Melissa Noyce
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About me
If you’re feeling highly insecure, anxious, burnt out and finding yourself in a pattern of unhealthy relationships, then you're in the right place. If you’re constantly trying to control the ones you care most about, secretly hoping they won’t leave you may be struggling with abandonment related issues.
I’m Melissa but I'm usually known as The Abandonment Therapist. Welcome to my little space on the internet, it's lovely to meet you. There’s often a lot of shame and judgement attached to those who live with abandonment, which can make talking about it even harder.
How do I know all of this? Well, I myself have been abandoned and openly talk about my absent father on social media as a way of showing people like yourself, that you’re not alone, it’s not your fault and it’s okay to talk about it. Working with me will be met with a deeper understanding, which will help you to talk more openly about how you feel.
Abandonment can often feel quite complicated to explain because it comes with additional layers. I know it’s not just about your abandonment, but also how it’s impacted your entire family, with each family member dealing with it in a different way. You may have a sibling struggling with addiction in order to hide their pain, whereas here you are, choosing therapy to face it.
I can help you understand yourself better, so you no longer deal with things impulsively or repeat patterns you know, cause you harm. You’ll learn what boundaries are, how they feel for you and what you want yours to look like. I can talk to you about your abandonment in a way that doesn’t feel shameful and discover that what you’re dealing with is grief.
Next steps:
If you’d like to explore working together, then please send me an email to let me know. I will respond to you within a week about my current availability and if suitable, to organise a free 15 minute introductory call. There’s absolutely no obligation to make a commitment to working with me at this stage.
The call is a chance for you to elaborate on what you put in your email, to ask me any questions and to explore whether we’d be a good match to work together.
Regardless of whether you are estranged from one or both parents, your story is what really matters.
So, if what I provide feels what you are looking for, then bring yourself, as you are, even if you don't know what that looks like. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Feel free to take a look around my social media, I'm most present on Facebook and Instagram details of which you will find under the section 'Social' on my profile.
Training, qualifications & experience
Experience:
- 1 year within a drug and alcohol service, counselling men & women with alcohol addictions.
- 2 years within a young peoples service, counselling those aged 11-26 with a wide variety of problems. The most common issue was around parents divorcing.
- 5 years in a large acute NHS trust, supporting families at the time of a bereavement.
- 5 years in private practice, counselling men & women, with abandonment related issues. More specifically to those who have absent fathers.
Training:
- Wingwave Technique
- Anna Freud - Traumatic Bereavement: Working with Young People
- Working with Dissociative Disorders in Clinical Practice
- Working with Shame
- Rejection & Single Session Therapy with Windy Dryden
- Practical Tools when working with Neurodivergent Clients
Qualifications:
- BSc Hons Open Degree (Young people, Parenting & Families)
- DipHe in Humanistic Counselling (Gestalt)
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).
Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.
Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.
All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Abandonment
- Absent fathers
- Absent mothers
- Divorced parents
Therapies offered
Fees
£65.00 per session
Free initial telephone session
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Further information
As well as working with abandoned humans, I have also spent 5 years working at Southampton General Hospital as a Bereavement Counsellor. My time there allowed me to gain experience, knowledge and skills that have been fundamental in understanding how abandonment links in with grief.
