Martin Oakley

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BACP (Accred) working with ADULTS (16 years+) and COUPLES
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Polegate, East Sussex, BN26
Available for new clients
Available for new clients

This professional is available for new clients.

About me

Online (Video Sessions): I am currently offering online video link (Zoom, FaceTime, WhatsApp, Skype video) therapy sessions, which has become a personal preference by Client's I work with

Telephonic (Phone Sessions): I am currently offering phone therapy, which has become a personal preference by Client's I work with

Face 2 Face (Therapy Room): 'NOT AVAILABLE

Are you struggling with an emotion or psychological or physical problem? Would like things to be different? Would you like the therapeutic space to help clarify what is happening and to then make sense of this?  

Life can become very challenging and difficult at times. Sometimes trying to resolving issues on our own, can feel impossible. Maybe personal problems keeps repeating themselves again and again. A pattern that you recognise but cannot break. Either way, you do not feel right in yourself and longing somehow for things to change or get better. Trying to talk to family and friends has been okay, but it does not always resolve deeper things in you. Talking Therapy (Psychotherapy & Counselling style approach) can help you make sense of your problem. Enabling you to see things more clearly, to make important decisions and choices. Seeing things in a new light, potentially helping a way forward, to a more enhanced life.

Having someone to see things from your perspective without feeling judged and bring to your attention, what is really happening in your world. This is what I do with Clients, I have had the pleasure of working with. I truly believe everyone has the potential to make choices and changes for themselves from within. Therapy is about supporting people identify and understanding their problems.  I also connect with the duality within the interpersonal relationship between psychotherapy and spiritual (Sense of Self) within the Client's process that attunes within them, to this style of concept approach.  To give themselves the permission to connect and express in a different way that is still meaningful. I work very much with the the conscious and unconscious part of the 'Sense of Self', which in my opinion is separate from the 'Brain Mind'.  This holds the self-empowerment often Clients are in search of, to then embrace fully the connection to their 'Self-empowerment' within, that then helps and supports their inner understanding of themselves within their process and the disposition within towards the external world.

As an experienced therapist, I can provide you with a confidential, safe place for you to look at your problem and difficulty. I do appreciate Therapy is sometimes not an easy thing to do. It does take much personal courage and commitment, as well as being in the right frame of mind.

Having the opportunity to talk to someone completely impartial who really listens, can make the difference for you to begin to move in a more positive direction of your own choosing. I work at the Client's pace and will not force them to explore things they do not wish to. To fundamentally support their process within the therapeutic relationship between Client and the Therapist to providing a confidentiality, safe place to explore the problem within a non-judgemental, empathic and warm environment.

As everyone is different, I use a blend of Psychotherapy & Counselling theories and techniques, because in my opinion no one style approach, fits all.

These includes;

Psychotherapy: Transactional Analysis (TA), Gestalt therapy

Psychology: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Development Attachment Theories

Counselling: Person-Centred Therapy.

Other: I also use a creative style approach, incorporating pictures, metaphors, duality work, objects and drawing.  I also connect with the duality interpersonal relationship between psychotherapy and spiritual (Sense of Self).

My Experience

I worked within a professional Eating Disorder Organisation, based in Central London, working with Adults and Young Adults (16 years & above) with mild to moderate eating issues and disorders from anorexia, bingeing, bingeing & purging to overeating, restricting, compulsive dieting, compulsive eating & exercising, weight issues (under or over weight) and general issues concerning unhealthy relationships with foods and junk foods.

I worked at Counselling Plus Community (CPC), which is a Counselling Organisation based in Hastings, working with Adults and Young Adults (16 years & above) with a wide range of problems and issues.  I have been there for over seven years and work with referrals from GP’s, NHS, Health in Mind, Psychologists, IAPT and Clients themselves.  I work & support SSOS (Survivors of Suicide Service) fast track referral service, (SARC) Domestic Abuse, where I work with people who are considering suicide or self-harm.

I am also experienced in working with Young Adults & Adults 16yo (+) & Above with:

  • depression
  • anxiety & stress
  • self-esteem
  • anger management
  • eating issues, habits, disorders
  • relationship issues
  • sex & sexuality issues
  • porn addiction
  • couples
  • childhood attachment trauma
  • dual diagnosis issues (emotion/psychological trauma and substance misuse).

I have over two years experience, supporting IAPT (Improving Access to Psychosocial Therapy) in Group work with people suffering from stress & anxiety or depression using a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) style approach.

I have worked for CRUSE (Bereavement Counselling) for three years offering help and support to people trying to come to terms with their loss & bereavement.

I have experienced working as the Dual Diagnosis Lead Therapist within The Prison Service (HMP) in Lewes, between 2010 to 2018 for an Substance Misuse Organisation (NHS mental health, IDTS, CRI, CGL, RAPt, Forward Trust), working with people who suffer from a mental health diagnosis (eg: anxiety, depression, trauma, anger) as well as a substance misuse diagnosis issue (eg: alcohol, drugs, prescription drugs). I work in a way that explores the links between the two different (dual) diagnosis, to then identify the 'Relational Need' between them within the person.

