This may be the time when you are evaluating your life and are trying to make the right choices. A failing relationship, problems with weight, anxiety, panic attacks and depression are all issues that can hold you back from a fulfilling life. Memories of past trauma can all take their toll and it may help you to know that therapy may help you to move forward in ways that you had not previously considered.
Many things can affect our wellbeing and how we feel. In turn this can prove difficult for our relationships and tempers become frayed. Loneliness and isolation are also more tangible as we see many changes in our society in general and wonder what hope we have for ourselves. Many other things affect us too. Loss of a job, health issues; either due to an illness or normal changes in life. Grief issues over the loss of a family member or friend are all difficult to work through. Work related issues may cause stress and anxiety and it's not always easy to talk through with a family member or friend.
Sometimes things in our past keep coming into our mind or our childhood family circumstances cause intrusive thoughts and unresolved issues around traumatic events cause emotional dysregulation, guilt, low self esteem, depression and affect life in the 'here and now'
If you are feeling that you would like to talk things through, counselling is often really helpful to help you know that you are not alone and there is someone to listen and understand your feelings. At times you may have talked to friends and family but do not wish to burden them too much. Often feelings of inadequacy and high expectations of ourselves can keep us from seeking help. Do contact me and see if we can find a way forward.
I hold a point of view that everyone is valuable and that life is a gift; to be lived to the fullness possible within the circumstances faced. I generally have a positive outlook on life and I am well motivated to navigate difficult situations. I too have needed outside help when life has been tough and counselling has been very helpful and although challenging, I have always valued these times of change. I consider all human beings to be of value and significance and consider it a privilege to walk alongside another person, accepting of others without prejudice.
I expect you may like to know why I became a counsellor. I started my counsellor training after I quickly found I needed more skills to help people who were sharing life issues with me when I worked for a charity in the 1990's. I had previously worked in an office, in sales and as an employment consultant and manager. I have worked with people from all 'walks' of life and realise that it is not what has happened to you in life, it is what you do with what happens in life that has the biggest effect. I have been counselling now for over 20 years and have experienced a wide range of life situations, so you will not shock me with what you want to share and I look forward to journeying with you.
How counselling may help
We all face unexpected events in life and also sometimes things from the past erupt into our present lives and at times we need to ask for help. I know that when life has not been easy and I have experienced counselling for myself I am aware how difficult it can be to choose a counsellor with whom you can build trust to share your deepest feelings. I use my own life experience and the skills I have learnt within my work as a counsellor to offer you a place to explore, build a relationship together to find a way forward without judgement and look at the things that are troubling you.
Unresolved life issues can affect our well being, functioning, mental health and concentration: even to the point of feeling life is not worth living. Counselling may help you to create positive and meaningful change and help you to better understand and resolve things leading to better relationships with others. You may already have tried other ways to cope, sometimes these are unhealthy and can cause additional stress in the long term. Perhaps you are fed up with being the way you are and now want someone to listen to your concerns.
How I work
At our first appointment we can talk through your situation, get to know each other and discuss how I might offer help. I am happy to work with you short-term (6 to 12 weeks), or long-term, up to one-year.
I offer regular reviews where you are able to say how counselling is working for you and because I work in a client-centred way, you are able to set your goals and work towards them, making responsible choices about your future.
I am trained in Integrative counselling, which means that I am able to draw upon several types of counselling and tailor them to meet your needs. I am trained in a person-centred approach. Drawing on Psychodynamic insights. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Developmental and Attachment Theory.
I also able to work creatively in counselling which can have amazing results and if this is something that you would benefit from, we could discuss this and include this in our work together. I use drawing, journalling, stones and shells, sandplay and other creative tools.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Training, qualifications & experience
I started my counsellor training in 1997. I am trained to CPCAB Level 5 Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling and a Level 6 supervisor in training. I am a Registered, Accredited Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I keep my training up to date with over 30 hours of CPD (continued professional development) each year and have regular monthly supervision to discuss my case workload and ensure I work to the professional ethical standards set by BACP.
I have experience in client work around, anxiety, depression, bereavement and loss, work related issues, bullying, trauma, PTSD, rape, historical childhood sexual abuse, dissociation and DID, ritual abuse. Attachment issues, teenage anxiety, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, panic attacks. Family and relationship issues, marital and extramarital affairs.
I have over 20 years experience of counselling adults. I am also trained in working with trauma and childhood sexual abuse issues. I have also managed a counselling service, supervised counsellors and offered in-house training for counsellors.
I also offer couples counselling and I am really interested in the dynamics of relationships and attachments. Also the effect of when one or both parties have a trauma background or dysfunctional childhood. Systemic family systems theory informs my work. I have an interest in neuroscience to help clients understand how the body and mind are affected under stressful conditions. I also have an interest in human development and appreciate that a childhood of neglect, sexual abuse, dysfunctional family situations, can cause an arrest in development and problems in later life. I am interested in ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) as a measure of outcomes. I am training to be a Lifespan Integration Therapist. Developed to calm the nervous system and create new neural pathways in the brain and calm trauma responses.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
When a child does not receive the basic elements of being attached to a secure caregiver this may result in difficulties relating to others. It may result in anxieties when a person we feel attached to goes away, even for short periods of time. For others they are unable to tolerate close relationships causing difficulties in adult life in families and creating intimacy.
Counselling may help to form a secure base within a relationship of trust, although this is not a 'friendship' it can offer help to try out new ways of relating.
Trauma, neglect, inconsistent parenting, physical, sexual or emotional abuse in early childhood may cause a child to dissociate. This is a normal way of reacting to an abnormal situation. At times the world may not appear real or at times people seem far away. For others they may experience themselves as different 'parts' emerging to cope with day to day life.
Counselling is helpful to regulate emotional states and work work towards increasing resources to cope.
£45.00 per session
Concessions offered for
EAP/Health Insurance Providers
I offer an initial assessment appointment at a reduced cost of £35 for a 45 minute session. This helps me to get to know you better and take all the necessary information for us to see if we can work together. Further sessions are for one hour at £45
Couples: £60 (all sessions are for 1 hour but may be extended if agreed.
Supervision: £50 per hour
Face to face. Online via Zoom or telephone
Availability Monday daytime from October 2021. Thursday, Friday. Some Saturday's available. Updated 17/09/2021
Supervision Wednesday available
Counselling offers you a safe environment to look afresh at your life and look at new ways to manage and grow in self-awareness.
I am also trained to counsel relationship issues and offer couples counselling as this often helps to talk together with someone who can remain objective and impartial.
If you are not sure about counselling and would like your questions answered, I would be pleased for you to call me to talk. Please do telephone or email me and we can arrange to meet and discuss your needs.