About me

I am a counsellor, psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist working in a peaceful, accessible environment with private parking. I specialise in healing from narcissistic abuse.

I am experienced in a wide range of areas including anxiety; depression; complex PTSD; low self-esteem; low confidence; chronic anger; bereavement; family estrangement; bullying in the workplace.

While working as a volunteer counsellor for Basildon Mind I trained in the Rewind technique and have experienced good results with people with PTSD.

First contact

Please feel free to email me in the first instance to tell me about yourself and how you're feeling. After that we would speak for five minutes on the telephone, where you can ask all you need to know.

I offer an initial session lasting 1.5 hours to take a deeper look at your situation. If we feel we have a good rapport, and if I believe I can help you, we will set a time to meet on a regular basis.

My approach and experience

I take an integrative approach using a range of tools, techniques and therapies. I am empathic and non-judgemental but also results-oriented, as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change.

Therapy is not a linear process - it requires a level of motivation and courage to look deeper into ourselves and our relationships: that process might leave us feeling more upset for a time, before a corner is turned.

Often we are subconsciously comfortable with our situation, no matter how negative, and unaware of certain patterns and triggers that could benefit from having a light shone on them.

We can be unaware of how much we believe our 'inner critic' when the fact is it's a legacy of our past and nothing more. Identifying and challenging your 'core beliefs' about yourself and becoming more observant of those negative thoughts that compel you to feel and behave in certain ways is one approach we might take.

My aim is that you will become your own therapist for the long-term and achieve greater levels of clarity, self-love and self-acceptance. 

Specialism

I specialise in emotional, physical and spiritual recovery for those who have been brought up by a narcissistic parent; who are currently dealing with a narcissist in a relationship, or dealing with the after-effects of a break-up with a narcissist - obsession, complex PTSD, anxiety, depression, dealing with hoovering and so on.

Narcissistic abuse is complicated to describe. Some of the many impacts on victims include a deep sense of unworthiness, sadness and loneliness; problems with fitting into his or her environments and a fear they will always be abandoned, blamed and shamed. Success, especially in career terms will likely bring out impostor syndrome and, as well as that victims of N abuse, whether in their past or currently, tend to attract workplace bullies.

The insidious nature of narcissistic abuse means a victim can fail to recognise what's going on, sometimes for decades, but it's never too late to seek help.

Rather than focus too much on the abuser, my emphasis is on healing from narcissistic abuse. The journey requires determination and I work best with those clients who have experienced an awakening that they have been abused and are ready to undertake a journey back to self. 

See my interview about healing from narcissistic abuse on Phoenix Radio's Mental Health Matters podcast Episode 15, September 2016:

http://bit.ly/2cxPkau.

See my blog for the Counselling Directory:

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/blog/2018/06/26/narcissists-as-parents-and-children/

For a more detailed description of narcissistic abuse and whether it applies to you, visit my website www.iwtherapy.com

Method of counselling

I offer face-to-face or Skype counselling as people communicate as much through their body language as they do verbally.

I am fully CRB checked and insured, a registered member of the BACP and an accredited member of the National Counselling Society. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Training, qualifications & experience

Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society; Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling Society.
MBACP Registered
Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate

EMDR Module One with EMDR Centre London


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Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

NCS

National Counselling Society

The National Counselling Society

This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations.

In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

National Counselling Society

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Fees

Additional information

£80.00 for the first 1.5 hr consultation. Thereafter £70.00 for daytime appointments, £75.00 for evening appointments.

Cancellation within 48 hours of the session will incur the full fee.

Availability

Weekdays. Evening appointments available.

Heybridge
Maldon
Essex
CM9 4UN

Type of session

In person
Online

Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults
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Lorna Slade

Lorna Slade