I offer Counselling in Netley Abbey, Hampshire for Couples.
Counselling for Couples
Do you believe you are doing the best you can but unfortunately often end up experiencing repetitive cycles of hurt and misunderstanding? When couples enter my counselling room, they are often filled with pain and despair. They look to me, to address their conflicts, help them recover from distress and repair their relationships.
I will teach you how to overcome relationship barriers to connection, increase your competence as a couple and help you integrate a toolkit of evidenced-based interventions into your lives. Couple counselling will leave you feeling empowered to make lasting change in your lives.
The method of therapy I use is designed to teach specific tools to help deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship, manage conflict and to create shared meaning. I work with an integrative approach which is influenced by the Gottman Method of couple’s therapy. This method is founded on the research of Dr. John Gottman that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day.
The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. The method emphasises a “nuts and bolts” approach to improving client’s relationships. Couples very often come for counselling at moments of crisis and change; exploring these difficulties with your partner in a therapy setting can increase your understanding of each other's experience and your awareness of how you are relating together.
I will aim to help you see more clearly what your situation is and discover creative ways to resolve your problems. I will work with you and help you move towards, a rewarding, richer and satisfying life.
Counselling for Individuals
Counselling and Therapy can help you understand your problems, actively shape your life, improve your relationships and increase meaning and purpose. You could feel stuck in a life filled with anxiety, struggling for perfection, exhaustion and depression or just find yourself repeating the same patterns of destructive behaviour. Working with an approach that is flexible and respects your needs, we can work together to find a way forward.
Counselling is an opportunity to explore your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, physical responses and behaviour. I can work with you through a process of active dialogue and discussion, during which we can take time to explore the historical roots of the problem and find creative possibilities to help you move forward and make the changes that are most useful to you.
You can learn to experience your feelings and emotional states as sign posts and information. Feelings can be received and welcomed and assist you in your life journey. How we focus our attention shapes the structure of the brain, the counselling relationship can support you to focus your attention towards pathways of happiness and well being.
My approach is based on the belief that long term change occurs through a growing awareness and understanding of who you are. This awareness offers an opportunity for growth as you develop deeper self-awareness through the experience of being in the counselling relationship. Please follow the link above and take a look at my website for more information about how I work.
Training, qualifications & experience
Wpf Diploma in Psychodynamic Counselling :2005.
Re:Vision Certificate working with Couples: 2011.
Wpf Certificate working with Eating Disorders:2007.
Diploma in Hypnotherapy:2010.
BA(Hons) in Fine Art with History of Art:1987.
I am a BACP Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist. You can find out more about BACP at www.bacp.co.uk
I have been working with clients since 2003, both within an agency and private setting.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
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Areas of counselling I deal with
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I can also offer creative ways of exploring a deeper awareness of who you are.
Mindfulness is the act of deliberately paying attention in a particular way. This particular way involves bringing the attention back to the present moment and being non judgemental. So we become aware of the full range of experience including sensory impressions, thoughts, imagery, emotions, urges and impulses.
IPNB Interpersonal Neurobiology
Interpersonal neurobiology integrates a sphere of knowledge that includes an exploration of mind, brain and relationships. It invites you to explore yourself and others and highlights the insights of those who endeavour to understand the nature of our inner and outer realities.
With a brain and nervous system that is struggling to keep up with this westernized experience of living we can benefit from a deeper understanding of our bodies and minds.
Summary of How the Service Works: I work primarily with couples
You contact me by phone or email. Please feel free to ask any questions.
I will ask to speak to each of you and make appointments with you both to meet with me in Winchester for the Assessment sessions.
As quickly as possible we will begin ongoing work
which may take place over a shorter or longer period of time.
I use a framework based on the Gottman method of couples therapy
and a programme of steps that I have developed.
The assessment session for couples includes 2 individual sessions of 50 minutes
and 2 joint sessions of 80 minutes and cost £312.
Each couple session is charged at an hourly rate of £72 and
I ask that weekly sessions last for 80 minutes for which I charge £96.
My professional fees for on going counselling are as follows.
Individual counselling: £96 Session last for an hour and twenty minutes. Individual counselling is offered to clients who want to keep their relationship in mind.
I am able to see clients on Tuesday and Wednesday between 9.00am and 8.00pm for ongoing work.
1. You can fall back in love with the person you are already in a relationship with and you can help your partner fall back in love with you.
2. You have to know what you really want in your relationship to create what you really want in your relationship.
3. Like going to the gym working on your relationship can really hurt when you are doing it but in time you will feel better, stronger and happier.
4. You need to give yourselves time to practice new skills as you learn them. Research shows it takes 21 days of practicing a new behaviour to create a new habit.
5. Even one of you making a change can make a difference to your relationship.
6. Take note of all four of the areas of your relationship.
Mange Conflict/ Build Friendship/ Create Shared Meaning/ Plan for Relapse.
7. Start creating your personal House Rules and follow them.
8. Get back in touch with what you love about the person you fell in love with and be mindful of turning towards each other.
9. You must have at least five times as many positive moments as negative ones if you want your relationship to be stable. MAGIC 5:1 RATIO.
10. It doesn’t matter how many problems a couple face it’s the way they are handled that matters.