Yasaman Ansari Tari

Perhaps you’ve spent years adapting to everyone around you, only to realise you’ve lost sight of what you truly think, need, or want. Or perhaps you’ve simply reached a point where you realise you cannot continue living in the way you always have. Often, that’s a sign that something within you is asking for change.

Over time, it can become difficult to tell the difference between who you truly are and who you’ve learned to be. Many of the people I work with don’t necessarily know what’s “wrong.” They simply know that something doesn’t feel quite right. They often describe feeling disconnected from themselves, unsure of who they are, or exhausted from constantly trying to meet other people’s expectations.

Perhaps you find yourself constantly seeking reassurance, changing depending on who you’re with, struggling to trust your own decisions, putting other people’s needs before your own. You may find it difficult to set boundaries, feel guilty when you prioritise yourself, or notice that your confidence depends on the people around you. You might have become so focused on who you need to be for others that you’ve lost touch with who you are.

Often, these patterns developed as ways of adapting to the people and environments you grew up in. At one point, they may have helped you feel safe, accepted, or loved. Together, we’ll understand where they came from, whether they still serve you today, and what it might look like to live differently.

As these patterns begin to make sense, many people notice they become less self-critical, more confident in their decisions, and more connected to who they are.

How I Work

My approach is psychodynamic, which means we’ll explore how your past experiences continue to influence your thoughts, emotions, relationships, and behaviours today. Together, we’ll make sense of these patterns with curiosity and compassion, so you understand not only what you’re struggling with, but why.

Alongside this insight, we’ll develop practical ways of responding differently, so the changes you make feel meaningful and lasting.

I believe therapy should feel collaborative, thoughtful, and tailored to you. My aim is to provide a space where you feel safe enough to explore openly, while also gently challenging the patterns that may no longer be serving you.

I understand that identity is shaped by many different experiences. You may have grown up between cultures, questioned where you belong, or wondered how your faith fits alongside other parts of who you are. These experiences can have a profound impact on how you see yourself, and where they’re important to you, they’ll always have a place in our work together.

You don’t need to arrive with an explanation or the right words. If any of this resonates with you, you’re very welcome to get in touch. I offer a free 15-minute consultation where we can explore whether working together feels like the right fit.

I work with a range of presenting issues, with a particular focus on: 

• A weak sense of self, identity confusion, and feeling disconnected from who you are
• People-pleasing, self-abandonment, and difficulty setting boundaries
• Seeking validation, chronic self-doubt, and difficulty trusting yourself
• Childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and attachment patterns
• Relationship difficulties and recurring relational patterns
• Anxiety, depression, and emotional struggles rooted in earlier experiences
• Intercultural, faith-related, and identity-based challenges

£75 per 50-minute session.

Sessions are held online via Zoom.

If any of this resonates with you, you’re very welcome to get in touch. I offer a free 15-minute consultation where we can explore whether working together feels like the right fit.