Martin Oakley. Humanistic Counselling & Psychotherapy for Young Adults & Adults
The Old Mill House
Are you struggling with an emotion or psychological problem? Would like things to be different? Is this problem new or been there for too long?
Unfortunately, because life can become very challenging and difficult at times. You may be one of those people, who’s personal problem keeps repeating itself again and again. A pattern that you recognise as the ‘same old, same old’. Either way, you do not feel right in yourself and longing somehow for things to change. Trying to talk to family and friends has been okay but it does not feel it is not enough for you.
Talking Therapy (whether Counselling or Psychotherapy) can help you make sense of your problem, issue or circumstances. This could enable you to see things more clearly and able to make important decisions that before may have been difficult or even seemed impossible. Seeing your choices in a new light, potentially helps smooth the way to a more contented life. Having someone to see things from your perspective and bring to your attention what is happening in your world.
I truly believe everyone has the inner strength and potential to make choices and changes for themselves. Given the right help and support that is needed. Therapy is about supporting people identify and understanding their own problems.
As an experienced humanistic therapist, I can provide you with a confidential, safe place for you to look at your problems and difficulties. I do appreciate Therapy is sometimes not an easy thing to do. It does take much personal courage and commitment from the Client as well as being in the right frame of mind to undertake this.
Just having the opportunity to talk to someone completely impartial who really listens, can make the difference for you to begin to move in a more positive direction of your own choosing. In my opinion, Therapy is more acceptable in this day of age because to what it can offer people. People I have worked with, have experienced this in their own way. However, what is fundamental to support your process is the therapeutic relationship between Client and the Therapist to providing a confidentiality safe place to explore the problem within a non-judgemental, empathic and warm environment.
As everyone is different, I use a blend of Counselling and Psychotherapy theories and techniques because in my opinion no one style approach fits all. This includes Transactional Analysis (TA) therapy, Gestalt therapy, Cognitive Behavioural therapy (CBT) and Person-Centred therapy. I also use a creative style approach, incorporating pictures, metaphors, two chair work, objects and drawing. This can allow you to express yourself in a different way that is still meaningful. I work very much with the unconscious part of the person. The part often that Clients do not connect with initially, that then helps and supports their inner understanding of themselves.
I work at Counselling Plus Community (CPC), which is a Counselling Organisation based in Hastings, working with Adults and Young Adults (16 years & above) with a wide range of problems and issues. I have been there for over seven years and work with referrals from GP’s, NHS, Health in Mind, Psychologists, IAPT and Clients themselves. I work & support SSOS (Survivors of Suicide Service) fast track referral service, where I work with people who are considering suicide or self-harm.
I am also experienced in working with Young People 16yo (+) with:
- low self-esteem
- relationship issues
- dual diagnosis issues (emotion/psychological trauma and substance misuse).
I have over two years experience, supporting IAPT (Improving Access to Psychosocial Therapy) in Group work with people suffering from stress & anxiety or depression using a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) style approach.
I have worked for CRUSE (Bereavement Counselling) for three years offering help and support to people trying to come to terms with their loss & bereavement.
I have experience working as the Dual Diagnosis Lead Therapist for an Organisation, working with people who suffer from a mental health diagnosis (eg: anxiety, depression, trauma, anger) as well as a substance misuse diagnosis issue (eg: alcohol, drugs, prescription drugs). I work in a way that explores the links between the two different (dual) diagnosis, to then identify the 'Relational Need' between them within the person.
In my experience, what I have found in a lot of people I have worked with, is that their substance misuse issue is often a coping strategy to hide their mental health issue (eg: emotional trauma, childhood experience, upbringing, relationships, negative self-belief). However, this coping strategy then has had an impact on the person and potentially family, friends, colleagues around them. By sensitively exploring the unresolved mental health issue, can have a positive effect on the person with their substance misuse issue. What Dual Diagnosis process does, is works with the whole person, not the individual parts.
What happens next?
Please remember, there is no obligation at this initial stage. However if you would like to find out more about the professional experience I have gained over the years in the way I practice, then please contact me. I will be happy to talk things through with you.
You can call me on: 07813 345224 or click here to send me an email.
Therapy Locations: Pevensey Bay, Uckfield and Eastbourne
I run my own private practice from my home, where I have my own therapy studio, living in a quiet part of Pevensey Bay. There is easy parking, as well as a local bus stop within a few minutes walking.
