About me
Do you have a sense of inner battles and find decision making hard? Do you feel a constant sense of anxiety; self-blame; ruminate endlessly; worry about the future; second-guess yourself; people please and/or experience chronic anger or hatred? Do you lack trust in people; feel sad, depressed and dominated by a constantly active inner critic? These are just a few of the symptoms that result for those brought up by and/or in a relationship with someone who has a narcissistic personality style.
I am one of the UK's original specialists in psychological and emotional healing from narcissistic abuse. I am a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, EMDR and and Attachment-Focused EMDR practitioner and certified trauma professional.
I also offer therapy for grief; anxiety; low confidence and self-esteem; scapegoating and family estrangement.
First contact
Please take a look at my website and feel free to email me in the first instance to tell me a bit about your situation and current goals for therapy. After that we can arrange to speak on the telephone for five minutes and potentially book a 1.5 hour assessment session.
My approach and experience
We cannot solely talk our way into healing abuse and as such I take an integrative approach using a wide range of therapeutic modalities. I am empathic and non-judgemental but also results-oriented, as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change.
The type of therapy that I offer also includes psychoeducation and work between sessions, so I ask for a degree of commitment to and preparedness for that. Therapy is not a linear process and requires the courage to look deeper into ourselves and our relationships. That process might leave us feeling more upset for a time, before a corner is turned.
My aim is that you will become your own therapist for the long-term and achieve greater levels of self-awareness, peace and clarity.
Specialism
I specialise in emotional and psychological recovery for those who have been brought up by a narcissistic parent(s); who are currently involved with a narcissistic person in a relationship, or experiencing the after-effects of a break-up with a narcissist.
Narcissistic abuse is exquisitely designed to turn the target against themselves, long after the abuse has ended in many cases. Some of the impacts include a deep sense of not being 'good enough', foundational anxiety, deep, often unconscious layers of shame, an over-focus on others and a sense of unworthiness, sadness and loneliness. Implicit trauma memories of the past can be triggered in our current environment, for example a tone of voice, a look, when we are 'watched' or in the spotlight. Underlying trauma beliefs around being in trouble or that something bad is about to happen are common. The workplace can be either a place of safety or a minefield of triggers, and in life, there are commonly issues with friendships, relationships and parenting.
The insidious nature of narcissistic abuse means a target can fail to recognise what's going on, sometimes for decades, but it is never too late to seek help.
See my interview about healing from narcissistic abuse on Phoenix Radio's Mental Health Matters podcast Episode 15, September 2016:
See my blog for the Counselling Directory:
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/blog/2018/06/26/narcissists-as-parents-and-children/
For a more detailed description of narcissistic abuse and whether it applies to you, visit my website at https://innerworks-therapy.com
Method of counselling
I solely offer online therapy via Microsoft Teams or Google Meet, and find that as effective as meeting 'in the room'.
I am fully CRB checked and insured, a registered member of the BACP and an accredited member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Training, qualifications & experience
Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society; Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society.
- MBACP Registered
- Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate
- EMDR Certified Practitioner, EMDR Centre London
- Advanced workshop training with Dr Laurel Parnell in Attachment-Focused EMDR for healing relational trauma and adults abused in childhood
- Member of the Parnell Institute
- I undertake regular CPD training with acknowledged experts in the field of complex trauma and of narcissistic abuse
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I have successfully completed CPD training in Janina Fisher’s Complex Trauma Certification Programme (CCTP/CCTP‑II) through PESI UK. As such I am a Certified Trauma Professional with Evergreen Certifications. Certification Number: 614539
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£75.00 per session
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
£90.00 for the first 1.5 hr consultation. Thereafter £75.00 for daytime appointments.
£90.00 for one-hour EMDR sessions
Cancellation within 48 hours of the session will incur the full fee.
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