Navigating matrescence: 5 benefits of therapeutic coaching

Matrescence, or the process of becoming a mother, is an incredible, transformative journey and it's something I wish I had known about earlier as it would have saved me so much suffering on my own motherhood journey.

Matrescence affects our brain, our hormones, how we think, learn, and understand, how we see the world, our personal beliefs, and even the fundamental aspects of our identity - not to mention our body, our hair, and our relationships. There is not one part of you that doesn't change when you have a baby.

Becoming a mother is something that is given the space we need in the Western world. When we're pregnant, it's all about us and then the moment the baby is born it becomes all about them and for most mums there is not time to navigate all the overwhelming changes we are going through. Matrescence actually goes on for the first years similar to adolescence and it's full of moments of doubt, exhaustion, and emotional highs and lows. If you're feeling a little lost in this process, know that you're not alone. One tool that can be especially powerful during this time is working with a therapeutic coach.

If you’re not familiar with therapeutic coaching, it’s a blend of traditional coaching methods and therapeutic techniques designed to support personal growth and emotional well-being. And when it comes to navigating matrescence, it can be a game changer. Here are five ways that working with a therapeutic coach can help you feel more connected, confident, and at peace during this life-changing time.

1. Reclaim your sense of self

Becoming a mother often comes with a profound shift in identity. You might find yourself wondering, "Who am I now?" - especially when the old version of yourself no longer fits. A therapeutic coach can help you reconnect with your core identity, while also embracing the new version of yourself. You'll learn that it's okay to let go of who you were before parenthood and lean into the person you're becoming. Reclaiming your sense of self allows you to feel more grounded and confident as you navigate your new role as a mother.

2. Feel more connected in your relationships

Parenthood, particularly in the early stages, can strain relationships - whether it’s with your partner, family, or friends. The demands of caring for a newborn, managing new responsibilities, and adjusting to a new dynamic can make it feel like you're losing touch with the people who matter most. Through coaching, you can improve communication, set healthy boundaries, and work on nurturing those connections. You'll be better equipped to balance the needs of your family while also keeping your relationships strong and healthy.

3. Reduce anxiety and overwhelm

The constant flood of information about parenting - from social media, books, and well-meaning advice - can quickly lead to feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. Many mothers struggle with feeling like they aren't doing enough or are constantly failing. A therapeutic coach can help you develop tools to manage anxiety, quiet your inner critic, and focus on being present. Instead of chasing perfection, coaching encourages you to embrace imperfection and prioritise what truly matters - your well-being and your relationship with your child.

4. Boost your confidence as a parent

Doubt and insecurity are common feelings for many new parents. It’s easy to question every decision you make, wondering if you’re getting it right. A coach can help you build your confidence by reminding you that you don't have to be perfect to be a great parent. You’ll learn to trust your instincts and feel more empowered in your choices. The goal isn’t to become a flawless parent, but to develop a sense of trust in yourself - knowing that you're doing your best for your child.

5. Experience joy and excitement again

It’s easy to lose sight of your own needs and passions when your focus is solely on caring for your family. The responsibilities can feel endless, leaving little room for the things that once brought you joy. Working with a coach helps you reconnect with your passions, set meaningful goals, and make time for yourself. Not only does this benefit you, but it also positively impacts your family. When you prioritise your happiness and well-being, you become a living example for your children. They learn from watching you that joy, self-care, and pursuing dreams are valuable parts of life.

Final thoughts

The journey of matrescence is beautiful but challenging, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Working with a therapeutic coach can provide the support, guidance, and clarity you need to navigate this transformative time with confidence and grace.