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Attachment-Based Therapy | MBACP (Accred)

About me

Relational and Attachment-Based Therapy | £65.00 per session

I hope this page gives you a sense of who I am and how I work.

I am an attachment-based therapist and Accredited Member of the BACP, working with adults experiencing relational difficulties, grief, trauma, anxiety, low mood, self-esteem struggles, and life transitions.

The impact of our relationships and life experiences can stay with us long after those experiences have passed.

If you’re feeling burnt out, shut down, overwhelmed, or caught in the same painful cycles with others (or with yourself), you’re not alone. These experiences can show up in intimate relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or at work. Beneath most struggles sits a longing: to be met, understood, valued, or allowed to be fully yourself.

I work from an attachment-based approach rooted in the belief that what is wounded in relationship can be repaired in relationship. So much of what we experience – anxiety, low mood, loneliness, conflict, self-doubt – is shaped by earlier relational experiences and the ways we learned to cope, protect ourselves, and survive emotionally. These patterns can continue long after they stop serving us. Together, we explore them with compassion and curiosity – not to blame the past, but to free you in the present.

Grief is also a significant part of the work I do. Sometimes this grief is easy to recognise, and sometimes it sits more quietly beneath low mood, disconnection, or a sense that something in life no longer fits. This may relate to the loss of someone important, but also to the quieter losses that shape us over time – childhood experiences, family breakdown, estrangement, unmet emotional needs, relationship endings, dislocation, or major life transitions. In therapy, we make space for both: the grief you can name, and the grief you’ve been carrying silently for years.

My style is warm, steady, and genuinely relational. I pay close attention to the ways you’ve learned to navigate the world – through shutting down, accommodating others, striving, withdrawing, or staying strong for too long – and we explore the emotional logic behind these responses with compassion for why they formed. We work at a pace that feels right for you, while gently making space for the discomfort that meaningful change can involve.

In our work, we explore:

  • relational patterns and the needs beneath them
  • how past experiences echo through present-day feelings
  • how familiar patterns and ruptures show up – and how repair can happen within them
  • strengthening boundaries, self-worth, and emotional clarity 
  • meeting the parts of you that feel unseen, overwhelmed, or “too much”

My background in yoga and contemplative practice helps me bring a calm, grounded presence to sessions. I’m also guided by the natural world – its rhythms, resilience, and interconnectedness – which influences how I hold the work, even when this remains unspoken.

If this way of working speaks to you, I invite you to get in touch.

I also welcome therapists in training who are seeking their own therapy, particularly those interested in experiencing attachment-based work from the inside.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Diploma in Attachment-based Psychotherapeutic Counselling 
  • Diploma in Person Centred Therapeutic Counselling
  • Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP, 400343)

Member organisations

BACP
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Areas of counselling I deal with

Fees

£65.00 per session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors

Additional information

  • Sessions are online via Zoom and can be weekly or fortnightly
  • I have some limited availability at a lower cost and can offer concessions for students.

When I work

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Brighton, East Sussex, BN1

Type of session

Online

Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
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