How do I choose a therapist?

In this article, we'll look at how to choose a therapist. I know this can be an intimidating process and we can feel out of our depth before even starting the search. But, fear not – the more you know, the more at ease you will feel embarking on this quest. We will cover where to look, credentials, gut feeling, parents and kids, and finally, a decision aid cheat sheet.


Where to start?

Make a start by asking around. These are three places to start looking:

  • family and or friends
  • GP and advisory services
  • online, search engines and directories

Lets' take a closer look at each one, weighing up the pros and cons.

Family and/or friends


  • unbiased and impartial opinion
  • first-hand experience – they can give you an idea of how the therapist works, how they helped, and practicalities like fees
  • a good place to start and open up the conversation of looking for help


  • not relevant suggestions for your needs
  • different preferences – suggestions given may not feel like a good fit for you
  • limited to what family/friends suggest

GP and advisory services


  • free advice and service
  • referral to appropriate service for your needs


  • less control over choosing your therapist or type of therapy
  • limited to free services in your area
  • long waiting lists

Search engines and therapy directories


  • information about the therapist (how they work, who they are, qualifications etc.)
  • is available for you to consider before making contact
  • Psychology Today and Counselling Directorycheck therapists’ qualifications and memberships
  • choose the therapist that you want to work with
  • complete control over the process


  • choice can be overwhelming
  • private therapy can be costly
  • need to be wary of unqualified therapists selling mental health ‘cures’ online
    posts on social media can be misleading and targeting people in a crisis looking for relief from their mental health issues

Therapist credentials

A recent BBC documentary highlighted issues surrounding the regulation of therapists in the UK. Presently there are no regulations around an individual using the terms ‘counsellor’ or ‘psychotherapist’. 

Registration with a regulatory body is voluntary for each of these practices. A regulatory body will have a minimum standard of qualifications, ethics to adhere to and a complaints policy.

Currently in the UK, art psychotherapists and practitioner psychologists (including clinical psychology, sports psychology, etc.) are the only two mental health therapies with protected titles. Their professions are regulated by theHealth and Care Professions Council (HCPC).

What does this mean?

  • Registration is not optional.
  • Art psychotherapists and practitioner psychologists are required to train in accredited courses.
  • Required to adhere to ethical guidelines set by theHCPC.
  • Private practitioners are committed to external supervision and continued professional development.

Gut feeling

As my brother would say, make the big decisions with your brain and then choose with your heart – except I am saying, go with your gut! As long as you have done your research and considered all the factors above, it's OK to trust your gut reaction.

Once you meet your therapist for an initial consultation or first session, check-in with how they make you feel.

Good signs:

  • you feel comfortable or at ease, even if it’s just a little compared to how nervous you were
  • you get a good feeling
  • you feel listened to
  • you feel safe
  • you feel in control of the process

Warning signs:

  • you feel uncomfortable and uneasy
  • you feel pressured to talk about difficult things at a rushed pace
  • you feel judged
  • you do not feel safe
  • you feel more like a case than a person

If you encounter any of the warning signs, you can either bring this up with your therapist to discuss or terminate therapy. Every client has the right to terminate therapy when they wish to.

Parents looking for their child or teen

There are some extra factors that a parent or teen may want to consider when looking for a therapist.

  • Choosing a modality of therapy that suits younger clients or families – for example, art psychotherapy or family therapy.
  • A therapist who can work with your family’s needs – for example, offering parental or sibling involvement in sessions.
  • Therapists that provide a follow-up service for parents to be aware of therapy progress and child’s needs.

Cheat sheet

No judgement if you have just scrolled to this bit! To summarise, I believe that looking for a therapist is like looking for a dentist or a mechanic.

First, you look at what’s available to you, who is recommended, etc. Then you check that they have credentials and good reviews. After that, if you are coming back to them, it is because you trust them to do a good job.

Here are some questions to ask yourself when choosing a therapist:

  • Are they qualified?
  • Can I see their credentials?
  • Can a trustworthy person or organisation vouch for them?
  • Do I feel comfortable?
  • Do I trust them?
  • Are they promising the impossible?
  • Are they making me feel uncomfortable?
  • Where are they operating from? Even if it is online, does it look like a professional set-up?
  • Would I recommend them to a friend?

Final thoughts

This concludes my tips to help you find the best therapist for you or your kids. If you have any questions you would like me to answer, please get in touch.

Over the coming weeks, I'll be sharing more articles that take you through the process of therapy – from knowing what to expect at various stages, all the way through to looking at aspects of art psychotherapy. Next up in this series, I'll be giving you an overview of what to expect in an initial consultation. Stay tuned for more!

Ciao, Juliette

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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