Jen Mak MBACP - Evening and Weekend Online Counselling for Understanding Loss
Evening and Weekend Counselling for Understanding Loss.
The way we talk to others and ourselves is a window to what’s going on inside. ‘A Space For’ is a place for you to explore what that is. We can be too easily swept up in the day-to-day and in our long ingrained habits and beliefs that it takes dedicated time and focus to unravel what really is causing us pain, the grudges and guilt. What really is behind the ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ that we say?
When training as a counsellor I chose to focus on bereavement counselling as I believe that all pain can be attributed to loss and grief over a life that was or a life that could have been. The theories of grief can help us make sense of our anguish when we lose a relationship, a job, as well as the passing of a loved one.
Responses to grief can be broadly placed in two camps: restorative orientation or loss orientation. Some people find it easier to place their energy into getting on with the rest of life, preoccupying themselves with the practical sides of life. Others are floored and swept up in the waves of loss. No side is wrong. We need to experience both.
Counselling can be valuable to those who have become stuck in the restorative orientation. In order to get by each hour, let alone each day, they detach from their feelings of loss and sometimes with their feelings entirely, the positives as well. A counsellor can be a friendly companion to support you explore loss so that you don’t feel completely drowned by it.
On the other hand, if you have been stuck in loss orientation for a while and feel the need to get up and go (such as pressure from family or from work), but haven’t found that motivation, counselling can help you explore the barriers.
My general approach is person-centred with a goal of helping you identify what the mismatch is between where you currently are and where you want to be. I believe that once you truly understand and accept the difference, you can begin to figure out how to bridge the gap.
Training, qualifications & experience
- 2009 – Masters in Health Psychology
- 2013 – ‘Understanding Loss, Grief & Bereavement’ workshop (Child Bereavement UK)
- 2014 – Level 2 Certificate in Equality and Diversity
- 2015 – Mental Health First Aid standard course
- 2016 – Diploma in Person-Centred Therapeutic Counselling
- 2014-2016 – Connect Volunteer, Leeds Survivor Led Crisis Service (LSLCS)
- Training on complex trauma, dissociation, multiple parts alters and the diagnosis disassociate identity disorder (2015)
- Training on supporting people who hear voices (2015)
- 2015-2016 – Volunteer Counsellor, St Vincent’s, Leeds
- 2016-2019 – Bereavement Volunteer, Cruse, Leeds
- Level 2 Awareness in bereavement care: The foundation course (2016)
- Training on sudden and traumatic death (2016)
- Training on substance misuse (2018)
- Training on supporting people with dementia and those close to them following a bereavement (2019)
- Training on bereaved by suicide (2019)
- 2019 – Present – Health & Wellbeing Coordinator, Leeds University Union
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Free Initial Session (50 mins)
In this free initial discussion, I’ll explain how I counsel and you’ll explain what is going on for you. After experiencing my way of working, you can choose whether to continue working with me or I can help you find other sources of support.
£40 per session (50 minutes) (negotiable down to £30 for those under financial strain – no proof is required, based on your own honesty).
Weekly sessions are generally recommended. Some people benefit from one single session or several, that is up to you. In most of my experience, 4 to 6 sessions have been a sufficient amount to support someone to get unstuck and carry on in their own process.