Lorna Slade MBACP (Reg) MNCS (Accred)
I am a counsellor, psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist working in a peaceful, accessible environment with private parking. I specialise in healing from narcissistic abuse.
I am experienced in a wide range of areas including anxiety; depression; complex PTSD; low self-esteem; low confidence; chronic anger; bereavement; family estrangement; bullying in the workplace.
While working as a volunteer counsellor for Basildon Mind I trained in the Rewind technique and have experienced good results with people with PTSD.
Please feel free to email me in the first instance to tell me about yourself and how you're feeling. After that we would speak for five minutes on the telephone, where you can ask all you need to know.
I offer an initial session lasting 1.5 hours to take a deeper look at your situation. If we feel we have a good rapport, and if I believe I can help you, we will set a time to meet on a regular basis.
My approach and experience
I take an integrative approach using a range of tools, techniques and therapies. I am empathic and non-judgemental but also results-oriented, as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change.
Therapy is not a linear process - it requires a level of motivation and courage to look deeper into ourselves and our relationships: that process might leave us feeling more upset for a time, before a corner is turned.
Often we are subconsciously comfortable with our situation, no matter how negative, and unaware of certain patterns and triggers that could benefit from having a light shone on them.
We can be unaware of how much we believe our 'inner critic' when the fact is it's a legacy of our past and nothing more. Identifying and challenging your 'core beliefs' about yourself and becoming more observant of those negative thoughts that compel you to feel and behave in certain ways is one approach we might take.
My aim is that you will become your own therapist for the long-term and achieve greater levels of clarity, self-love and self-acceptance.
I specialise in emotional, physical and spiritual recovery for those who have been brought up by a narcissistic parent; who are currently dealing with a narcissist in a relationship, or dealing with the after-effects of a break-up with a narcissist - obsession, complex PTSD, anxiety, depression, dealing with hoovering and so on.
Narcissistic abuse is complicated to describe. Some of the many impacts on victims include a deep sense of unworthiness, sadness and loneliness; problems with fitting into his or her environments and a fear they will always be abandoned, blamed and shamed. Success, especially in career terms will likely bring out impostor syndrome and, as well as that victims of N abuse, whether in their past or currently, tend to attract workplace bullies.
The insidious nature of narcissistic abuse means a victim can fail to recognise what's going on, sometimes for decades, but it's never too late to seek help.
Rather than focus too much on the abuser, my emphasis is on healing from narcissistic abuse. The journey requires determination and I work best with those clients who have experienced an awakening that they have been abused and are ready to undertake a journey back to self.
See my interview about healing from narcissistic abuse on Phoenix Radio's Mental Health Matters podcast Episode 15, September 2016:
See my blog for the Counselling Directory:
For a more detailed description of narcissistic abuse and whether it applies to you, visit my website www.iwtherapy.com
Method of counselling
I offer face-to-face or skype counselling as people communicate as much through their body language as they do verbally.
I am fully CRB checked and insured, a registered member of the BACP and an accredited member of the National Counselling Society. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society; Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling Society.
Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Career counselling
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Health anxiety
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Compassion-Focused Therapy
- Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT)
- Gestalt therapy
- Human Givens psychotherapy
- Humanistic therapies
- Jungian therapy
- Other therapies
- Person-centred therapy
- Psychoanalytic therapy
£70.00 for the first 1.5 hr consultation. Thereafter £60.00 for daytime appointments, £65.00 for evening appointments.
Cancellation within 24 hours of the session will incur the full fee.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Weekdays. Evening appointments available.
Types of client