Lorna Slade MBACP (Reg) Ad Pro Dip PC, Dip Hyp CS
I am a counsellor, psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist working in a peaceful, accessible environment with private parking. I specialise in healing from psychological abuse, especially covert narcissistic abuse.
I am experienced in a wide range of areas including anxiety; depression; complex PTSD; low self-esteem; low confidence; bereavement; relationship issues; family estrangement; bullying in the workplace and phobias.
While working as a volunteer counsellor for Basildon Mind I trained in the Rewind technique and have experienced good results with people with PTSD.
Please feel free to telephone or email me in the first instance to tell me about yourself and how you're feeling and ask all you need to know.
After that we might arrange an initial session lasting 1.5 hours to take a deeper look at your situation. If we feel we have a good rapport, and if I believe I am qualified to help you, we will set a time to meet each week - be that evenings or daytime.
My approach and experience
I take an integrative approach using a range of tools, techniques and therapies. I am empathic and non-judgemental but also results-oriented as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change.
Therapy is not a linear process - it requires a level of motivation and courage to look deeper into ourselves, our life and our relationships: that process might leave us feeling more upset for a time, before a corner is turned.
Often we are subconsciously comfortable with our situation, no matter how negative, and unaware of certain patterns in our lives that could benefit from having a light shone on them.
We might be unaware of how much we believe our 'inner critic' as if it were stating facts, when the fact is it's a legacy of our past and nothing more. Helping you to identify and challenge your 'core beliefs' about yourself as well as become more observant of those negative thoughts that compel you to feel and behave in certain ways is one approach we might take.
My aim is that you will become your own therapist for the long-term and achieve greater levels of clarity and self-love.
I specialise in emotional, physical and spiritual recovery for those who have been brought up by and/or are currently dealing with a narcissist in a relationship, or with the immediate after-effects of a break-up with a narcissist - obsession, complex PTSD, anxiety, depression, dealing with hoovering and so on.
Narcissistic abuse is complicated to describe. Some of the many impacts on victims include a deep sense of unworthiness, sadness and loneliness; problems with fitting into his or her environments and a fear they will always be abandoned, blamed and shamed. Success, especially in career terms will likely bring out impostor syndrome and as well as that victims of N abuse, whether in their past or currently, tend to attract workplace bullies.
The insidious nature of narcissistic abuse means a victim can fail to recognise what's going on, sometimes for decades, but it's never too late to seek help.
Narcissists, especially coverts, carry out most of their abuse behind closed doors with cruel words and actions they then completely deny. They often carry out smear campaigns by lying or twisting the facts around the victim's words and actions. As parents they play 'favourites' between their children (golden child/scapegoat child), thus ruining sibling relationships. Totally unwilling to take responsibility for their own bad behaviour and unable to be criticised, they would love to continue to enmesh the scapegoat in an exhausting dance to please them, until the victim says 'enough is enough'.
Rather than focus too much on the abuser, my emphasis is on healing from narcissistic abuse. The journey requires determination and I work best with those clients who have experienced an awakening that they have been abused and are ready to undertake a journey back to self.
See my interview about healing from narcissistic abuse on Phoenix Radio's Mental Health Matters podcast Episode 15, September 2016:
For a more detailed description of narcissistic abuse and whether it applies to you, visit my website www.iwtherapy.com
Method of counselling
I offer face-to-face or skype counselling as people communicate as much through their body language as they do verbally.
I am fully CRB checked and insured and a registered member of the BACP. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society; Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling Society.
Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Personality disorders
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Couples counselling
- Gestalt therapy
- Human Givens psychotherapy
£45.00 for the first 1.5 hr consultation and £45.00 thereafter. £50.00 for 60 minutes.
Cancellation within 24 hours of the session will incur the full fee.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Weekdays. Evening appointments available.
Types of client