About me
Hello,
Is life a struggle for you? Are you noticing aloneness, waves of frustration, ongoing sadness, or you notice yourself being more distant, clingy, lost, or unseen as you wear different masks day to day? Has something happened to you or a chapter of your life is ending? Sometimes, a mixture of thoughts and feelings that’s hard to be with or make sense of can send us into a collapse or a rage or into a panic day or night.
Bottling up difficult emotions often leads to ill health affecting one’s ability to enjoy life. When suppressing emotions, facing it alone or using distractions or unhealthy choices to cope is no longer working for you, or you just need someone to talk it through and gain some clarity, just get in touch. Together in safety and confidence, we can look at your experience of life as it has been and as it is now. We’ll explore how have you got here? What is your way of being; with yourself, with others, with love, loss, letting go, endings, uncertainty, fear, pressure, shame, stress or longing? Working in an integrative relational way I may use a few different theoretical approaches to suit you, be that Person Centred, Existential, Developmental Psychology or Attachment and Psychospiritual perspectives.
With an understanding of living with difference, dual cultures (British and Asian) having a creative mind, experience in early child education and developmental learning, I personally value connection; with nature, people and being mindful and compassionate. I believe in the benefits of facilitating mindful awareness, insight and resilience that can help one live with peace and joy and navigate life's challenges. I have a special interest in helping clients to uncover their authentic self, developing self-compassion and understanding their relationships with self and others. My work is Attachment and Trauma-informed, influenced by western science of relationships and the wisdom of eastern traditions for example; Interpersonal neurobiology/ Attachment science and Mindfulness/ Traditional Buddhist theories of human existence. In our work, there will be potential to gain a deeper understanding of you, in the unravelling of thoughts, emotions and patterns to make sense them, discover new perspectives and make new meaning so that you may find your next steps to feel better about living and enjoy life.
Our work together will be in a warm, supportive and compassionate space in a dedicated therapy office in central Surbiton or online if preferred. Contact 07305 934888 or lai@mindsbe.com to request a free 15 minute telephone consultation or book a session. Visit mindsbe.com for more information on location, services, news and tools that may be of help to you.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a member of the BACP with a first class BA Honours degree in Integrative Relational Counselling. This means I am qualified and experienced in taking a clinical approach when combining relevant theoretical models such as psychodynamic or existential or cognitive behavioural to best tailor my work with you. The basis of my approach is person centred. With experience in counselling, mentoring and coaching, I have worked with adults and young adults from diverse cultures in the NHS, in different University settings and in the community. My expertise include work with relationship issues, depression, low mood, low self esteem, social anxiety, OCD, self harm, loneliness and isolation, managing difficult emotions, perfectionism, procrastination, support to study, family/ cultural pressures, perinatal/ parenting issues, health issues, existential concerns, loss and grief.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Feeling sad
- General anxiety issues
- Relationship issues
- Low mood
- Low self worth
- Perfectionism
- Procrastination
- Support and coaching for academic study
- Career support and coaching
- Student counselling and coaching
- Social and cultural issues for overseas students
- Inner critic
- Isolation
- Existential crisis and concerns
- Imposter syndrome
- Bullying
- Suicidal thoughts
- Health anxiety
- Social anxiety
- Friendship issues
- Fear of rejection
- Work related stress
- Asian and ethnic minority issues
- Hoarding
- Guilt
- Health issues
- Infertility
- IVF
- Parenting issues
- Family conflict
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Codependency
- Separation and divorce
- Relationship break up
- Loss and grief
- Compassion focus
- Cultivating self compassion
Therapies offered
Fees
£70.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
£70 per session.
When I work
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Further information
Some concessions may be available please get in touch for more information.
Therapeutic coaching, mentoring, single sessions therapy offered. For more information, please contact 07305 934 888 or visit MindsBe.org
