Ruth Reay M.A. UKCP Family and Couple Therapist
Following the lockdown I have been seeing clients on Zoom and find this a surprisingly focussed and useful way to work.
As we all learn to live in closer proximity with family members, or in more isolation , new fault lines are appearing and these changes can be stressful. I believe we are being given a unique opportunity to renegotiate healthier relationships and I feel privileged to be in a position to assist couples, families and individuals in achieving these positive changes.
With over thirty years' experience of working with couples, families and individuals, both in the NHS and in independent practice, I am used to working with a wide range of family constellations and am constantly surprised and rewarded by how all sorts of challenges and difficulties can be overcome.I have experience with school age children, teenagers, parents, couples, three generation families,seniors and individuals experiencing all sorts of worries and concerns.
My approach is to listen carefully and to open doors to different ways of viewing situations. Where there is conflict and anger I look for ways of channelling these into positive exchanges. Where there is anxiety and sadness we think together about the sources of these and look at ways of developing alternative feelings and behaviour.
I encourage conversations which lead to healthier relationships, including your relationship with yourself.Everyone experiences feelings of anxiety, disappointment,sadness,and worry from time to time; very often these feelings are linked to relationship issues, family loss or betrayal, or problems at work. When these feelings outweigh positive feelings it can be helpful to talk things over with someone outside your usual network.
I structure our sessions so painful feelings can be safely explored and you can leave feeling re-energised.
My consulting room is relaxed and secluded and is situated one mile from Taplow.I sometimes use exercises, homework and art materials but mostly we spend time reflecting together about your experiences, concerns and hopes.
Training, qualifications & experience
B.A. and M.A.
Initially I worked in Higher Education training Social Workers, then in the 80s set up and ran one of the first family therapy courses in the UK. As one of the first trainers I was able to achieve formal recognition through submitting evidence of my practice.
I worked as Consultant Family Therapist in Social Services and then in Child and Adolescent Mental Health in the NHS.
I have been in independent practice for the past eight years.
I have found independent practice most rewarding as people can access therapy at an earlier stage in their difficulties than was possible for those using the NHS.
Registered / Accredited
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UK Council for Psychotherapy
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Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£40 per session.
Lower fees can be requested if you are on a low income or have lost your income due to the pandemic.
As a Grandparent I am very interested in how families enable children to grow up well in the modern world with it's many distractions and stresses.
I understand how factors such as employment/unemployment, education,ethnic heritage, privilege and disadvantage impact upon family life. I have a lot of experience of working with different types of partnerships and know that all of them go through difficulties at times. In my experience seeking therapy in the early stages of such difficulties is more likely to lead to a good outcome than letting things drift.
I have experience of running parenting groups and feel I can support parents in the most important task of their lives.
I am committed to equal opportunities and am happy working with different sexual orientations, ethnic backgrounds,ages and religions.
I adhere to the ethical codes of the Association for Family Therapy and UKCP