I also work from private therapy rooms in Uckfield Town Centre and Eastbourne Town Centre (see my website for details) These rooms are subject to availability.
I also offer for those who feel that they would benefit by having ‘HomeCare Therapy’ in Client’s own home. But this is subject to mutual agreement and suitability within my accordance of Ethical Guidelines and Framework for Good Practice.
New for 2018, I am offering 'Walking & Talking' Therapy sessions (see my website for details)
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Counselling & Psychotherapy. Accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy). I trained at Wealden Psychology College Institute (Crowborough), East Sussex.
ABC Certificate in Bereavement, which is accredited by CRUSE Bereavement UK.
In addition to my training, I am continuing my professional development by attending further training courses and workshops. Please see below course and workshops I have attended so far:
- Couples Counselling (Relationship & Sexual Psychotherapy approach)
- Couples Counselling (Transactional Analysis approach)
- CBT & Mindfulness
- ASSIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training)
- Working with Suicide and Self harm
- Working with the Client and Those Affected by Suicide
- Trauma and Recovery
- Trauma Counselling & Therapy
- Mindfulness & Relaxation
- Domestic Abuse
- Working with Resistance and Stuck-ness
- Imagery and Dreamwork
- Transactional Analysis (TA101)
- Creative Art Therapy
- Working with Groups
- Addiction & Dependency
- Working with Shame
- Working with Anxiety
- Survivors of Suicide
- Young People 16yo (+)
- Dual Diagnosis (Working with people with both a Mental Health and Substance Misuse Diagnosis)
- Pre-Trial Therapy (Survivors Network Training) (Working therapeutically with Victims of sexual abuse involved in criminal justice system)
I am a fully Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)
I work in accordance with BACP Ethical Guidelines and Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Behaviour problems
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Future Therapy Services available of working with Couples.
This could include:
- husband & wife
- girlfriend & boyfriend
- same gender couples/partners
- mother & daughter and/or son
- father & son and/or daughter
- brother & sister
- family members.
This also includes two very close adult friends experiencing simply issues but have a close trusting friendship but do not want to engage in therapy by themselves. (Please see my website for details).
'Walking & Talking' Therapy. For people who like the outdoors and also need therapeutic support (Please see my website for details).
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Individual Therapy: £40 per 60 minute session or £60 per 90 minute session
Counselling Student Therapy: £30 per 60 minute session
Couples Therapy: £50 per 60 minute session or £70 per 90 minute session
'Walk & Talk' Therapy: £20 per 60 minute session (see my website for more details)
'HomeCare' Therapy: £45 per 60 minute session or £65 per 90 minute session (see my website for more details)
I offer weekly sessions, fortnightly sessions or monthly sessions. This is subject to the nature of the presenting problem and mutual agreement with the Client.
I am flexible with sessions days and times. This is because I work with people who are are fully employed or have family commitments which means they have a changeable timetable due to other commitments in their personal or professional life.
Because I have other Therapy work commitments, I am only available for my private practice session for the following:
Monday: 8:30am to 8:00pm
Tuesday: 8:30m to 1:00pm (Not available after 1pm onwards)
Wednesday: Not available all Day
Thursday: 8:30pm - 5:30pm (based in Uckfield Town Centre)
Friday: 8:30am - 5:30pm (based in Eastbourne Town Centre)
Saturday: (Please call to discuss)
Sunday: (Please call to discuss)
[Subject to professional commitments and annual leave pre-booked]
Please contact me either by email, telephone or mobile (text) 07813 345224. I will then respond to your enquiry with in a couple of days (subject to being away on business or on holiday) to discuss briefly the nature of your enquiry.
We will agree an appointment between us to arrange an initial assessment session to discuss things in a little more detail. This will be totally ‘free’ and you are under no obligation to commit at this stage.
Please note, if however we are unable to work together for professional reasons, we will discuss options and ways of finding the appropriate support you need.
Once we have agreed to continue to work together, we will arrange subsequent sessions there after.
I am flexible regarding what I offer in terms of number of sessions, whether it is short, medium or long terms sessions. This will be subject to your needs and our professional agreement.
I offer both daytime and evenings sessions including some weekends (this is subject to availability). Please see section 'fee' for my days that I am available.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday: 8am - 8pm Pevensey, Tuesday: 8am - 12pm Pevensey, Wednesday: No Availability, Thursday 8am - 5:30pm Uckfield, Friday 8am to 8am Eastbourne, Saturday & Sunday (please call)
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|