Denise Pickup MA MBACP (Accred.) Couples Counsellor /Psychotherapist
Relationship Problems? Work-related Stress? Or maybe you wish to explore individual issues in a safe place? Consider my 16 years' experience and wide portfolio of skills at your disposal to help. Feel welcome to arrange a free preliminary chat to see if I can help you; it is most important to feel comfortable with the person you choose to undertake such personal work. If I am not the best person for you I will undertake to signpost you to someone suitable.
After undertaking Couple Training with Relate in 1999 I now work equally with Couples and Individuals. All work is tailored to your needs with regular reviews to ensure we are on track to achieve your goals. I am Bupa Recognised and registered with most Insurance companies and supply Employer Assistance Programmes for workplaces.
Are you considering Divorce or Separation or just feeling that things might be better?
Affairs, Betrayals, Conflict, Stress, Sex and Communication Problems affect our intimate relationship. Some are the symptom of a problem; others bring a problem to the surface.
A relationship crisis need not mean the end. It can, with appropriate help, open up new understanding and a better way of being together.
Deal safely with anger and loss and find better ways to relate. Relationship counselling can offer a new perspective to help you move forward. Anger and Bullying by partners, friends, relatives and colleagues can also be addressed. Understanding destructive patterns can permit healthier ones to emerge.
Do you prefer to explore a personal issue alone? Whether you are struggling with low self-esteem, loss or sensitive problems you can be assured of support and confidentiality to work at your own pace.
Considering Separation or Divorce? Separation Work can offer closure and resolution where there is no way forward, for the best chance to move on to a more positive life. Divorce may or may not be the best option - why not make the best supported choice? Is the underlying issue one which will emerge in another relationship? If you leave will you leave the pain behind? Thinking, exploring and understanding can be worthwhile.
Assessments prepared for Domestic Violence, Reconciliations, Private Referrals and Treatment Plans. Reports for Solicitors, Employers, Rehabilitation Experts, Occupational Health and Insurance Companies.
Training, qualifications & experience
Denise Pickup MA MBACP (Accred.) is BUPA recognised. She has 16 years' experience of counselling couples and individuals. She is an 'expert' on counselling for 'supernanny.co.uk' and writes a column for their website and also writes and edits "Types of Distress" for The Counselling Directory. She has supplied counselling and training for employers and publicly funded bodies for many years.
Relate Certificated Counsellor with further training, including MA and Diplomas, at The Tavistock London (TCCR). As an accredited BACP member she operates within their guidelines to offer a safe place to explore. She is registered with UKRCP.
MA: Attachment and Psychoanalysis in Couple Relationship (Tavistock TCCR 2011)
Postgraduate Diplomas: Attachment and Psychoanalysis in Couple Relationships (Tavistock TCCR) Psychoanalytic Study of the Couple Relationship (Tavistock TCCR) CBT. Certificates: Marital and Couple Counselling (Relate); Counselling Skills; Counselling Theory.
Post Graduate Training: TA, Short-term Solution Focused Couple Counselling, Bereavement, Mental Illness (Depression and Anxiety), Domestic Violence, Loss of Desire, Abuse, Prisoners & Partners, Parenting, Mentalisation, Affairs, Sexuality.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Reconciliation Reports for Couples considering reuniting after separation.
Conflict Management for events such as Weddings, Graduations, Family Celebrations.
Consultations for specific problems by telephone or Skype.
Regular workshops for couples or groups.
Business workshops offered for individuals or groups.
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
Please ask for a free telephone consultation to find out if I can help. Email me to arrange a time so we can see if I can help. If I cannot I will try to recommend someone who may be able to help.
Book a telephone appointment without obligation: www.denisepickup.co.uk
Lincoln Couple Fees: 60 minute sessions: £60; 90 minutes: £90.
Lincoln Individuals Fees: 50 minute sessions: £50; 60 minutes: £60
London Fees: One-hour sessions: £90. One hour 30 minutes: £120.
Skype/email/telephone counselling: 30 minutes: £30.
Crisis Work/ Reports/ Reconciliation Reports & Domestic Violence: prices on request.
Insurance/funded work Employer Assistance Programme and BUPA work undertaken.
Reduced fees may be available in Lincoln in case of financial hardship/trainees. Please ask.
It is important to feel happy with your therapist, so email me for further details to organise a no-obligation preliminary discussion. If I am not the right person I will try my best to help you find a therapist to suit you.
My confidential city-centre office in Lincoln has a private waiting room and disabled access. Flexible appointments, including evenings, are offered when available, usually on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
London appointments are offered fortnightly on Saturday afternoons. Supplementary sessions can be arranged via Skype, Hangout or telephone.
What to Expect
After a talk by telephone or an email exchange we can arrange to meet for a first assessment. I will explain how I work and how confidential the work is. (You can see details of this on my website). If you have concerns I will be open and interested to know what they are. Our first session is used to explore what has brought you along and some of your history so that I can build up a picture in my mind of what might be happening for you. You will be asked what it is you want to get from our work and together we will have a focus, so we know what we are trying to achieve. This is our contract. Most people choose to work for six sessions to get an understanding of their problem although sometimes it is less. If there is a convenient time each week that suits you then you will have priority for that session and it can be reserved and booked for you in advance. It will remain yours until work ends. As the work progresses you may choose to space the sessions to fortnightly or monthly as need and resources allow. I prefer three days for cancellations if possible.
The new understanding can be enough to allow you to move forward. Some people choose to work longer to allow their new insight to be 'worked through' - that means you will have the opportunity to experience acting in a new way with me as a therapist. You may, for example, have an opportunity to work with your sadness or anger which has been buried. Everyone is different and is treated as such. The work will revolve around your needs and I will strive to explore with you and keep the work realistic so it can offer you satisfaction. All work is reviewed every six weeks.
If, when we meet, I feel I would not be the best person to help you I will try to put you in touch with the most suitable person.
Types of Work
Initial assessments are usually available at short notice.
Short-term (CBT and solution-focused) and long term work (psyschodynamic or psychoanalytic) is available.
For those who prefer a more practical way of working I offer workshops for couples, individuals and groups on anger, conflict, communication and stress management.
In-house training for counsellors and organisations.
Advice on Abuse and Domestic Violence for partners & parents.
Assessments for Social Workers and Solicitors.
Experienced with Armed Services couples.
Referrals from GPs, Solicitors and Individuals welcome.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Weekdays in Lincoln 9.30 - 5.30. Late nights: Tuesday and Thursday. Saturday afternoon fortnightly in London.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|