I have twenty years training and experience in humanistic psychotherapy, particularly TA, Gestalt, Psychosynthesis, the work of Virginia Satir and Formative Psychology. I have also been influenced by the Emotional Health work of Bob Johnson, by my experience of running Dialogue groups in prisons (Dialogue being based on the work of physicist David Bohm), by my engagement in the Integral field pioneered by philosopher Ken Wilber and by my immersion in the philosophy and dialogue protocols of Mondo Zen.
Bob Johnson’s approach centres on the understanding that children interpret traumatic and ordinary events to mean something negative about themselves, which then becomes their unconscious reality. He cultivated a particular line of enquiry that, with a client’s consent, will reveal these hidden beliefs which can then be consciously reevaluated. These glimpses of truth can be compelling signs that change is possible.
Co-arising with these interpretations of reality, however - and indeed holding them in place - are unconscious bodily constrictions and/or disconnections that also need reorganising if a more evolved perspective is going to have stability.
Formative psychology takes a somatic - bodily - approach to working with these muscular habits, setting up new ways of organising oneself physically to enjoy peace, responsibility, freedom and wholeness as a mature, relaxed adult.
This entails a discipline that can be hard to commit to when the mind has normalised an inaccurate view of oneself and the body has normalised discomfort, so it can help to have the support of a therapist to establish a practice of embodiment.
According to Integral evolutionary theory, this assumption about one's own wrongness in childhood is an ordinary developmental stage rather than a psychological glitch. It seems we need the discomfort of feeling separate to impel us through the stages of forming an autonomous adult that can then be liberated back into being aware of its own connectedness to all life and an impulse towards further conscious, embodied evolution.
My experience of running Prison Dialogue groups helped me see that if a secure boundary is formed on a collective or individual level, life's impulse to harmonise emerges into that formed interior.
Using EMDR shows me that shock is what creates a dissociation, or disconnection from the body, which is the only instrument we have for forming that secure boundary at a personal level. In providing a safe place for a client to stay connected to the embodiment of their present, regardless of how traumatic their descriptions of memories might be, they can strengthen their own capacity for absorbing shock.
The shock is not the problem, as shocking as it is, as much as the disconnection from the body that can earth the current of the shock. The formative, generative work can then take place.
Experiencing week long Mondo Zen retreats since 2011 and training in the koans of the Mondo Zen dialogue protocol has supported the integration of all my own therapeutic training. It's deepened my capacity to stay present and engaged in all circumstances, to befriend and accept every part of this human experience and to transmit that faith in embodied truth to clients. .
Running Anger Workshops reminds me that under the wildest, most destructive rage or the deepest, most icy constriction is fear created by a real or perceived loss or hurt that is interpreted as being about the self (as described above) which then creates more fear and therefore more denial of the embodied self.
But that very feeling of dislocation is what can remind each person to start looking for themselves, to come home and to grow their embodied connection to life. And that is what builds wholeness, love and competence.
If things never went 'wrong', how would we recognise the impulse to make this incredible journey?
Training, qualifications & experience
One year course in psychotherapy (Spectrum, 1993-4).
Postgraduate course in psychotherapy(Spectrum, 1995).
Postgraduate continuation (Spectrum, 7 days yearly CPD on-going since 1996).
Counselling Skills (Spectrum, 1994).
Individual therapist since 1997.
Working with Couples training (Spectrum, 2002-3).
Couples therapist since 2003.
Working with Anger training (Spectrum, 1998-2002).
Working with Anger weekend workshop leader since 2002.
Dialogue facilitation training at HMP Whitemoor (Prison Dialogue, 1995-6).
Dialogue facilitator at HMP Whitemoor (1996-7).
James Naylor foundation conference (yearly attendance 2002-2009).
Formative Psychology Series (Spectrum, 4 days yearly CPD on-going since 1998).
EMDR Level 1 training and refresher (2002).
Integral Spiritual Experience (Asilomar, CA, 2009).
Week long silent Zen retreats with mondozen.org since 2011. At least one a year.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
£75 Spectrum, London N4 (individuals & couples). Tuesday & Weds daytime & evenings.
Spaces come up sometimes, please call 07957 111693 to enquire.
£70 The Granary, Woodley's Yard, West St, Aldbourne SN8 2BS (individuals & couples). Monday, Thursday morning & Friday.
Spaces available. Call 07957 111693.
£70 Bramham Therapy Rooms, Marlborough, Wilts SN8 1JE (individuals & couples). Thursday afternoon.
Spaces come up sometimes, please call 07957 111693 to enquire or www.bramhamtherapy.co.uk.
Working with Anger weekend workshops at Spectrum, London N4.
10.00am until 5pm Sat/Sun.
2020 workshop dates June 6th & 7th, Oct 31st & Nov 1st, £310
Call 0208 341 2277 or 07957 111693 to book.
For full list of workshop dates or more info www.spectrumtherapy.co.uk.
Spaces available. Three workshops are run per year.
Food, Hunger, Longing and the Body weekend workshops at Bramham Therapy (Newbury) 47 Cheap St, RG14 5BX
10.00am until 5pm Sat/Sun.
Next workshop 22nd & 23rd Feb 2020 £250
Call 07957 111693 to book.
Fortnightly ongoing women's group (closed), London N4.
£400 (avg) per term (6-8 fortnightly Tuesdays 6.30-9.30pm plus one Saturday per term).
Call 07957 111693 to enquire.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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So sorry, all the places I work face to face have stairs. Please contact me to work via Skype.
weekdays and weekday evenings. Saturday morning.
Types of client