About me

Relationship Problems?  Work-related Stress? Or maybe you wish to explore individual issues in a safe place?  Consider my 16 years' experience and wide portfolio of skills at your disposal to help. Feel welcome to arrange a free preliminary chat to see if I can help you; it is most important to feel comfortable with the person you choose to undertake such personal work. If I am not the best person for you I will undertake to signpost you to someone suitable.
After undertaking Couple Training with Relate in 1999 I now work equally with Couples and Individuals. All work is tailored to your needs with regular reviews to ensure we are on track to achieve your goals. I am Bupa Recognised and registered with most Insurance companies and supply Employer Assistance Programmes for workplaces.

Are you considering Divorce or Separation or just feeling that things might be better?
Affairs, Betrayals, Conflict, Stress, Sex and Communication Problems affect our intimate relationship.  Some are the symptom of a problem; others bring a problem to the surface.
A relationship crisis need not mean the end. It can, with appropriate help, open up new understanding and a better way of being together.
Deal safely with anger and loss and find better ways to relate. Relationship counselling can offer a new perspective to help you move forward. Anger and Bullying by partners, friends, relatives and colleagues can also be addressed.  Understanding destructive patterns can permit healthier ones to emerge.

Do you prefer to explore a personal issue alone?
Whether you are struggling with low self-esteem, loss or sensitive problems you can be assured of  support and confidentiality to work at your own pace. 

Considering Separation or Divorce?
Separation Work can offer closure and resolution where there is no way forward, for the best chance to move on to a more positive life.  Divorce may or may not be the best option - why not make the best supported choice?  Is the underlying issue one which will emerge in another relationship?  If you leave will you leave the pain behind?  Thinking, exploring and understanding can be worthwhile.
Assessments prepared for Domestic Violence, Reconciliations, Private Referrals and Treatment Plans. Reports for Solicitors, Employers, Rehabilitation Experts, Occupational Health and Insurance Companies.

Training, qualifications & experience

Denise Pickup MA MBACP (Accred.) is BUPA recognised.  She has 16 years' experience of counselling couples and individuals. She is an 'expert' on counselling for 'supernanny.co.uk' and writes a column for their website and also writes and edits "Types of Distress" for The Counselling Directory. She has supplied counselling and training for employers and publicly funded bodies for many years.

Relate Certificated Counsellor with further training, including MA and Diplomas, at The Tavistock London (TCCR). As an accredited BACP member she operates within their guidelines to offer a safe place to explore. She is registered with UKRCP.
MA: Attachment and Psychoanalysis in Couple Relationship (Tavistock TCCR 2011)
Postgraduate Diplomas: Attachment and Psychoanalysis in Couple Relationships (Tavistock TCCR) Psychoanalytic Study of the Couple Relationship (Tavistock TCCR) CBT. Certificates: Marital and Couple Counselling (Relate); Counselling Skills; Counselling Theory.
Post Graduate Training: TA, Short-term Solution Focused Couple Counselling, Bereavement, Mental Illness (Depression and Anxiety), Domestic Violence, Loss of Desire, Abuse, Prisoners & Partners, Parenting, Mentalisation, Affairs, Sexuality.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Reconciliation Reports for Couples considering reuniting after separation.
Conflict Management for events such as Weddings, Graduations, Family Celebrations.
Post-Divorce Parenting.
Consultations for specific problems by telephone or Skype.

Regular workshops for couples or groups.
Business workshops offered for individuals or groups.


Additional information

Please ask for a free telephone consultation to find out if I can help. Email me to arrange a time so we can see if I can help. If I cannot I will try to recommend someone who may be able to help.

Book a telephone appointment without obligation: www.denisepickup.co.uk

Lincoln Couple Fees: 60 minute sessions: £60; 90 minutes: £90.
Lincoln Individuals Fees: 50 minute sessions: £50; 60 minutes: £60

London Fees: One-hour sessions: £90. One hour 30 minutes: £120.
Skype/email/telephone counselling: 30 minutes: £30.
Crisis Work/ Reports/ Reconciliation Reports & Domestic Violence: prices on request.

Insurance/funded work Employer Assistance Programme and BUPA work undertaken.
Reduced fees may be available in Lincoln in case of financial hardship/trainees. Please ask.

It is important to feel happy with your therapist, so email me for further details  to organise a no-obligation preliminary discussion. If I am not the right person I will try my best to help you find a therapist to suit you.


Weekdays in Lincoln 9.30 - 5.30. Late nights: Tuesday and Thursday. Saturday afternoon fortnightly in London.

Further information

My confidential city-centre office in Lincoln has a private waiting room and disabled access. Flexible appointments, including evenings, are offered when available, usually on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
London appointments are offered fortnightly on Saturday afternoons. Supplementary sessions can be arranged via Skype, Hangout or telephone.

What to Expect

After a talk by telephone or an email exchange we can arrange to meet for a first assessment.  I will explain how I work and how confidential the work is. (You can see details of this on my website). If you have concerns I will be open and interested to know what they are.  Our first session is used to explore what has brought you along and some of your history so that I can build up a picture in my mind of what might be happening for you.  You will be asked what it is you want to get from our work and together we will have a focus, so we know what we are trying to achieve.  This is our contract. Most people choose to work for six sessions to get an understanding of their problem although sometimes it is less. If there is a convenient time each week that suits you then you will have priority for that session and it can be reserved and booked for you in advance.  It will remain yours until work ends. As the work progresses you may choose to space the sessions to fortnightly or monthly as need and resources allow. I prefer three days for cancellations if possible.

The new understanding can be enough to allow you to move forward.  Some people choose to work longer to allow their new insight to be 'worked through' - that means you will have the opportunity to experience acting in a new way with me as a therapist.  You may, for example, have an opportunity to work with your sadness or anger which has been buried.  Everyone is different and is treated as such.  The work will revolve around your needs and I will strive to explore with you and keep the work realistic so it can offer you satisfaction.  All work is reviewed every six weeks.

If, when we meet, I feel I would not be the best person to help you I will try to put you in touch with the most suitable person.

Types of Work
Initial assessments are usually available at short notice.
Short-term (CBT and solution-focused) and long term work (psyschodynamic or psychoanalytic) is available.
For those who prefer a more practical way of working I offer workshops for couples, individuals and groups on anger, conflict, communication and stress management.
In-house training for counsellors and organisations.
Advice on Abuse and Domestic Violence for partners & parents.
Assessments for Social Workers and Solicitors.
Experienced with Armed Services couples.
Referrals from GPs, Solicitors and Individuals welcome.

7 Beaumont Fee

Great Portland St

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme

Additional languages



Denise Pickup

Denise Pickup