Jen Mak MSc MBACP - Grief and anxiety counselling - Slots each day
A space for – your loss, anxiety, wellbeing
The loss of people or things can bring anxiety and depression as we struggle to take care of our own needs and wellbeing. By focusing on the root of the matter, we can make some lasting and meaningful changes.
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The way we talk to others and ourselves is a window to what’s going on inside. My counselling space, ‘A Space For’ is a place for you to explore what that is. We can be too easily swept up in the day-to-day and in our long ingrained habits and beliefs that it takes dedicated time and focus to unravel what really is causing us pain, the grudges and guilt. What really is behind the ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ that we say?
I have a focus on bereavement counselling as I believe that all pain can be attributed to loss and grief over a life that was or a life that could have been. The theories of grief can help us make sense of our anguish when we lose a relationship, a job, as well as the passing of a loved one.
Responses to grief can be broadly placed in two camps: restorative orientation or loss orientation (Dual Process Model of Grief by Stroebe and Schut). Some people find it easier to place their energy into getting on with the rest of life, preoccupying themselves with the practical and controllable sides of life. Others are floored and swept up in the waves of loss. No side is wrong. We need to experience both.
Counselling can be valuable to those who have become stuck in the restorative orientation. In order to get by each hour, let alone each day, they detach from their feelings of loss and sometimes with their feelings entirely, the positives as well. A counsellor can be a friendly companion to support you explore loss so that you don’t feel completely drowned by it.
On the other hand, if you have been stuck in loss orientation for a while and feel the need to get up and go (such as pressure from family or from work), but haven’t found that motivation, counselling can help you explore the barriers.
Some people use prescription drugs to manage their health. I appreciate how they can help some people but others might struggle with side effects or withdrawal difficulties. Whilst I do not diagnose or prescribe health conditions, I can support you with considering prescription drugs or withdrawing from them.
My general approach is person-centred with a goal of helping you identify what the mismatch is between where you currently are and where you want to be. I believe that once we truly understand and accept the difference, we can begin to figure out how to bridge the gap.
Training, qualifications & experience
- 2009 – Masters in Health Psychology
- 2016 – Diploma in Person-Centred Therapeutic Counselling
- 2014-2016 – Connect Volunteer, Leeds Survivor Led Crisis Service (LSLCS)
- 2015-2016 – Volunteer Counsellor, St Vincent’s, Leeds
- 2016-2019 – Bereavement Volunteer, Cruse, Leeds
- 2019-2020 - Health & Wellbeing Coordinator, Leeds University Union
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Initial Session (50 minutes)
£50 per session
In this initial discussion, I’ll explain how I counsel and you’ll explain what is going on for you. After experiencing my way of working, you can choose whether to continue working with me or I can help you find other sources of support.
Counselling (50 minutes per session)
£50 per session
Weekly sessions are generally recommended. Some people benefit from one single session or several, that is up to you.