In my experience, what I have found in a lot of people I have worked with, is that their substance misuse issue is often a coping strategy to hide their mental health issue (eg: emotional trauma, childhood experience, upbringing, relationships, negative self-belief).  However, this coping strategy then has had an impact on the person and potentially family, friends, colleagues around them. By sensitively exploring the unresolved mental health issue, can have a positive effect on the person with their substance misuse issue. What Dual Diagnosis process does, is works with the whole person, not just the individual parts or personalities.

I am on-going researching in the work with Clients with mild to moderate Eating problems, Eating Disorders from a therapeutic approach only. However, I am not a qualified Nutritionist.  I professional feel that 'Food and Mood' or 'Mood and Food' often have an interpersonal relationships with each other.

What happens next?
Please remember, there is no obligation at this initial stage. However if you would like to find out more about the professional experience I have gained over the years in the way I practice, then please contact me. I will be happy to talk things through with you.

You can call me on: 07813 345 224 or click here to send me an email.

Please see my website; for information, latest news, session fees and contact enquiry form

Training, qualifications & experience

Practitioner Training for Eating Disorders (National Centre for Eating Disorders - NCFED, London)

Diploma in Psychotherapy & Counselling. Accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy). I trained at Wealden Psychology College Institute (Crowborough), East Sussex.

ABC Certificate in Bereavement, which is accredited by CRUSE Bereavement UK.

In addition to my training, I am continuing my professional development by attending further training courses and workshops.  Please see below course and workshops I have attended so far:

  • Couples Counselling (Relationship & Sexual Psychotherapy approach)
  • Couples Counselling (Transactional Analysis approach)
  • Practitioners Training in Eating Disorders (National Centre for Eating Disorders - London)
  • CBT & Mindfulness
  • ASSIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training)
  • Working with Suicide and Self harm
  • Working with the Client and Those Affected by Suicide
  • Sexuality
  • Trauma and Recovery
  • Trauma Counselling & Therapy
  • Mindfulness & Relaxation
  • CBT
  • Domestic Abuse
  • Working with Resistance and Stuck-ness
  • Imagery and Dreamwork
  • Transactional Analysis (TA101)
  • Creative Art Therapy
  • Working with Groups
  • Addiction & Dependency
  • Working with Shame
  • Working with Anxiety
  • Survivors of Suicide
  • Young People 16yo (+)
  • Dual Diagnosis (Working with people with both a Mental Health and Substance Misuse Diagnosis)
  • Pre-Trial Therapy (Survivors Network Training) (Working therapeutically with Victims of sexual abuse involved in criminal justice system)
  • Sex Therapy

I am a fully Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)
. End of 2018 I completed my BACP Accreditation.
I work in accordance with BACP Ethical Guidelines and Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

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Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

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Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
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Other areas of counselling I deal with

Specialised in 'Eating Disorders' Eating Disorders through the National Centre for Eating Disorders (London) 'I want to support you with your relationship with food, and to help you release the hidden suppressed emotions that want to be heard and acknowledged'.

Working with 'Couples' (Adults & Young Adults 16 years & above ONLY).
This could includes the following:

  • partners, civil partnership, married couple
  • girlfriend & boyfriend
  • same gender couples/partners
  • mother & daughter and/or son
  • father & son and/or daughter
  • brother & sister
  • family members.

This also includes two very close adult friends experiencing simply issues but have a close trusting friendship but do not want to engage in therapy by themselves. (Please see my website for fully details).

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£45.00 - £65.00
Free initial online session

Concessions offered for

  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors

Health Insurance/EAP

  • Aviva
  • Axa Health
  • Vitality

Additional information

Initial Consultation Assessment: £(Free) 30 minute video initial consultation session

Individual Therapy (Standard fee): £45 per 60 minute session

Couples Therapy (Standard fee): £65 per 60 minute session

I offer weekly sessions, fortnightly sessions or monthly sessions. This is subject to the nature of the presenting problem and mutual agreement with the Client.

I am flexible with sessions days and times. This is because I work with people who are are fully employed or have family commitments which means they have a changeable timetable due to other commitments in their personal or professional life.

[Please Note: Sessions are all subject to professional & personal commitments]

When I work

Please contact me, regarding availability

Further information

Please contact me either by email, telephone or mobile (text) 07534 598758, I will then respond to your enquiry with in a couple of days (subject to being away on business or on holiday) to discuss briefly the nature of your enquiry.

We will mutually agree an appointment for an initial (Free30) 30 minute consultation assessment session to discuss things in a little more detail. At this stage consultation you are under no obligation to commit at this stage to session.

I am flexible regarding what I offer in terms of number of sessions, whether it is short, medium or long terms sessions.  This will be subject to your needs and our professional agreement.

I offer both daytime and some evenings sessions during weekdays only (subject to availability).

Polegate, East Sussex, BN26

Type of session


Types of client

Young people (13-17)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
Employee Assistance Programme

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Martin Oakley
Martin Oakley