Marcus Santer - Couples Counselling Specialist
UPDATE: I am still offering face to face, in person, couples therapy sessions at The Manor in Dawlish.
Please visit the Covid-19 page on my website for full details of the services and availability of my work during this crisis - I'm here to support you.
I grew up in one of those classic British marriages and I understand both personally and professionally the impact of that life on my parents and their children. I don’t want that for you and more importantly I don’t want it for your children.
We can all do better and we have science-based solutions to your problems.
A teacher of mine once told me that:
“Marriage therapy is an incredibly difficult discipline to master. That’s why most therapists don’t specialise in it, in fact, most therapist won’t even do it. And yet anyone not specialising is a dilettante. It is so hard to get right that if you’re not wholly focused on it you will never be very good.”
That’s why I only do marriage therapy, I’ve been doing it for years, it’s all I do. There’s a reason for that. If marriage was easy we wouldn’t have a 52% divorce rate. If marriage therapy was easy we wouldn’t have a 52% divorce rate, seriously, I’m horrified by the approach lots of so-called marriage therapists take.
I specialise in working with couples in serious relationships experiencing serious problems, for example:
- Affairs and betrayals
- Separation and divorce
- Lack of love and support
- Sex and intimacy issues
I am a couples counsellor trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)?
You might not have heard of EFT so let me explain what makes EFT different to other relationship therapy models, here goes...
EFT was developed by psychologists Susan Johnson and Leslie Greenberg at the University of British Columbia.
Research studies have found that EFT is an effective treatment for distressed couples. More than 70 per cent of couples receiving EFT recover from symptoms of relationship distress; up to 90 per cent report seeing improvements in their relationship.
Over 25 years of research has documented EFT’s benefits to couples who are facing other challenges, including depression, sexual disorders, traumatic exposure, breast cancer and childhood illness.
EFT therapists are very proud of the research this model is built upon. We meet the gold standard from the American Psychological Association (AMA) perspective for evidence-based therapy.
Because of the science and research backing EFT, it's therapists can lean heavily on it. We not only have great outcomes - not just in terms of the percentage of couples who not only recover but are actually happier, more satisfied - but we also know how to do the therapy session by session.
EFT is more than a clinically proven approach, it offers couples a new experience of their relationship, one that provides renewed trust and a deeper level of intimacy.
One of the other facets of EFT that sets it apart is the level of linkage between 'in-session' change and outcomes is unusual in the field of relationship therapy. EFT works and is proven to be effective.
A lot of people do couples therapy without getting trained, a lot of couples therapy is offered without rigours research behind it.
If you want the gold standard of couples counselling...
Congratulations, you've just found it.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am registered with:
- International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (ICEEFT)
- British Emotionally Focused Therapy Centre (BEFT)
And I'm an individual member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
As well as being an EFT trained couples therapist, I've also taken Level 1 and Level 2 trainings with The Gottman Institute...
...Long story short...
Yes, I'm qualified and yes, I can help you.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Please visit the services page on my website for full details of the services and fees for my work:
Update: As well as Video Conferencing, I am still offering face to face couples therapy at The Manor in Dawlish.
I'm not one of those 'Jack of all trades' counsellers...
I'm a specialist and I'm constantly improving my couples therapy skills.
I only work with couples and I only practice couples counselling.