About me
Holding it all together. Never switching off. Putting everyone else first. A drink, or something else to take the edge off. You learned these strategies for a reason, and they worked. Now they probably don’t.
You might notice it in relationships, in intimacy, at work, in feeling numb or disconnected, or in a growing sense that this is not the life you were meant to have.
Much of my work is with men who recognise that, though the pattern is not confined to men and I work with adults of any gender.
I specialise in addiction, codependency and the other ways people learn to cope. These are usually solutions to something older: early relationships that asked you to be someone you weren’t, or a sense that you were only accepted if you behaved ‘properly’. The anxiety, the overthinking, the low mood and the feeling of being stuck or burnt out come from the same place, which is why working on the surface alone rarely shifts anything for long.
Starting therapy can seem daunting, but the rewards can be great if you take that risk. I’ll help you feel safe and secure as you work at your own pace to figure out what’s best for you and what you’d like to address.
Who am I?
I'm Joel, a BACP-Accredited therapist. My style is warm, grounded and professional. I pay close attention to how people experience themselves and others, and support clients as their confidence and self-trust grow.
I came to this work through my own recovery from addiction and years of my own therapy. I know how much of a person can stay hidden, and how much can change when you no longer have to.
I have extensive experience working with:
- addictions and recovery (including 12-step frameworks)
- men’s issues
- *codependency and relationship difficulties
*Codependency refers to patterns of over-focusing on others at the expense of one’s own needs and self-worth.
Where does therapy happen?
I offer:
- In-person therapy in Clapham, London and Tonbridge, Kent.
- Online therapy: Meet me wherever you are via Zoom.
What if I'm neurodivergent?
I work with all neurotypes. Adults who experience autistic, ADHD or OCD characteristics, whether diagnosed, self-identified or still working it out, are a regular part of my practice. I bring my own lived experience of neurodivergence to that work, alongside ongoing CPD, and I adapt how sessions run to suit how you think and process: pacing, communication style, structure, processing time and sensory needs.
What would we do in therapy?
I'm an integrative therapist, which means I don't apply one method to everyone. I tailor our work to your individual needs and preferences. Our sessions may involve:
- exploring how past relationships and experiences have shaped your sense of self
- noticing patterns of self-criticism, anxiety or over-responsibility
- developing greater emotional awareness and self-regulation
- building self-trust, boundaries and confidence over time
I draw on person-centred, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural and mindfulness-based approaches, as well as creative methods when helpful.
What if I've tried therapy before and it didn't help?
This is common, and worth talking about rather than a reason not to try again. Sometimes the fit was wrong, sometimes the timing, and sometimes the work stayed at the surface when the difficulty was somewhere else.
How can coaching help in therapy?
I am also a certified professional coach. Some clients choose to integrate coaching sessions after completing therapy, to support future goals, decision-making or life transitions.
Therapy and coaching are distinct approaches, and we would always discuss together what feels most appropriate for you.
What next?
Call or email me directly, or press the 'Book intro call' button above to arrange an initial 20 minute chat, and I look forward to meeting you soon!
Training, qualifications & experience
- BSc Applied Psychology, University of North London
- Certified Professional Coach, International Coach Academy
- Level 3 Diploma, Diet, Exercise and Fitness, Stonebridge
- MSc Therapeutic Counselling, University of Greenwich
- MBACP (Accred) - BACP Registered Member
- Online & Telephone Counselling Certified Counsellor - Counselling Tutor
- Extensive CPD training in Attachment, Anxiety, Trauma, Addiction, Neurodiversity, Internal Family Systems, Mindfulness approaches
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
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Fees
£95.00 per session
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I offer a limited number of concessions. Please enquire for further details.
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