from the past and present can affect us all at anytime in our lives and leave us feeling unbalanced. Symptoms may manifest in many different ways, emotionally, physically and mentally. This can leave a person feeling confused and bewildered. Talking to a trained therapist can help make sense of certain difficulties and problems, thereby encouraging you to make positive changes and providing you with learning tools to deal with these issues.
A very important aspect of therapy is the therapeutic relationship taking place in the counselling room. This relationship is different from ones you may have with family, friends or work colleagues. The whole scenario may seem daunting but we will build a relationship based on trust. My aim is to give you time and space in a non-judgmental and confidential safe environment to discuss and explore your problems and concerns.
If you would like to book an appointment what I normally suggest is we meet for an initial session where we can discuss what has brought you to counselling, what your goals and aims maybe. I can give you more information about how I work as a counsellor. This will help you decide if I am the right counsellor for you. There is no obligation to agree to continue at the end of the initial session.
I am an Integrative Counsellor. My approach varies according to your individual needs, thus enabling us to deal with a wide range of problems. Working together, we seek to tackle challenges or issues that you may be facing. Individuals think, feel and act in different ways. As an Integrative counsellor I can work with you to produce a unique therapy adapted to suit your needs.
A brief description of some of the different approaches I use:
EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing -
The primary goal of EMDR is to release you from the dydfunctional ties of the Past so that adaptive responses can be made in the Present. EMDR therapy works with emotional responses which have been inter-woven within our physical or somatic state. EMDR uses a body based technique called bilateral simulation. I would guide you through eye movements or taps in order to move a memory that has been stored in a part of or brain which becomes very activated to unrelated or related stimuli, to a place in the brain where the painful memories lose their charge. Please contact me for more information.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT -
Works by examining the ways that thought, feelings and behaviour can affect you and how these can influence our actions. We work together in changing your behaviour and/or thinking patterns
Person Centred Counselling -
Works by building a therapeutic relationship whereby you are able to gain a sense of personal power. Identifying how you want to live and then supporting you to acheive your goals.
Works through your perceptions of past experiences and how they influence you in the present.
Works by exploring how you organise your experiences, cognitively (thinking) emotional (feeling) movement, five sense perception (smell, sight, sound, touch, and taste) somatic responses heart rate, breathing and temperature. This works very well with the physical symptoms of anxiety and traumatic experience
Training, qualifications & experience
Compassionate Inquiry Course with Gabor Mate
EMDR PART 1, 2 & 3
ICISF Critical Incident Stress Mangement and Debriefing
NCP Diploma in Trauma Therapy L7
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute Training in Traumatic Memory and Survival Defenses
CPCAB Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
CPCAB Certificate in Counselling Skills
CPCAB Certificate in Understanding Substance misuse
CRUSE Awareness in Bereavement Care
Attachment Theory in Clinical Practice at The Bowlby Centre
I am a Registered and Accredited Member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP)
I am an experienced practitioner working with various different traumas. I have a vast experience in working with all types of addiction in the public and private sector. There are many other issues that underpin addiction and I have supported clients to move towards making positive changes. I also work with families which is important as they are often forgotten when they are supporting a loved one in active addiction.
I have also worked as a counsellor for a generic counselling organisation. My knowledge of working with anxiety and depression is extensive including supporting people who are dealing with bereavement and relationship breakdown plus many other issues. Please click on my link at the top of this page to my website to find out more information about my experience.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Sex problems
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Counselling appointments are 50 minutes. EMDR session 90mins
Limited spaces for those on low income where fees can be negotiated.
I work from two locations.
I work at the Light Centre in Monument EC3 on a Wednesday from 2-30pm to 8.30pm. It is near Monument, Fenchurch St, Tower Hill and Bank stations.
The other location is Bromley BR2. It is a 10 minute walk from Bromley South Station. There are great bus links and off street parking.
Bromley Appointments available weekdays, and evenings.
Please feel free to telephone or email if you would like anymore information.
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