About me
At The Connected Self Therapy, I work with people who are tired of pretending they’re fine. People who are thoughtful, capable and often outwardly “together”, but who feel anxious, disconnected, burnt out or quietly lost inside.
I don’t offer a polished, clinical version of therapy. I offer something deeper. A space where you don’t have to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or be anyone other than who you are in that moment.
My work is shaped as much by my own therapy journey as by my training. I know what it’s like to sit in the client chair, to feel exposed, hopeful, resistant and relieved all at once. That experience informs how gently and honestly I work.
I’m particularly drawn to working with sensitive, intuitive, emotionally intelligent people who have learned to survive by being strong, capable or accommodating. Therapy becomes the place where you get to soften.
My approach is relational, embodied and intuitive. We won’t just talk about what happened to you; we’ll pay attention to what is happening inside you now – in your body, your emotions, and the space between us. This is where real change lives.
I work integratively, drawing from EMDR, Compassionate Inquiry, embodiment and movement, NLP, holistic coaching as well as my other trainings. There is no formula. Each session responds to you, not to a template.
My practice is trauma-informed and deeply inclusive. I hold a strong commitment to anti-racism, feminism, LGBTQIA+ affirming practice and social justice. You will never be asked to minimise who you are to fit into a therapeutic model.
This work is not about fixing you. It’s about remembering yourself. Reconnecting to your truth, your boundaries, your aliveness and your capacity to feel safe within your own skin.
Sessions are warm, grounded and honest. Sometimes gentle, sometimes challenging, always respectful. I will walk alongside you, not ahead of you.
If you’re looking for a therapist who feels human, intuitive and deeply present rather than clinical or prescriptive, we may be a good fit.
Next Steps:
If you are considering therapy and want to see if we are a good fit, I welcome an initial conversation, I offer a free 15 minute discovery call. This gives us both a chance to explore what you’re looking for and whether my way of working feels right for you.
You can email me at:
pavan@theconnectedselftherapy.com
Training, qualifications & experience
- Accredited Member: British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy / Individual Member
- Training: CPCAB / Therapeutic Counselling Level 4
- EMDR Training
- Dance and Movement Psychotherapy Foundation Course
- Compassionate Inquiry February 2024 Cohort
- Brain Spotting Level 1
- Polyvagel Certificate Course
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£95.00 per session
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