Dr. Nigel Smaller DProf BSc UKCP (Reg)
I am often asked what areas I specialise in, to which I reply that I focus on "people". It might be that you are seeking therapy to address anxiety, depression or relationship issues but no matter what brings you here, you are at core a human being in a world with others. The stresses and challenges of this simple premise are infinite and our attempts to cope with our unique situation can only truly be understood by the people living it. Unravelling this reveals the layers of belief and givens which shape and hold us to unhealthy or meaningless modes of existence. Gradually the layers can be gently understood and challenged so that step by step minute increments of change help rebuild a more vital and meaningful way of being in the world.
As a gestalt and existential therapist, my approach has an eastern philosophical feel whilst being grounded and practical too. Balancing empathy, healing and challenge is part of the art of being a therapist and is what I would seek in a therapist myself.
Prior to entering the world of therapy, I had over 20 years in the corporate world and understand ’real world’ pressure, office politics, aggressive targets, presentation anxiety and the other varied challenges of that arena. I still provide training to corporates around stress, mindfulness and resilience.
What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy has no universal definition so I can only attempt to describe what it is for me:
It’s a relationship where the therapist takes a genuine interest in your life and how you experience it. They are interested, present, non-judgemental and empathic. They seek to create safety and to meet you where you are, whether sad, excited, angry, anxious, worried or even bored.
Every way of being has meaning and interest for me. I might sometimes focus on the content of your story or history (recent or past) but will often focus on the process of your being – that is, how you think or act or make sense of and meaning in the world, how you are physically, what matters to you most, who matters to you, what is missing from your life. How do you stop yourself from being more fully yourself. What are your hopes and wishes? These questions arise naturally as part of an ongoing discussion – a mutual enquiry into your life. You will slowly develop an understanding of who you are and how you are in a way which facilitates growth and change. The movement is deep and gradual and may not always be obvious or conscious although often is. Occasionally we might use creative means such as visualisation, dreams, writing or drawing.
Finding the right person to journey with is half the battle. Therefore, I am happy to speak to anyone via telephone for a free of charge and confidential call about working with me and to answer any questions.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a qualified psychotherapist and accredited member of the UKCP. For those who are not aware - and most members of the public have no need to be - the UKCP requires a postgraduate level of professional training lasting about 4-5 years.
The BACP, however is the most popular accrediting body and requires a minimum diploma level of education and training - usually 2 - 3 years.
My doctorate looked at midlife career change.
I have recognised qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and coaching which I can draw upon if it supports and/or facilitates the therapeutic work. In addition I am trained in EMDR and BLAST - two forms of eye movement therapy for the rapid reduction of traumatic symptoms. I am a member of the Society for Existential Analysis (SEA).
- Doctorate (DProf) in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling (from the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling)
- Diploma in Gestalt Counselling (from The Gestalt Centre)
- Diploma in Organisational Gestalt (from Metanoia)
- NLP Practitioner Certificate
- Certificate in Integrative Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy
- Certificate in Counselling Skills (Foundation)
My first degree was in Mathematics and Computer Science from Brunel University.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Career counselling
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Physical abuse
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
My modality is Gestalt-Existential a philosophical approach that acknowledges our freedom to choose how we live and the challenge to live it authentically in a world where the opinion of others matter so much too. It is also creative and experimental, optimistic and relational.
£70 - per 50 minute session for ongoing sessions. This is suitable for most clients who undertake regular therapy (brief or open ended)
I can sometimes provide short notice appointments if only one or two sessions are required. This is for clients who want to discuss a particular subject and not have ongoing therapy. Please contact me for pricing if this is what you think you would like.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Mondays Tuesdays in High Wycombe, Thurs-Fri in Reading.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
Hi - I am a practising therapist/supervisor and registered member of the UKCP. .