Hello and thanks for taking a look at my profile. I’m a counsellor based in Southsea, Hampshire where currently I’m seeing people online or on the phone and sometimes outdoors in a local green spot. I work with people from across the country - one of the benefits (along with convenience and being environmentally friendly!) of working online. I’ve been a counsellor for over 12 years and before that I worked in radio and television production. I work with individuals and couples and my aim is to help people live lives that are more fulfilling, less stressful and more connected with the people and values that are important to them.
How I work
For individuals: I work by being curious about you and your world and what life is like for you and how you’d like things to be different. So if you and I were to start a conversation about your life, I’d be asking: what’s the most important question or problem that’s keeping you awake at night? What’s the thing you would most want me to understand so that together we can start looking for a better way forward?
It might be about where you’re going in your life; do you need a new direction, personally or professionally? It could be about getting over a loss or bereavement; do you need someone to listen to your painful feelings without judgement? It could be about depression or anxiety; are you looking for coping skills and self-acceptance?
For couples: I work with couples using an 8-session counselling programme which will help you understand and communicate better so that you’re more able to resolve the problems between you. These could be due to the fallout from an affair, a feeling that you’re drifting apart, problems over childcare, clashes over jobs, household responsibilities etc.
When working with couples, I’ll be asking not just about what’s happening between you in the present day but also about your experiences of relationships and family life in the past so we can understand how that might be playing out for both of you today.
If you’d like to drop me a line with any questions or a booking enquiry, I can usually offer an appointment within a week either for a free 15-minute introduction (with no obligation to take it any further) or to book a first session.
How do you know I’m ‘legit’?
I’m a member of the National Counselling Society, one of the U.K’s professional membership associations, which means I’ve reached an appropriate level of training and experience for the work that I do. It also means I work to a set of ethical guidelines including rules on confidentiality, ‘doing no harm’, professional boundaries etc. I have professional indemnity insurance to cover my practice, do regular CPD training to update my skills and have clinical supervision with a senior colleague to support my work. If in any doubt, please do check out my listing (membership number NCS15-02266) on the National Counselling Society website: www.nationalcounsellingsociety.org
Here are some of the issues I can help you with:
- Recovery after an affair
- considering whether to separate
- improving communication in a relationship
- reducing stress and anxiety
- improving self-esteem and self-confidence
- enhancing self-awareness
- getting over a bereavement or a change in life circumstances e.g disability, retirement, the end of a relationship etc
- finding meaning in life when it seems to have disappeared
More about how I work
"Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end" (Robin Sharma)
So there's something about your life or the way you're feeling that you want to change - although it might not seem like it, this is a good sign; it's only when we become aware that something's wrong that we can start doing something to make it better.
I believe that everyone has the ability to make changes in their lives, and I agree with the self-help writer Robin Sharma that it can be difficult; that sometimes self-doubt, anxiety or pain (physical or emotional) can get in the way and stop us making different choices about how we feel, think or behave.
Getting a sense of perspective on what you're feeling and thinking, and developing a sense of self-compassion and understanding is a good first step; because being harsh and self-critical towards yourself can often be a barrier to change.
Sometimes our family background, life experiences and deep-seated beliefs about ourselves and/or others can get in the way too; life 'knocks us out of shape' and we start doubting ourselves and our ability to change or adapt.
Counselling helps make links between past experiences and present-day problems, and then to work on how you'd like your life to be in the future. Sometimes 'the end of next week' is about as far ahead as you can see right now, but that's ok too. Clearing away the emotional clutter so as to gain clarity does take time, but it starts with a single thought - 'I want things to be different'.
Getting started in counselling
I offer a free 10-15-minute phone call, so that we can get a sense of what each other is like and whether we're a good 'fit' for working together.
We can also talk about what you want to get out of counselling and what your questions are at this stage.
If that feels right, we can arrange a first appointment at a mutually convenient time, usually within about a week. I'll then send you (by text or email) my bank details - I do ask for the session fee to be paid in advance for that first appointment.
In the first session, there's time to talk in more detail about what's troubling you, and we can decide what to focus on. At the end of the session, we'll book in for a second one - it's most effective if we see each other weekly, at least at the beginning, but I do understand that this isn't always possible. We can discuss what's realistic for you.
If this sounds like something you'd be interested in, then please contact me or visit my website for more information.
Training, qualifications & experience
I’ve been a counsellor since 2008 and over the years have worked with people on a very wide range of issues, including:
- anxiety and how to move on from it
- grief, loss, bereavement and sadness and how to rediscover a sense of purpose
- feeling ‘stuck in a rut’, midlife crisis, boredom and dissatisfaction and how to reignite your passion for life
- low self-esteem or self-confidence and how to build yourself back up
- long term ill-health and disability and how to live well with long term conditions
The COVID-19 pandemic has forced us all to learn new ways of doing things in order to keep ourselves and others safe, and counselling is no different! What I’ve also learned is just how helpful online counselling can be for you, the client:
- your safe space can be a quiet room in your home or office - or even your car. It’s your territory, your own environment and this can be very reassuring especially in the early days of counselling work.
- environmentally friendly! No need to drive, find parking or use public transport - just turn up to your laptop, tablet or telephone when our session is due to begin and you’re ready to go.
- screen-sharing of useful worksheets, diagrams and information sheets. On some video apps we can share screens so that as we talk, I can easily send you documents to read or fill in during the session to help you make progress towards your goals. Much easier and more engaging than sending emails after the session has ended.
How do online sessions work?
When we have our initial ‘meeting’ on the phone, we’ll talk about which video app is going to work best for you - usually FaceTime (for Mac or iPhone users) or Zoom. If you’re unsure about using or downloading any of these apps, please ask - I’ll do my best to help.
Once you’ve chosen which app to use and we’ve agreed a date and time, I’ll call you at that time to start the session. As we all know, technology does sometimes go wrong, so the backup plan would be for us to try a phone call or, failing that, a text message conversation to reschedule the session. But this really is a very unusual occurrence.
If you'd like to know more about my online counselling service, or have any questions, please email me to arrange a free 15-minute, no-obligation call.
I completed my professional practice training at Southampton University with a Higher Education Diploma in Integrative Counselling; I have completed further professional training in:
- TA-based Couples Counselling
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
- Working with Chronic Pain
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Using art materials in counselling
- Mindful Recovery from Addiction
- Understanding and working with M.E (myalgic encephalopathy) in counselling
- Working with creative materials in therapy and supervision
- Focusing-Oriented Therapy
- Working with young people experiencing depression
- Working with addictions
- Working with anxiety
- Safeguarding children and vulnerable adults
I'm also a trainer on disability issues for therapists, with an online training course and tailored face to face workshops.
If you're interested in booking a telephone or online session, please email me in the first instance so that we can exchange online contact details.
Registered / Accredited
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National Counselling Society
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Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
'Meaning of life' or existential issues
Becoming a step-parent
From £50.00 to £85.00
Free initial telephone or online session
EAP/Health Insurance Providers
My counselling fee for individuals is £50 for each 50 minute session. Sessions are normally weekly.
My fee for couples counselling is £85 per 90-minute session. Sessions are normally fortnightly.
I offer morning sessions from 08.30. My latest appointment is 17.30 on Tuesdays and Wednesdays only. I offer a free 15-minute consultation by phone or Zoom.