Zaharin Jabir

You may be the person everyone relies on. You appear capable, responsible and confident, yet privately you may feel exhausted, overwhelmed or unsure of yourself.

Perhaps you have spent years adapting to others, putting their needs before your own or trying to earn your worth by being helpful, successful or strong. You may find it difficult to say no, ask for help or take up space without feeling guilty. Underneath it all, you might quietly fear that if people saw the real you, they would not accept you.

Therapy offers you somewhere you do not have to perform, pretend or hold everything together.

Hi, I’m Zah. I am an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist offering online therapy to adults. I have a particular interest in supporting people who look as though they are coping on the outside but feel very different underneath.

My own experiences of responsibility, achievement, independence, loss and working in demanding corporate environments have shaped the way I understand emotional pain. I know how easy it can be to carry difficult feelings privately while continuing to meet everyone else’s expectations.

I also understand that the issue bringing you to therapy may not be the whole story. Anxiety, burnout, grief, low self-esteem or difficulties in relationships can sometimes be connected to deeper patterns: how you learned to gain acceptance, when you began putting other people first, or why being yourself has never felt completely safe.

How I work
I listen carefully, remember the details you share and notice patterns that may have been difficult to see on your own. Together, we can explore how your earlier experiences continue to influence your feelings, relationships and choices today, without reducing everything to your past or making the process feel overly clinical.

I will not simply sit quietly and agree with everything you say. I bring warmth, curiosity and compassion, but I will also gently challenge you when that could help you move forward. Therapy with me is collaborative: something we do together, at a pace that feels manageable for you.

This is not only about managing symptoms. It is about understanding what sits underneath them, reconnecting with parts of yourself that may have been hidden or neglected, and developing a kinder and more authentic relationship with yourself.

Over time, therapy may help you:

• Say no without being overwhelmed by guilt.
• Set healthier boundaries.
• Speak up and take up space.
• Become less self-critical.
• Make decisions with greater confidence.
• Step away from unhealthy relationships and patterns.
• Stop automatically putting everyone else first.
• Feel more comfortable being seen as you really are..

You do not need to arrive with the right words or a clear explanation of what is wrong. We can begin with what you are experiencing now and work from there

Taking the first step
Reaching out to a counsellor can feel exposing, particularly if you are used to dealing with things by yourself. I offer a free 15-minute introductory call so that you can ask questions, tell me a little about what brings you to therapy and get a sense of whether I feel like the right counsellor for you.

There is no obligation to book a full session afterwards. The call is simply an opportunity for us to meet without pressure.

If something in this profile feels familiar, you are welcome to get in touch.

You might come to therapy because of anxiety, grief, burnout, low self-esteem or difficulties in a relationship. As we begin talking, we may discover that something deeper is happening underneath.

You may have learned early in life to be responsible, achieve, remain independent or avoid burdening other people. These qualities may have helped you survive, succeed or feel accepted, but they may now leave you feeling exhausted, unseen or disconnected from your own needs.

I have a particular interest in working with adults who:

• Are seen as capable but privately struggle with self-doubt.
• Feel responsible for everyone around them.
• Find it easier to support others than to ask for support.
• Adapt themselves to avoid rejection or conflict.
• Feel selfish when they put themselves first.
• Have lost touch with who they are beneath their roles and responsibilities.
• Want to understand why the same emotional or relationship patterns keep repeating.
• Are ready to move beyond coping and understand themselves more deeply.

Our work can help you explore where these patterns began, what purpose they once served and whether they still reflect the life you want to lead.

The aim is not to blame your past. It is to give you more choice in the present.

A limited number of concessionary spaces may be available for students and people earning the minimum wage. Please ask about availability when you contact me.

ICO Registered,  Reference: ZB860279