Mirlene Santos

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About me

I am a qualified Integrative Counsellor with a BSc in Counselling and Coaching, specializing in Psychosexual Therapy. As a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP) and currently working towards accreditation with the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), I provide a safe and supportive space for individuals and couples facing personal, relational, and sexual challenges.

With experience in NHS and educational settings, I have helped people navigate a wide range of issues, including:

Sexual dysfunctions and intimacy difficulties
Abuse and trauma recovery
Bereavement and loss
Low self-esteem and confidence issues
Anxiety and depression
Personality disorders and emotional regulation challenges

How I Can Help
Are you struggling with sexual dysfunction, intimacy issues, or relationship challenges? Do you feel disconnected from your partner or experience frustration, anxiety, or shame around your sexual well-being?

I specialize in supporting individuals and couples facing:

✅ Sexual dysfunctions, including:

Erectile dysfunction (ED)
Premature ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation
Vaginismus
Dyspareunia (painful intercourse)
Low sexual desire (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder)
Sexual arousal difficulties

✅ Performance anxiety and self-esteem issues related to sex
✅ Mismatched libido and desire discrepancies in relationships
✅ Compulsive sexual behaviours 
✅ Difficulties with orgasm or lack of sexual satisfaction
✅ Healing from past sexual trauma or negative sexual experiences
✅ Communication and emotional intimacy issues within relationships

I provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can explore your concerns with openness and understanding. By addressing both the emotional and physical aspects of intimacy, we work together to:

🔹 Improve confidence and self-awareness around sex and relationships
🔹 Heal from trauma, abuse, and past experiences affecting your well-being
🔹 Enhance emotional and physical connection with your partner
🔹 Understand and manage the psychological aspects of sexual dysfunction
🔹 Develop tools to break free from unhelpful patterns and rediscover pleasure

Every client’s journey is unique. Whether you're looking for short-term support to address a specific issue or long-term therapy for deeper healing, I tailor sessions to your needs.

You Don’t Have to Face This Alone!
Sexual difficulties and emotional challenges can feel overwhelming, but with the right support, change is possible. Therapy is a collaborative and committed space where we work together to help you break free from limiting patterns, rediscover connection, and cultivate a fulfilling and satisfying life.

  • If you're ready to explore your concerns in a confidential, supportive space, I’m here to help.

Training, qualifications & experience

Qualifications

BSc in Counselling and Coaching
MSc in Psychosexual Therapy (currently in progress)

Experience

Counsellor at the NHS
Counsellor at The Awareness Centre Low-Cost Counselling Services
Counsellor in School Settings

Continuing Professional Development (CPD)

Kink-Affirming Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy Practices
​Porn Addiction and Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder
Supporting Adult Survivors of Abuse

Member organisations

BACP
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Areas of counselling I deal with

Other areas of counselling I deal with

 Areas of Support

  •  Struggles with intimacy or desire – Feeling disconnected from your partner or experiencing a mismatch in sexual needs.
  •  Sexual dysfunction – Navigating concerns like erectile difficulties, vaginismus, painful intercourse, or loss of arousal.
  •  Relationship & communication challenges – Strengthening connection, trust, and emotional intimacy.
  • Healing from sexual trauma & anxiety – Processing past experiences to feel safe and empowered in your sexuality.
  • Compulsive sexual behaviours & porn addiction – Managing patterns that affect self-esteem, confidence, and relationships.

Further information

I work using Integrative Counselling, which means I tailor my approach to meet each client’s unique needs by drawing from different therapeutic models. 

I incorporate Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to help clients identify and change unhelpful thought patterns and behaviours that may be impacting their well-being and relationships. I also use Sensate Focus, a structured, evidence-based technique designed to rebuild intimacy, enhance physical connection, and reduce performance anxiety in relationships. Additionally, I integrate Psychodynamic Therapy, which explores how past experiences, including childhood and relational patterns, influence present behaviours and emotional responses. By understanding these unconscious patterns, clients can gain greater self-awareness and create meaningful, lasting change in their relationships and sexual well-being.

London, Greater London, SW17

Type of session

In person
Online

Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
Couples
Organisations

Additional languages

Portuguese

Online platforms

Zoom
Mirlene Santos
Mirlene Santos